The my baby won't nap sign here thread?

[Zimm]

Helllo all,

Until recently DD (6 months) would only nap in her pram, this worked ok-ish. Now even this seems to be failing, yesterday I paced for 1.5 hours to get her to take a 30 minute nap. NOTHING gets done during the day as I am constantly entertaining her. Her night sleep was fantastic (8pm-6am, 6.30am - 8.30am!) but all went wrong at sleep regression and we now have anywhere between 2 and 6 wakings.

I worry about the lack of naps affecting her and making her miserable.

So please sign here if you too have a nap refuser, maybe we can share ideas or just support each while our houses descend into a cloud of mess, phone call go unreturned and exhaustion from street-pacing kicks in!

Zimm

Oh Zimm :( I'm so sorry. I had an hour of that at 2 this morning I know exactly how you feel.

Vix, so glad you got some good sleep. Zimm hang on in there.

RE the spider, this thing was HUGE. I would have left it but it was right above our bedroom door and I was worried it would disappear and I'd not be able to sleep (mind you not much change there) thinking it was in the bedroom. I was going to hoover it up (DP's suggestion when I rang him at work!!) but couldn't bring myself to do it so ended up scooping it up in a glass.

The really crazy thing is I had a dream last night that DD was playing with a huge spider...very odd.

DD has been napping on and off for an hour and a half - unheard of. (Although bloody movement sensor monitor alarm kept going off at one point due to bad positioning giving me heart attacks.) Thanks to all for this thread, I feel like I'm maybe starting to get somewhere although sure will all change tomorrow.

Zimm is she crying when she wakes up again or just wide awake?

Hello all,

We've had visitors for past couple of days so thought I should talk to them instead of MN-ing!

We have had some real progress here, he has had a cot nap each lunchtime with between 40-60 mins shushing, leaving, singing, etc beforehand, but then sleeping for up to 1.5 hours, which was unheard of a week ago.

Last night he slept from 7pm to 3am, had a feed, went back to sleep until 6am. I was still knackered so brought him into our bed for a feed, just as I was getting my boobs out he fell asleep! Until 9am!!!

Took him for a walk at about 10.30 in the hope of getting him to nap in the sling, but think it was too windy. Got him home and thought that he looked sleepy so would try the cot and.... within 10 minutes he was asleep!!! That was 40 minutes ago!

I feel like a new woman. Am so glad Zimm that you started this thread because it really has kept me going. Keep at it, I am sure the message will get through to your DD soon.

Great to see that everyone is having some kind of success. zimm you had quite a good night (better than mine!)

This thread is brilliant for being able to track that because the days (if you are like me) just blurr together and its easy to get down and feel like you're going aroudn in a circle.

Last night not brilliant for me in terms of night wakings - we were out until late. But at least I can settle her with a bit of shush pat and a cuddle and not presenting a boob.

Bed 9:30
Awake: 11:30 (settled fast) 2:00 (feed) 4:00 (settled fast) 6:00 (settled fast - I hate early mornings and she was down on her sleep) 7.15 up for the day

The big triumph for me is: Long naps (not 40 mins as per the last 8 wks) I had 5 hours of naps in total yesterday!!!! 2.15 hrs; 2 hrs and 40 mins. Maybe a bit too much?? But we were going out for the eve so I thought it was good. Today we had a 1.5 hr morning nap so this is 3 days in a row with decent length naps.

Also, for the last 6 sleeps (not including night wakings) I have done my routine, put baby to bed relaxed and awake, tucked her in and left the room and she has gone to sleep. This I only dreamed off 3 weeks ago.

I think this ability to self settle will in turn benefit the night wakings - I'm hoping anyway.

Keep going everybody and be prepared for regression just when you think you have cracked it - for me day 5 and 6 after making improvements were worse than ever.

BTW - how old is everyones baby? I've lost track but think around the same age?

Mine 21 wks tomorrow.

20 weeks tomorrow

28 weeks...good to see some success storeys here.

Geordiegirl - she is awake and crying :-(

2nd nap fail of the day.....Started screaming as I was rocking her :-(

Ooh sedgiebaby that's so interesting what you said about regressions. We had very rough days on 5 and 6 and I didn't know why!!!

18 weeks tomorrow.

I am sending you good napping vibes, Zimm and hoping things improve.

DS is 6months.

So after a RUBBISH night, he went for a nap at 9am till 10am.

Then managed to get another nap at 3pm -4pm

He's in bed now and I am PRAYING TO THE GODS - ANY GOD that he sleeps better than last night.

Zimm I'm sorry you are struggling - I keep telling myself things will get better. I hope they do for you too :)

Thanks Imisssleep. So today I tried to put her down at 9 after 1.5 hours up - almost managed but no dice. I then wheeled her around town - no dice. eventually she fell asleep whilst having a BF in local shopping centre feeding room By some miracle I got her back into her buggy awake and she slept for about 50mins, most of that stationary which is a result (non-motion nap!). Tried for a cot nap again in the afternoon - no dice. So we snuggled up in front of TV and she Bf'd to sleep on me and I left her there. About 40 mins. Was a lovely cuddle and I was forced to put my feet up. So not all bad.

Went to bed at 7.40. Fed to sleep. I am in the spare room tonight (first time we have been forced into separate rooms since she was born) and DP is under strict instructions to resettle her at the 2am wake up without getting me up for a feed. She is waking regularly at 2am and 4.30am and I know she's not hungry, she just wants to feed back to sleep. So if I go to bed at 10 I should get six straight hours - whoop!

Zimm I will think of you (at 2 am)
Enjoy :)
I wont feed now if it has been x many hours since the last, as she can quite easily go long periods in the day and if I feed her more than once at night, there is no breakfast sometimes until 11am. I felt mean for it, but it was the right thing to do, she's def not going hungry.

Your plan for tonight sounds like a good one, hope it goes well. DD also waking usually 2:30 and 4/5 ish - the night before last I think she settled without a feed at 2:30 so trying to remember what we did! Will look back through this thread :)

Yay I'm not alone!! Dd is 5 months and doesn't sleep in the day. Ever. She will have ten min on my shoulder that's it but she does sleep 12/13 hours at night which I know is v v v lucky esp as my son didn't sleep that, well still doesn't and he's just turned 4! It makes it so hard to do anything though and I feel terrible that ds doesn't get quality time with me.

When ds was 5m if I'd have read this I woiuld have thought 'ungrateful cow' because dd DOES sleep v well at night but still, its frustrating!!

Theunmentioned have a look back at Vix's early posts if you haven't already - I have been following her tips this week and have seen a HUGE improvement in the napping capabilities of my DD!

Morning Ladies

Hope you all had a good night, mine was as follows:
7:30pm - bed
12am - feed
3:30- dummy (bloody dummy, wish I'd never given him one! Lesson well and truly learnt!)
5am - feed
7:30am - up

Not too much of a bad night, he didn't wake up at all between 7:30 - 12 so that was nice. Me and OH actually watched a movie from start to finish. That's usually unheard of!
Got a busy day today so I'm not sure where naps are going to fit in, Will make sure he has one at about 9am, well I'm going to try!
Zimm I hope you got some sleep, makes such a difference.

theunmentioned you are very lucky he she sleeps so well at night!! I am massively jealous!

Sorry correction -

theunmentioned you are very lucky she sleeps so well at night!! I am massively jealous! Was obviously still a sleep this morning!!

Well he is currently screaming about having to have a nap, OH is dealing with him.

His crys are more over tired crys than anything else. He'll go to sleep soon, I hope

Morning all - pretty good night here:
Bed about 7:45pm after a couple of mins protest
Feed at 12:30am
Feed at 4:00 ish
Wide awake at 7:00 ish - DP took downstairs
Feed at 8:15 ish then fell asleep in bed with me so transferred to cot and has been napping on and off since

Zimm how was your night? Hoping you got some good zzzs.

Morning ladies,

Well I feel very refreshed today! DD to bed at 7.40, me to bed at 10. Oh dealt with a 2,30am wake-up, rocked her back to sleep fairly easily he said. But her next wake-up was at 3,50am, when he got me because she was hungry...so it looks like she does still need a nightfeed, but just 1. So need to work out if OH keeps settling her at 2 in the hope she pushes the feed back herself or if I feed at 2 and Oh settles her at 4 in the hope she drops that wake-up...(she has been waking at 2 and 4.30 for weeks now). I think we'll push on with him settling her 2 for as long as he'll stand it (he does need to be fairly switched on for work) as I would ecstatic if she dropped that wake-up.

Re naps - well she had 30 mins on me at 9.45am, so I am thinking this is the time of her morning nap and I should try and get this one in the cot. She will be taking her other naps in the buggy today as we have lots to do and i will re-tackle a cot nap tomorrow - after such an abject failure yesterday I need a day off.

But a 5.5 stretch of sleep plus another couple on top of that has worked wonders for my mental health!

Great news Zimm - keep the OH doing his bit!

We are currently trying and (apparently) failing to get a cot nap in - he fed to sleep on me, woke up when I moved, fed to sleep on the other side, so obviously tired - and has been awake in his cot fighting sleep ever since! We're at the grizzly stage now, DP v worried cos rugby is about to start and I need his help today!

This sleep thing is all very tiring.

Haha, he fell asleep just before kick off, little monkey!

Great news Zimm and nice timing Beela!

Well done zimm

I had a terrible night.

Naps appear to now be nailed. That is to say I'm on day 4 of longer naps (not 40 min only as per last 2 months) and I am putting dd down awake and not coaxing her to sleep. The relief of no more fighting her down for naps (taking as long as the nap itself) is great. In fact this morning, I put her to bed with the hiccups and singing away, kissed her 'goodnight' and closed the door and in minutes she put herself to sleep = priceless.

however my nights have gone to the dogs :( not that they were great before, but I had multiple night wakings between 8pm and 2am, I actually lost count.

Someone tell me that self-settling is going to benefit the nights too?