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High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

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ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 26/08/2012 21:51

Yoohooo! Over here!

The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

  1. Feeds frequently daytime
  2. Feeds frequently nighttime
  3. Needs to be constantly held
  4. Wont sleep alone
  5. Hates the car seat/pram
  6. Short naps

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

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LittleWaveyLines · 17/09/2012 22:07

Sorry for the "poor me"s :)

Lovely to hear nice birth stories as well :)

Yes now DP understands it is a bit easier and I think he will make more of an effort - he had 1.5 hours of her being clingy before I got home - the first time she's ever been like that with him - so I think he "gets" a lot of stuff better now! Grin

Just to add another straw to the back, our arsey neighbours have their TV bass up loud again. I can tell they are iplaying Strictly.....

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Mitsouko · 18/09/2012 09:42

Little Wavey Lines so sorry to hear of your childcare stress and hope you can find a way forward with things. This has probably been suggested before, but is your cm any good with a sling? It sounds like you have an enviable collection! Would cm be amenable to slinging DD when she gets fussy? The body contact might be nice and soothing and help her settle.

I need to learn back carries soon as Babysuko is now 7.5 kilos!

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LittleWaveyLines · 18/09/2012 20:35
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LittleWaveyLines · 18/09/2012 20:38

Mitsouko - we did get a buckle carrier just for the CM to use when DD first went to her 3 months ago - and she did use it and found it useful, but then said DD was too big for her to even back carry (CM is very petite) and it wasn't being helpful anymore, so I've currently leant it out to a sling library. I might talk to the CM again though and let her try out the wompat buckle carrier that the Grandparents use....

I did think of it then just dismissed it but I should talk to the CM to see what she thinks. The wompat is a lot more comfortable than the beco butterfly we had previously given her to use....

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JemJar · 18/09/2012 20:55

Hi,

Sorry I have not been back here since first posting. Been on holiday to Dorset for a week which was lovely and before that was struggling lots with DS and not able to get time online.

Joyful, sorry things have been so difficult, it sounds exhausting. I hope the anti depressants work for you and the counselling waiting list is not too long. I pay for private counselling as GP list was too long as I have issues about DS's traumatic birth and week on SCBU and I really find it helpful, hope you do too.

Little wavey lines That sounds really distressing for you and DD. I hope you find a way of it working for you both very soon, not nice at all.

truth the impass sounds very tough for you guys to work through. Hope he changes his mind when sleep comes more easily and the fog clears. 10pm until 5.30am must have felt amazing :-)

unhappyhildebrand that sounds like a lovely sleep, hope he didn't make you pay for it the next night in the end.

Mitsouko That reaction sounds scary. hope it is something she grows out of very soon.

Tickle The text book 7-7 dream! Hope he has kept that up!

We are 6 weeks in to our hellish sleep time and DS is 5 months on thursday. Thinking it is not just a sleep regression/leap as he cannot settle himself ever bless him. Naps are only sling or car. If in the sling and walking outside then he sleeps fine and within a couple of minutes of putting the hood up, if at home then it is walking to get him off, then rocking on the glider with bum pats and white noise.

Going to sleep is generally fine now and he usually feeds to sleep at 6/6:30pm and sleeps until 10/10:30 occasionally 11 and then it is downhill from there. Last night he was awake and sobbing every hour from 6, gave him nurofen as think he was teething and he did really well and managed a 3 hour, then a 45 min monster feed pull off, jolt awake root etc... then a 2 hour then every half hour until Daddy came (sleep on the sofa during the week now) and took him at 5:45 until 7:45 thank goodness.

Some nights it is 30 mins-40 mins - 55 mins all night long :-( doesn't feed just dummy and pats most of the time. he makes the saddest face and cries until you pick him up and then he sinks in relief in your arms and is asleep within seconds.............until next time he wakes and can't settle........

Not showing signs of increasing hunger to make me want to wean early or think it would help really.

CC Is really not for us. Have read the 'no cry sleep solution' on holiday (oh the days when holiday reading was trash!) and am starting logs tomorrow.

Hope we all have good nights tonight x

JemJar · 19/09/2012 09:20

Horrendous night here and just wrestled to nap with sling/white noise/rocking/dummy after 4 hours awake instead of his usual 2/2.5.

He learned to roll yesterday after doing it accidentally a few times before. practised in the night and this morning and couldn't switch off.

Very cute but even my teeth feel tired today Sad

Had plans to see my NCT friends that I am not sure I will make now. Suggested lunch then sling walk round Epping forest (declined Westfield meet and pub lunch earlier in the week as too stressful with master mardy) but not sure I am safe to drive.

If one more friend suggests 'sleeping when he naps' I will scream. If he would be put down to nap do they think I would need telling??! and breathe x

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Mitsouko · 19/09/2012 13:45

Hi JemJar - sympathies and Brew

Your nights sound very much like my own right now. DD was 6 months last week and we've been having hourly wake-ups for quite some time. Nothing too new round here really though as sleep has been troubled since birth. First colic and reflux as a newborn until 3 months, then the 4 month sleep regression, now teething and who knows what else. It's hard. I only manage by co-sleeping half the night and having a very supportive husband.

I really need to stop peeking into other sleep threads because if I read another one where the OP is complaining about an angelic self-settler that sleeps through but wakes at 5am, or sleeps naps 3 hours in the day and sleeps 7-7 but wakes once in the night and takes a WHOLE HALF HOUR to settle I am going to lose it. I know it's relative, but just really, really Envy.

Sorry, am feeling a bit grrrrr today.

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Mitsouko · 20/09/2012 19:53

Joyful...4 days old, how sweet! Yes, you do forget how small they are. I've been organising today and boxed up some of DD's newborn babygrows...so tiny!

Raspberry...I forget how old Pesky is...please remind me? Babysuko is 6 months and also been pretty screechy and fussy today. Thinking teeth as her first one had just cut.

Wishing you all a restful night!

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MerseyMama · 20/09/2012 20:03

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