High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

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Yoohooo! Over here!

The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

Don't worry Softly - we're used to desperate around these parts!

Welcome

Can I have 11.16 on the screaming sweepstake please Raspberry? And I'll go 3:1 that my DS wakes before yours. Linky to the tiles? We've put the house hunting on hold until we sell ours so a bit of someone else's property porn would be lovely.

How did your day go Hilde?

Evening, Hilde I haven't but will thank you anything that might help, SIL is amazing but not infallible, how can they diagnose? From what symptoms?

I just got DD2 to sleep but she's up again 44 minutes later. Is it just me or do you dread going to sleep because being dragged out of sleep when you just nodded off, worse than just staying awake in the first place?

hi sorry no energy to catch up on thread...but just wanted to second to whoever said about checking for reflux - when dd got meds for her reflux it made a massive difference, she had silent reflux and it was only cos i had such a good hv that she got diagnosed.

its been one thing after another with us here. i separated from dh 2 months ago, dd had no teeth then and was 9 months. now she has 4 teeth - its been hard with her teething at night. then she had a chest infection. now, she has conjunctivitis. im shattered... i was minding another girl this weekend (part time foster care) and i just feel constantly run off my feet... dd doesn't sleep during the day much. so we ended up trying to walk, drive etc etc to get her over. not very cool when you are trying to entertain a 16 year old.

really hope her eyes clear up soon .... is there every any stability with children? lol it seems to pass from one phase to another, there never seems to be an easy bit where they just sleep through. well maybe a golden night here or there once in a blue moon, then they make up for it. then during the day she is full on... ican't get a minute. sorry for moaning. hope we all have a better night.

Right so I found you all, posted and then buggered off again. I've not managed to catch up on everything so sorry if I've missed stuff.

Hilde - sorry to read about the hassle you've been having with your H. It sounds like you've been through the mill a bit lately. How's DDs eating now?

Tickle - how did all the stuff with millpond go? Did it make a difference?

Joyful - DS is good (but still not sleeping). Hope things are good with you (despite sleep deprivation!)

Truth - hope your wedding day was awesome. I don't suppose there's any pics anywhere?

Jan - so sorry to hear that you've split with H. How are you?

Anyone I've missed or who I've not spoken to before - hello. Hope you are all good.

Ouch puddlejumper hope you get a bit of catch up!

Thanks to all I'm going to book DD into the gps on Monday, there is a new ridiculously young good looking Dr who sadly saw me 35 wks pg with allergy swollen eyes and a limp + no makeup on staff will aim for him and stamp my feet a bit, then do a mother glare if necessary to quail him into listening.

Welcome back How are you? The wedding was wonderful thank you. I haven't got any pictures on here I'm afraid. The dress worked out in the end though.

That night sounds great Hilde What's the secret?

I'm slowly realising that DS was/is high needs since having DD! he's 3 now, and still a VERY demanding non-sleeper. she on the other hand, is 3 months and a delight most of the time. He used to feed and/or scream 24/7, was never satisfied, wanted holding all the time, screamed or frowned at me from the pushchair. We were told by everyone that it was our parenting ('you need a routine!', 'formula!', 'leave him to scream!' - ha ha ha...).

but now we have a baby who sleeps sometimes, smiles, doesn't scream or feed constantly, we are thinking it was him!

now, is there a high needs toddlers support thread? :o

can't believe it's been so long since I visited you all!!! Trying to catch up, and welcome to all new mamas! Life in our house has been tremendously busy- but ladies, I'm so sad....
Ds is self weaning! He's 15 months now. It's too early. I've tried everything but he has just lost interest!! Working isn't helping as he's got so used to sippy cups etc, so no need for me. Up until last week, he still took a short middle of the night feed, but even that has stopped, and when I offer he smiles and shakes his head!! I've tried offering while asleep and he still won't.... Visited our local bf group today, but no suggestions, just other mums jealous that weaning was so painless ( for him that is) meanwhile I'm heartbroken!! Is there anything I can do < or do I just grow a set and move on?>

Completely!!

I'm not sure if my baby is high needs or just newborn (2 weeks old) but feel like I could do with the support either way! I Feel like all I do is sit with him on my boob, and when I put him down I'm anxious about every little sound he makes cause I think it's him waking up, I just want sleep

Thanks so much hilde! No i haven't been shown how to feed lying down, might be worth looking into do you think? Will definitely stick around