High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

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Yoohooo! Over here!

The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

Wow Truth that's great! :) Well done BabyTruth and MrTruth! That must be a bit of a weight off, knowing that it can be done :)

DS a little bit more like himself this morning. But he woke up at 5am. It's like the dark days all over again. We'd got into a really good routine for him, naps all sorted and a decent length, down to normally one wake per night, and up at 6.30/7am. Just got comfortable with that, and he changes things up again!

It could just be teething/cold, but I'm terrified of going back to those months that we spent starting our days at 4.45/5am. I really can't go back there...

Office day today, arse. Better go get ready. Hope you all have a good day.

Wow, things really have moved on haven't they Hildebrand? I hope it's all feeling positive. It sounds it

Hi, has anyone read Pantley's version of NCSS for toddlers? Wondering whether to buy it or not. I have the standard NCSS.

Or any other recommendations gratefully received.

(I've a 16mo and started reading up on high needs at 2mo, sears sleep book etc. Feel like I've tried "all the right things" but still searching for the elusive solution!)

Dribbler still dribbling Joyful - both from mouth and nose. He's in a funny phase at the moment (don't blame him really) but everything is upsetting him. Just now in the bath he started getting really upset as he couldn't balance a toy on the side...

Glad you had a good journey lady, have a good weekend!

Hildebrand so pleased that things are becoming more positive lady! Good on you, here's hoping the feeling of peace lasts a long time :)

Hello and help I think I have one of these :(

DD2 screams herself to sleep even when I'm cuddling her, she sometimes goes to sleep on the breast without crying but not always.

Formula makes no difference, she can't stay asleep more than 15 minutes without her eyes popping open. Night times are a fucking nightmare as she does max 30-45 mins in her cot before waking back up.

She didn't used to let me put her down at all, will now tolerate 30mins in a bouncer etc.

I'm losing my mind, DH is useless just moved into the spare room as he actually makes me more angry whining and my good sleeping toddler is becoming sleep deprived too and has moved herself out of my room!

I'm drowning

She's 4 months btw, HV has told me to wean.

This is night 2 of no sleep btw and I do mean no sleep . It's not like DD2 even wants to be awake she's exhausted and I can't help her.

I'm regretting ever breastfeeding as I wonder if that's part of a high needs attachment? Feel I've been selfish to her now she's so distressed.

Ok sorry hijacking but needed to offload.

Ahem apologies in the light of day that post looks a little desperate, may I start again please?

Hi I'm softly, have 2 DDs, an angelic but very forward 3 year old with the strops of a 13 year old and DD2 a very definite high needs baby, I'm now and normal honestly and there is no need to back away very very slowly :)

Joyful sil is a go and insists DD2 doesn't have signs of reflux as I thought that, what is CMPI?

Hilde I'm glad to hear your ff baby is the same, much as that's a bit selfish and I hope they improve! But it does set my mind at ease a little. It's just DD1 was ff after 8 weeks and sleeps perfectly so I can see parents, pils, DH and friends thinking I'm bringing it on myself by insisting on breastfeeding, so it makes me doubt.

I've tried pretty much everything so I suppose I just want to talk to people sharing my pain?!

Sil is a gp that should read.