Another thread on 'active' being destroyed

[saraclara]

A parent who posted about her children in care, on the fostering branch, is being ripped apart, unfairly.

This is only happening because her thread appears on active/trending/whatever, so people who have no idea about anything are abusing and judging her.

I've reported some posts, but what really needs to happen in these circumstances, is HQ quickly removing the thread title from active. Some particular branches' OPs need this kind of protection.

Can you please consider this?

Re the points about will a post get enough responses if it doesn't show up in active...I'd say that it is up the poster to decide that? If they've put it in a section which doesn't feature in active (as clearly many shouldn't) they can always repost somewhere else if they don't get many repsonses. There's many topics though where just one person replying with experience/expertise is more useful than 20 people just saying what they feel/think.

Thank you @HebeMumsnet . Your mea culpa is appreciated and it's reassuring to know that HQ is taking this seriously.

Is there any way that the report options could include a tick box where people can ask for/suggest that a thread be removed from active?

Thanks. I did report a thread days ago as did others. It's been closed this morning after 40 pages. Things do need tightening up.

It's good that the thread was deleted but there should be a longer-term solution to inappropriate and confrontational comments.

Comments on the site (and the Internet generally) are increasingly aggressive and judgmental. Sensitive topics that were "safe" in active a few years ago might not be now so their visibility may need a review. Are more bans and deletions also needed for aggressive posters?

To be honest, I've no idea if that's possible but it's certainly something we'll look into. Good idea.

I agree the comments and judgment was awful

Can't the fostering section (and some others) just be removed from active as default? with a message about if you want more traction post in chat (or similar)

@NiteWotcha sorry if this is the wrong place but would like to highlight another new thread in trending bringing out some absolutely awful posters.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5262293-to-complain-about-paramedic?reply=141719756

I completely agree.
Not the same issue, but I think it's time for some firm policing of AIBU. It's become a bloodsport for cruel people who have no real interest in Mumsnet and don't see posters as humans with feelings. People post genuine questions, not realising that it's like painting a target on yourself these days, and some have been clearly very upset by the viciousness they've been subjected to. It might once have been a legitimate board but it isn't now, and it's dragging MN down.

I would use that and would suggest using the notes section for nominating a target topic.

Maybe its time for a bit more shepherding of threads to the relevant topic as this seems to be a regular AIBU problem, quite often with "posting for traffic" due to underuse of the relevant topic.

For any new joiner the site feels like it is AIBU due to its dominance. If we move more and more topics out of active/trending they become even less visible and magnify the sense that AIBU is the only place to get much response.

Possilby also when we respond to topic threads the rider "this is not AIBU" could be added! If only we could make it mandatory to read the OP before replying (not a problem unique to MN of course).

Totally agree.

@NiteWotcha @HebeMumsnet

I've reported one of my own posts on a different thread that I think might be at risk of a pile on if it ends up trending. Not sure if posting here will help bring it to your attention but thought it might

Hi @dollymixedup
I can take a look if you could give me a link?

For future reference, you can also alert us on the NightWatch board

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/the_night_watch

Thankyou :)