So what can we do about it? I used to report a lot of posts saying why I thought they were unacceptable, many weren’t taken down, I emailed them to put forward my thoughts on the constant rudeness and attack mode some people had, I mentioned a few specific threads saying this woman lost a relative, this woman is going through a traumatic thing, they don’t need this, they are posting here for support and there are some supportive posts but they have to wade through the sniping to find them, it just resulted in a whole email full of waffling being sent back to me. Basically, I think they don’t really care and aren’t going to put any effort into it. They have their (often weird and naked) advertising and that’s ’job done’ for them I think.
And when posts are deleted I don’t think the poster is notified so there’s nothing to stop them carrying on, until the managers get fed up and ban them.
There’s just this collective ‘well don’t post on AIBU then’ or ‘well you’re going to get robust replies, this is Mumsnet’.
Then I stopped reporting things and instead posted a reply saying why their post was in appropriate, no one liked that either.
Now I honestly sit here baffled when someone posts something private and traumatic eg DH affairs, and I just wait for the shitty remarks. I never have to wait long.
I read threads here, as someone wrote recently there isn’t really a British alternative, so I’m still here. But honestly no idea why people come here expecting support, it’s a lottery, you might get it, you might not. Is that really what people can handle when they are already having a tough time?
And through it all, the managers will say ‘but do report any posts to us, we rely on you to keep this website helpful!’ Like, really?