is there a moldies part three?

[Tortington]

just wondering, as i can't find it.

i googled moldy and got some weirdo canoeists blog

strangers always welcome? I don't think it can be said that newbies have always been welcomed with open arms on mn. People who are not recognized are often ignored/accused of being trolls and yet if a regular posts the same opinions on the same threads the response is vastly different.

this is useful

i agree wannabe. i don't know what the solution to that is tbh.

the irony of it all though is that some of the aggrieved parties in narniagate are now moldies.

how the shoe fits on the other foot.

That is true wannabe, but a lot of those who did that, have now buggered off to Moldies.

Anyway, I think it's up to us now to move on and forget about it all.

Bygones and all that!

I've lost some good Mumsnet mates because of this, one just 10 mins ago.

link to the moldies forum

I agree, Rhubs!
Proper apology without irritating ifs/buts/denial/self-pity would be a welcome gesture.

I think ?not narnia? meant ?do not slag of Mumsnetters?

'strangers are welcome' - it means the doors are not closed, it is not invite only, you dont have to know someone who goes the pub to be able to go there too

what is narniagate....

Apparently you can't lose anyone on Mumsnet, just so you know.

I am orf for a 6 week sabbatical today (NOT a flounce, just a rest) and feel the need to round up my contribution to Moldiegate before I go.

I've been following the story since the very start. I witnessed Twig's "Fuck you" comment to MNHQ and Justine's two (count 'em) very deliberate references to the Moldies in response and the resulting mayhem as it all unfolded. I've posted on and off as well.

To Custy and Rhubarb can I suggest this: perhaps you were vetoed by the Moldies because the Moldie consensus was that they thought you actually wouldn't want to be a part of it? That they had an idea of your likely reaction to the notion of an elitist private board and decided not to insult you by inviting you? Or indeed to protect themselves from your scorn had they suggested such a thing to you?

I can imagine that to be the case and wondered if you had ever considered it? Perhaps I should have cat'd you as its personal but as I'm trying to get away from this place for a while I hope you don't mind me posting this here for all to see.

eeka, if that were the case it would be very nice for those Moldies who vetoed Custy to clarify this to Custy themselves, rather than leaving her wondering who they are and why they did it.
I do think that whoever did this should have the grace to contact her. At least that way she would know which of the others are still her friends.

Fairlady, do you really want to know about Narniagate?

I am not sure...but well...I have never heard of Narniagate...not usre if I have missed out on something ...was it all very secret, too?

phew, I am not the only one than....

Thank you for your posting.

Yes, I had considered that, but I also wondered that if they did see that as a likely reaction, did they not also consider that once it did get out - feelings would be very hurt?

This isn't, as many think, just about me or Custy not being invited or indeed the site being there, it's the way in which it was done - do you not understand that?

Why did they not just come out and be open about this site? Explain it as ggg did to me, that it's a place of safety for some Mumsnetters to talk about very personal things? After all, we know that fb exists. If they were honest about it from the start I really don't think this would have happened.

It was the secrecy and arrogance of it all that made it all the more controversial.

Do you not get the golf club analogy?

I'm sorry you feel as though you have been got at and your friends have been got at, perhaps that should make you empathise more with some of the Mumsnetter's comments?

It's a shame friends are being lost here. I would like to think that I can safely disagree with custy, even slag off some of her rl friends and it would not affect my friendship with her one bit. But because I am opinionated I have paid a dear price.

If I feel something is wrong then I have to say so. If that turns you against me then so be it. I have apologised enough about this topic, yet I don't feel as though I am the antagoniser here.

I hope you can make the break from Mumsnet and I wish you all the very best. Yes I wish you had been honest with me, but I would never dwell on that and the door is always open should you wish to ever continue the friendship we had.

In a nutshell, some MNers found that they could post on a deleted thread and when they did, it didn't show up in active convos. So they called it the "Narnia" thread. Some bitching was done there about other MNers and the other MNers found out and were very upset.

Fairlady, narniagate was the discovery that you could google a deleted MN thread and still post on it, yet it would not show up in active convos.

This was used as a slagging off board by some Mumsnetters - the rule was that you had to slag off a Mumsnetter to enter. It was discovered and you can imagine what happened.

As usual, I had been one of the first to be slagged off because I dared to have a contradictory opinion on Mumsnet.

Flight! (Bet you are still reading!) - I used to live in Ewell! Still own a house there in fact.

How interesting chipmonkey....and well, if bitching was done on the thread , well, not surprised people were hurt....

x-posted...

I have a suggestion:

Rather than seething and waiting for an apology that won't come, how about seeing & accepting that these people are not really your "friends", that they never were, and that you were all strangers corresponding on the internet?

Yes, such treachery would hurt if it happened in RL, but it seems a bit of an overkill to suffer so much heartache over the behaviour of some faceless strangers on the internet.

(Just my two Euro centimes)