is there a moldies part three?

[Tortington]

just wondering, as i can't find it.

Moldies en mass are not 'utter bitches' for leaving out custy, sorry, but no. If custy set up meetings then she did it becasue she wanted to. She shouldn't be asked to join any / all splinter groups becasue she set up meets.

I also heard that Bob, Steve and Algy were troilists, although they said they were looking for their balls.

It was an interesting post, Prufrock - the inference that Rhubarb or Custy (or other non-Moldies) have done something unpleasant is not a nice one.

And can I repeat to Rhubarb - So I'm not invited to join golf club but am told about it and told I won't be invited. Is that supposed to make me feel better than not being invited and finding out about it anyway?

So I shagged someone's husband once did I? I sure wish I could remember it!

Come on, out with it. What DID they do? They can't have been worse than Cod?

Prufrock - So Custy & Rhubarb's big crime was to talk/post about other MNers?

("In fact, he's so hurt by all of it that he starts flirting with every golf club members wife, but still can't understand why anyone would possibly have a problem with him, because that's just how he is.")

Rhubarb - I don't understand this what you've said here:

"Yes true, but some of them were rl friends, such as eekareinder to me and for custy, well she set up lots of local meet-ups and thought many of those were friends as she saw them so often".

Am hoping you are not getting me confused with one of your RL friends?

I am not a moldie. I have been wholly scathing of the whole concept from the start and if I had been invited I would have turned the invite down. And I'm quite proud of that fact.

I did wonder why I hadn't had "the call" as I am more than passing acquaintances with one of the founders in RL. But we have occastionally talked about Mumsnet, as you do, and she knows I am not a prolific poster or that heavily involved in Mumsnet life.
I guess I prefer to think I didn't get an invite because she knows I would have replied "You what? are you kidding?" rather than anything lacking in my personality.

So I thought the same might apply to you and Custy.

Thats all.

MNHQ I really do not want to see private boards or rooms and would leave i such a thing was created, they would become covens of bitchfestness.

Mumsnet is a fabulous place and part of that is because everyone is as good as their last post, I have spoken to , taken advice from and met up with all sorts of people some of whom I would gravitated to naturally if I had met them in RL and some I would never have crossed paths with. Mumsnet's strength is the fact it is nothing like the moldies group and nor should it want to be? Why should we change what we have, which is quite fab, to chase after a group of people who have made it quite clear they would rather be somewhere else. Or conversly a group of people who like to post in both places so a second private elitist place would be of no interest.

WHAT DID THEY DO?

If Custy, or anyone else, had lots of run-ins with people on moldies, if she did, then why on earth would she be invited to join? And why then would anyone think we'll tell her it exists but we won't be inviting her?

I have never shagged anyone's husband btw. To stay within the pub and golf club analogy, all I have ever done is once say something a little insensitive to Algernon and I apologised in private to Algernon and my apology was (on the face of it) accepted. I may have disagreed with other members of the golf club, but not on a scale to warrant being blackballed from the golf club and I strongly refute any suggestion that any offence I caused was on a par with shagging someone's spouse. Jeez!

Err...sorry, if i organised something for a load of other women and met up with them on a regular basis and then they left me out I think thats spiteful and yes...utterly bitchy.

And it makes it sound like Custy and Rhubard have shagged someones husband.

If so - then the husbands obviously were not happy were they?!

It's not an inference but a fact that both Rhubs and Custy have had some major rucks with other posters on here. And some of those posters happened, randomly to be on Moldies before R&C. And because nobody wanted to make a value judgement on who was right and wrong in those rucks, the ones who were there first had to take precedence. Not perfect, but the best solution that could be thought of at the time.

Well twinset, we don't think private groups have to be bitchy or elitist - they can be really useful and fulfil very specific needs - eg the special needs one. But will start this in site stuff as it's a whole new discussion. Maybe in a wee while though, as we're nowhere near setting anything like that up...

Having a disagreement with them is very different from implying that they did something unsavoury though, which is what your post did.

Twinset you are completely right. Everyone is as good as their last post.
And your last post was rubbish
Sorry I could not let that one go....

I agree, Twinset - private boards would be completely contrary to the Mumsnet ethos.

Actually I agree with you twinset. I have got alot out of mumsnet and as a dad think it's marvellous.

I can just about see the justifiation for the SN one as one does exist and although I have never visited it I get the feeling it is not bitchy and elitist.

But beyond that I am not sure tbh and feel it is very open to being abused and cause exactly the same hurt s mouldies.

Thans BigGitDad

This is like one of those 'my child didn't get invited to the party'threads.

you obviously missed "They also don't want to upset Bob, especially as some of them still like him, and you never really know exactly what goes on in relationships, and Algy's wife might have had a good reason to shag around"
And the fact that I don't necessarily think infidelity is an unspeakably bad thing in all circumstances should be known before reading.

The joy of mumsnet is that you can get drawn into something that would not naturally interest you (like this thread) and either learn from it or help someone else.

Private rooms sounds like members of the family hiding away all over the house watching different crappy sky channels on a portable. Much nicer to be gathered around the fire listening to the wireless toasting marshmallows.