If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

[YetMoreTech]

This thread is a continuation of this one. That one had become too big for its own boots the system to handle.

[Rhubarb]

I entirely agree with controlfreaky. I thought I could get over it, I honestly did. Lord knows I did try!

But the irony of them telling us how to improve Mumsnet is just all too much.

I feel that I can't trust anyone. I feel that I don't want to talk about my family because I don't want people reading personal info about me, knowing that they can go away and post in their own little safe environments.

I don't know if they will be recruiting anymore Mumsnet members. I get the feeling that they will wait until the dust has settled and then start sending out invites again.

I think it's actually upset me more than I had realised. So I probably shouldn't post anymore on the subject until I feel more able to deal with it rationally.

It would have been better if they had acknowledged the hurt they had caused and apologised. But there has been none of that.


On the upside - I did try to get to see a GP about my bot, but there were no laaaadies available and I'm sorry but I ain't showing my arse to a man! (I could never go in for bumsex!) However I did call NHS Direct and they were very nice and said I would prob only be prescribed a steroid cream anyway. So I have been shoving ice cubes up my bot and it has definitely shrunk!

[BALD]

Rhubarb I cannot let that last post go unchallenged

I for one aplogised for the hurt caused, shame that you have forgotten that in your festival of moldie bashing

[Rhubarb]

I'm sorry, I never saw apologies. In fact I don't even know who you are, so apologies again.

However you were not one of the posters I was thinking of. Can I ask, and you don't have to answer, but have you now left Moldies and if not, why not?

Like I said, you don't have to answer.

And I'm not bashing, I'm being open and honest with my feelings. I'm not personally attacking anyone here, just sharing thoughts with others equally affected.

[TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench]

I have nowt to say on this subject, but seem to be VG at killing threads atm

And that's why I am posting here

[Flihgtattendant]

It's fair enough to let it all out rhuby.

But there were quite a few apologies from various people, saying sorry that people felt so hurt, etc etc

I'm not just on about the personal ones
ones on the threads

I'm so sorry you are feeling rotten too x (am not a moldie btw)

[Flihgtattendant]

Oops sorry quench i mucked up your effort a bit there

[Rhubarb]

Ah right, I guess I had turned off at that stage, it all got a bit much and a bit heated.

Well good on those who had the balls to apologise - that was very big and took guts.

[Flihgtattendant]

I wish I could personally make it all better

hey, elton john is on tonight...

[Flihgtattendant]

it would help

special moldie chocolate formed by elves in the caves of moldavia (is that a real place?)

[LadyThompson]

I'm late to the furore. I have posted a lot this year but only really on my ante-natal thread as of late as my DD was born in Nov and I have, in the words of Why Don't You, been doing something less boring instead. So forgivez-moi if I am just repeating. It's neve stopped me before

I'm hugely dismayed by the reports in the press as it makes a peerless site sound like an offcut from an Angela Brazil novel. I frankly don't care if some people want to set up a site of their own, particularly if they know each other in RL - yes, all this vetoing malarkey seems a bit low rent, as does this tiresome drawbridgism of 'Mumsnet is too full of newbies'; but it's still up to them. I couldn't give a fluff about the Moldies, good luck to them, but I am saddened to see the site brought into disrepute with all this sniping, and I am sorry for people like Custardo, who actually seemed to know some of these characters. But come on, they haven't jigsawed the heart out of Mumsnet. They aren't the sole keepers of the wit, warmth and wisdom that have made it so great. At least we might have seen the back of threads like that real heartsinker, the 'Mumsnet Royalty' one a few months ago. That was a REAL nadir and lit the touchpaper for some rather grisly self-importance, imo. Anyway, far from being a Mayflower, I reckon the Moldies debacle will be just like the SDP breakaway from the Labour party many moons ago Happy New Year ladies.

[RustyBear]

Moldavia

[Flihgtattendant]

Oh thanks Rusty. Looks rather sort of shabby chic as countries go, doesn't it?

[Rhubarb]

A cheese board would be more appropriate. With blue cheese!

I like blue cheese.

It's silly though isn't it? To feel this way? 'Tis only the internet and I wasn't as personally involved as custy. She found out she had been nominated but vetoed against, so she must be wondering who, of the Moldies, voted against her? Plus she met up with a few of them at the Xmas Do and at Brighton meet-ups. She thought highly of them, considered them friends.

I'm not in that position. But I do feel discriminated against. And I do mistrust quite a lot of people on Mumsnet atm.

But then again I am quite low in general atm. It's been a bad Christmas and neither dh or I feel like celebrating New Year with a possibility of being jobless. So I guess I'm more sensitive to it all.

Hugs appreciated btw! I'm glad there are still good people out there!

Happy New Year folks!

[fishie]

horrid thought, to be shunned as suspect moldie when actually one is a reject. it is most paranoia inducing you are right kerrymum.

besides it is almost impossible to keep up with who is here so it can't realistically last long.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

Yes, I made apologies too. So did quite a few others.

[Myrrhcy]

As far as I am concerned I think I have taken on board why people feel upset and have also apologised - Clausimworthit it explained it best for me.

I have never been to a meet up (my choice) and have rarely had contact with anyone off board; I guess we all use MN for diffferent reasons so I wasn't thinking about posters who had actually met each other. I may have had a different view if I had.

Also I had no idea re a voting/vetoeing system - I first heard about it here tbh.

Yes I did say a couple of bad things (but that was in response to one or 2 people who were deliberately stirring, jumping on the bandwagon, the anti cod mob etc)

But at the end of day I think anyone is entitled to suggest ways of improving MN because tbh i think there are certain things that need dealing with.

And don't forget that for MNHQ any publicity is good publicity. Remember what was really going on with GF?

Having said that I will continue to post on MN because on the whole I like it - and my last comment is

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO EVERYONE!!!!!!!!

[Rhubarb]

LadyT, you are quite right! I think people just need time to lick their wounds.

However if they are to keep posting, you do wonder if and when they will start to invite people onto their site again. I'm sure it will happen. I guess the main sticking point is that it's not gone away, nor will it, and nobody is telling us anything about it. So the secrecy is still very much alive and whilst it is, there is an air of mistrust about Mumsnet.

[Nighbynight]

controlfreaky, thank you for posting how I feel about it.

Rhubarb, they seem to have actively recruited people since this all kicked off - but only those who accepted being left out graciously, according to vvvq.
So, rather the opposite of recognising any hurt caused, really.
In those circumstances, I feel that individual expressions of regret are a bit hypocritical.

[Flihgtattendant]

oh Rhuby

sorry things hav been naff. I can't imagine how Custy feels having been told that. How bloody hurtful.

Can't personally imagine anyone who would vote against Custy (or yourself)

You're both just MN treasure imo, can't imagine the place without you.

Here's to a better new year xx

[Rhubarb]

Thank you FA.

Nighty, that is horrendous. And deepens my mistrust. How bloody hypocritical!

Oh well, not a damn thing we can do about it. Appealing to people's better nature has not worked. I'm having a rest for a while, see you all in the New Year!

xx

[TotalChaos]

Nigh - I understood that comment to be about making apologies to non-members rather making people members of Moldies.

[Notreallycutoutforthis]

Avoided all this so far, but have to love LadyThompsons SDP analogy