miserable mumsnetters and MY mental health!

[makemyday]

I love mumsnet or, at least, I did until recently...
but there are two posters who really give me the groan factor whenever I see their names appear..I know they are never going to say anything remotely positive about anything. And its irritating the way they try to focus the thread's attention on themselves with each post they make. Its really depressing to see their names crop half way through my enjoyment of reading a good debate or a chatty thread.
So my question is...can I block posts from these specific people so that I dont have to read their posts on a thread, at least until they change their name? At the moment, I can only avoid those threads that they start.

They really are depressing and if I didn't have to go to an enormous effort to try and avoid their clouds of doom and gloom because they weren't there to read, mumsnet would be easier and more enjoyable!

Oh bugger FAQ - I hadnt seen your threads about your H.

Name changer hey? So, we can add gutless to the list along with socially inept etc...

my god, I am actually beginning to feel sorry for you OP since there is nothing that a bit of love, kind words, care and support can do to help you... YOU are beyond help really. How very sad....

Me neither, FAQ - no idea what's going on with you cos it's impossible to keep on top of everything here any more. Sorry to hear you are having probs but please don't worry about talking about it on MN, it's what we're all here for

Oh for gods sake the replies are just as extreme, everyone thinking it's them, it's hysterical.

WW, thanks, i was half asleep, having a really bad time, think the op was talking about me

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I will qualify...
the posts I want to avoid are from those who only have negative comments about every single thread they post on, not threads they have started themselves...that would be silly wouldn't it?

no fairyfly, its not extreme at all.

If you are a regular poster who is having a particularly shit time, and MN is one of your only outlets, and you read something like this, believe me, its not hysterical to get defensive about it.

it's still bloody rude to bang on about them, makemyday, when you know you could have just asked 'is is possible to ignore particular posters?'

I do have a rather self pitying feeling that the OP is talking about me here, on account of the fact i did open a rather self pitying thread tonight. But i did this on the feeling depressed bit of the board. I do that, i rant, i moan, whine and whinge, lots of people come and give me a hug or kick me up the arse. The next day i think, fuck did i type that, self pitying cow! So actually even if the OP coudlnt give a flying fuck about LEM it doesnt matter really, because she just confirmed that probably people think im a whinging cunt anyway.

I Think that mumsnet is great, it is funny, supportive, thought provoking, sometimes it can be a little depressing, sometimes it makes me sad, most times, it keeps me sane.

Well, you say that now, makemyday.......

Makemyday, are you sure the problem is with these posters, and not with your perception of them?

There will always be people who irritate you, whether on a forum or in RL. But much in the same way as you can cant walk over to the headmistress of your childs school (if indeed he/she is in school, I dont know, you hide behind a cloak of anonymity) and say "look, can you ensure I dont see Mrs X and Mrs Y I really dont think they have any valuable contribution to the community", you cant really start a thread like this and expect it to be received gracefully.

i am

I get the impression makemyday does not mean people who come on with problems to share or problems they need help with. I understood it to mean people who always react by being negative and possibly about other people. I don't think anyone could come on and complain about people who need help, particularly if they need a lot of support. People often come on and complain about people in RL who are eternally negative and putting down and as in all things, avoid, ignore, think about something else.

one option might be to ask posters (actually on the threads they're posting on) why their viewpoint is so negative - MN is open to everyone you just have to take the rough with the smooth if you want to participate

(haven't read all the thread by the way so may be repeating others suggestions (if so apologies ))

The thing that i find deeply offensive about this thread is actually the title. The OP is just condescending and thoughtless. But until you have suffered from mental health problems then please do not trivialise it. Because unless you actually have a mental health problem (there are lots of conditions that come under this umbrella, from depression to schizophrenia to alzheimers), or have cared for someone with a mental health problem, or studied mental health to a high level - you cannot possibly understand. A better total might have been, "some of the moaning minnies on here really piss me off". Apologies of course if the OP actually does have mental health issues, because if the threads are affecting that then perhaps you need to take a break (i dont mean that in a nasty way either)>

No, you cannot hide someone's posts as the thread may not make sense without them - it would be like missing a section of a book.

Well, you are of course entitled to your feelings and it is a perfectly legitimate 'techy' question. But I think it is worth remembering "There but for the grace of God.." One day it might be you in a bad place and needing support/a place to vent - or even a bit of understanding because you are being miserable around the board while RL shit is going on with you!!! Perhaps you can try to feel sorry for someone who is feeling so negative about life? Maybe even try to engage with them and cheer them up a bit?

About the missing out their posts thing, I don't see how that's workable (sorry to be all doom and gloom! ) unless they are totally ignored by other posters, you'll get the gist of what they said anyway, by people's replies. Or you won't have a clue why a conversation has taken a particular turn. Just think about when a post is deleted - people wondering what it was, reading replies to a missing post - you'd probably just end up wanting to know what was said.

But the good thing for you is this is a part of your life that you can just walk away from if you are annoyed with it. You can't do that with your kids, your partner or your job. This is great because you can just log off and forget about it!

wow makemyday, i look forward to the day when you need a friend, when you are feeling low, or going through a rough time. there are a lot of women on here who dont live hunky dory lives, who are going through a rough patch, have PND (now thats going to affect your mental health) or aqre lonely and just need to get it out.

because noone will help you, karma you see... what goes around comes around, pay it forward etc.

and i dont care if my posts depress you or anyone else, if you feel like that just by reading them, imagine how it feels to the person going through it.

what a shitty op

FGS, MMD, I'm glad you life is so fucking perfect - it m7ust be so awfulk for you reading about all of these pathetic and suicidal women who are clogging up the board with thier inane rmablings.

Interesting how tyou had to name change for this thread - coward

Now grow up.

agree, ffs if you dont have the bollocks to name the people who "give you the groan factor" then at least use your own name!

I could well be one of the posters that annoys the op. I often start threads when I am upset because it helps to have someone to talk to, & will sometimes talk about my own experiences when replying to someones thread, just to show I understand where they are coming from.
So sorry if this is damaging your mental health, makemyday. Was thinking I may stop posting when I am fed up about something...changed my mind though & will continue just to piss you off!

PinkChampagne, I'm sure you're not one of the two that the OP has in mind! You post really supportive, helpful posts to other posters! Drawing on your own experience to help other posters is what it's all about, surely?

makemyday, how rude and cowardly of you.

Even if you are, PC, what the fuck business is it of anyone else?

You carry on posting what you like mate, and fuck some cowardly nobboid