TECH, please can we have a facility to hide posters who...

[PestoLovelyMonster]

we feel have very offensive names?

I don't want my dcs looking over my shoulders and seeing certain nicknames and asking what they are.

Thank you please

I agree with pesto.

Not so much wrt dc, yes this is really a site aimed at adults I guess. I get that and am not easily offended. Live and let live.

I'm just not sure how to have a convo when the person I'm talking to may have an overly aggressive/offensive name. Also names like that, to me, do not sit comfortably in some threads where the subject might be serious or sensitive.

But I suppose it's hopelessly 1950's to object in any way shape of form, so I'll get back to my Woman's Weekly.

This site is for adults.

It is up to you to supervise your children IMO.

Too many rules will ruin the site.

QS: They might go and form their own identities based on names they see on mumsnet.

Seriously?! I think not and if so then I would do more worrying about why mumsnet usernames featured more highly in my child's life than umpteem other more 'appropriate' things that should such as being a child and doing childish things.

Personally think it's great that there is not so much censorship on here. Hiding posters wont work, threads wouldnt make sense?!

It is not just children who take offense.

I do too.

I dont want to see it.

So, mumsnet can EITHER not allow really rude names, or give us the power to hide posters we dont want to see.

itsmeolord and hullygully and the rest, this means you can see whatever name you want to see, and I dont have to see the ones I dont. It shouldnt bother you at all, as nothing need to change for you.

reality - don't be so bloody patronising.
MightyToosh - thank you for elegantly summing upwhat has been going round my head...

Sorry [snort] was to hobbgoblin pointing out my ambiguous grammar.

But there are people now saying they don't want to see fuck in a MN name either. Well, if the majority find it offensive I will alter it. I like MN and I get lots of support and give the best advice I can. I don't want to offend and alienate people over something as small as a fuck in my name.

We are not netmums.

Don't go on here while your kids are watching if you think they are old enough to read but not old enough to see swear words.

Simples.

I'd vaguely prefer that posters not have posting names with swearing in, but that's for the protection of my own delicate sensibilities . I have no intention of letting my DCs read MN over my shoulder as (a) it's MINE and (b) much of it is unsuitable even if all the posters were named IckleFluffyBunnikins. I wouldn't want sweary names banned, though -- I think we are adult enough to self-regulate on here and there are only a couple of posters who use them as a long-term posting name (and my delicate sensibilities can cope with that).

Actually there is a tech solution for hiding offensive names in front of your children.

Basically you have to go to the little icon in the corner of your screen and click on SHUT DOWN, then turn off the computer.

Better?

Surely, as you are all talking about one poster, you could have asked that poster if she would consider a namechange. Rather than having a bitch at her on one thread and then bringing it onto another new one.

I am going to expand a little on what TsarChasm is saying.

When somebody is fecklessly twirling around on threads dishing it all sorts of opinions and advice, with no regard to his or her inappropriate name, I worry that such posters may skip merrily onto a DV support thread, and cause some distress.

I can take being flamed for the above.

I would prefer not to have any kind of censorship. And I love the way that MN lets us Reclaim The Cunt -- I mean get the word back from its horrible misogyny and use it as a source of affectionate fun.

No No No.

slippery slope of censorship.

No Fuck in names, leading to no shit in posts, leading to no bollocks, no arses and no buggery.

where does it stop? are some words offensive? who gets to choose?

itsmeolord - the poster who may be the root cause of this is mighty proud of her oh so clever name, and finds it amusing.

Agree with OP

No Censor ship is fine, and in fact ideal. But that requires posters to be smart enough to censor themselves, somewhat. That is what self moderation is.

Look, isn't there a grownup way to deal with this?

A while back a lot of people made the point that they disliked seeing swearwords in a thread title because it jumped off active convos and made it hard to avoid seeing.

A petition thread was started tdlo ask people to stop doing this and, by and large, they did.

Why not just start a thread requesting people to self-censor a bit more and see what happens?

Personally I find half the world starving to death a little more offensive than a word that for some bizarre reason has been designated "swear." And I can't believe that people still find "cunt" the most offensive of all. What is so hideous about a word for vagina? Really?

Really? I thought she chose it because it amused her after another thread and then had to defend it after someone started a thread where people piled in to snipe about it.

So what if she finds it amusing. A name cannot physically harm anyone. It doesn't jump out of the screen and bat people over the head.

totally different to swear sometimes in threads...but to have an offensive name, (and the "C" word is still very offensive imo) is wrong....this is an adult site, but so what..? i find it offensive.

hullygully, hypothetically, you think vagina whacker is better?

QS you are clever and erudite...

I'm quite interested in the argument that adults here find it offensive. I am not one of those adults. Clearly some adults are actually offended but certain strings of letters forming certain offensive words - generally referring to genitalia or coitus.

Question: Does the sight of the above (genitalia and sex) also offend? Do those in couples jump into bed naked and shout 'ready' to their partners just in case they catch a glimpse of any thing that the swear words in question might conjure up image wise?

Do such persons not have mirrors above their beds then as I once did in a weird Art Deco house I lived in? I found it quite intriguing but then I say Fuck and don't care if my mind races away with me and conjures up rude and offensive images.

People, what's to actually GET offended about?

No, I just genuinely don't understand why people find cunt offensive.