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miserable mumsnetters and MY mental health!

105 replies

makemyday · 04/03/2008 22:16

I love mumsnet or, at least, I did until recently...
but there are two posters who really give me the groan factor whenever I see their names appear..I know they are never going to say anything remotely positive about anything. And its irritating the way they try to focus the thread's attention on themselves with each post they make. Its really depressing to see their names crop half way through my enjoyment of reading a good debate or a chatty thread.
So my question is...can I block posts from these specific people so that I dont have to read their posts on a thread, at least until they change their name? At the moment, I can only avoid those threads that they start.

They really are depressing and if I didn't have to go to an enormous effort to try and avoid their clouds of doom and gloom because they weren't there to read, mumsnet would be easier and more enjoyable!

OP posts:
expatinscotland · 04/03/2008 22:33

it's time to take a break if it's affecting you that much.

it's also incredibly bad form to start a thread moaning about other posters.

fairyfly · 04/03/2008 22:34

I would try and get them barred. Anyone you don't like for that matter. Or start your own chatboard where you vet every poster, maybe give them a happiness test when they log in. If they fail it for four days on the trot you could have a deal with their internet service provider that all access to the www immediately stops.

Perfect.

FAQ · 04/03/2008 22:34

well I've just started another "jolly" thread to cheer the OP up.......

QuintessentialShadow · 04/03/2008 22:34

Definitely time to move on if you cant cope with posters having a hard time, or people being a little human and snappy from time to time. Netmums have a facility where you can hide posters, I think. Better go there. I understand all posts are reviewed prior to going live, so you can be certain nobody will say anything "untowards".

Greensleeves · 04/03/2008 22:35

I LOVE it when people say "its time to take a break" - makes the 'martyr-who-can't-quite-bear-to-flounce' feel utterly bereft

WallOfSilence · 04/03/2008 22:35

Why start a thread like this?

I agree, netmums in probably for you.. although it's sad over there tonight as a posters baby died last night, so maybe that will be too doom & gloom for you too

And btw I don't think it's fair of you to say 2 posters & leave people guessing. You should have put up or shut up!

QuintessentialShadow · 04/03/2008 22:35

Oh, and OP do you mind if I start a thread about my sons potential Chicken pox, or is that not to your liking?

Actually, I dont care if you mind. It is not your forum, so you dont actually decided who or what goes on it.

Or is it?

VVVQVJournalist · 04/03/2008 22:38

I think a bluegrass whistle would be great, actually

Aero · 04/03/2008 22:39

Just hide the thread or ignore the post. Simple really.

LGJ - sorry I didn't get to posting on your thread last night - I did read it and let's just say, my sympathy on the hitting seven thing. It seems to be a difinitive age. All dd's issues have suddenly, on the strike of seven, accelerated and the tantrum thing is frustrating to say the least.
Master LGJ is a lovely sweet boy and a credit to you and Mr LGJ. You're doing all the right things, he's just finding his feet and acting like a seven year old often does. He has good solid grounding and will turn out just fine!
(Apologies for slight hijack)

DualCycloneCod · 04/03/2008 22:39

thats not fair
we all have off days or days on rantlock

expatinscotland · 04/03/2008 22:40

Well, I can tell you now whose name is going to give me 'the groan factor' whenever I see it appear.

But I don't want to hide that person. Instead, I'd like to go out of my way to annoy them .

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 04/03/2008 22:41

LGJ rushes over and hugs Aero, steps back in horror to realise she has crushed Aero.

Oh well, Aero bits all around.

expatinscotland · 04/03/2008 22:41

Ponce off back to your swanky cafe, cod .

DualCycloneCod · 04/03/2008 22:42

tosewers

VVVQVJournalist · 04/03/2008 22:42

Who expat?????

Califrau · 04/03/2008 22:43

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

susiecutiemincepies · 04/03/2008 22:43

I am really really angry to read this thread.

how the hell will anyone feel, myself included, who is going through a particularly shitty time at the moment?

I'm guessing this was the kind of response you were looking for, and are now sitting back, rubbing your hands with glee.

You horrible coldhearted selfish person, and you claim that it is other posters that attempt to turn the thread around to themselves?

Life is not always happy, and great for everyone, all the time. Some people go through really rough times, and often for prolonged amounts of time. Life just isn't that simple to sort out always.

How lucky you must be, to not need to ask for help, or advise when the chips are down. How lucky you are to be so secure, so safe, so comfortable, so happy, so wealthy in every sense, that you have no need to talk of the road you are traveling being a bit bumpy.

All you have now done, by starting this thread, is make ANYONE who has asked for help, or is grieving, or perhaps vented a bit, or discussed a problem, or requested any kind of advise, to feel totally paranoid, upset, and embarrassed that they have ever done any of the above.

You either have no need for any of the above because your life is perfect, or you don't need to ask for any of the above, because you are so stable, sorted, or have so much support around you that you need not ask for help from a fairly anonymous group of people on the other end of a computer.

Either way, whichever is the truth, not every one is as fortunate as you.

I would rather be supportive, kind and care about someone, anyone, having a bad time, at any time of the day or night, a million times over, than be smug, coldhearted and self centered in the unpleasant way you have portrayed yourself.

Greensleeves · 04/03/2008 22:43

I bet expats persona non grata is me as well

I am a bit of a miserable solipsist (see here I am talking about myself again)

chubbymummy · 04/03/2008 22:43

Don't read any threads unless they are entitled "life's a bed of roses/chocolate box chat" and when you see -my- their names just don't read what -I- they have written. You're hardly upbeat yourself when you're whinging about people whinging, get a grip love!!!!!!!!!!!
See how I made this post about me, lol!

Janni · 04/03/2008 22:44

I was sure this was going to be one of those in-joke, wind each other up threads.

Some people are radiators, some are drains. Live with it.

WendyWeber · 04/03/2008 22:45

Aren't there bluegrass whistles? (There should be!) I read VVV's post and didn't think twice about it

makemyday · 04/03/2008 22:45

how funny...none of you guys are my "heartsink" posters!!!! What's wrong with trying to find out if its possible to screen the persistent doomsayers out? Who would it hurt? I am the customer after all( of all these mumsnet adverts...)Wouldn't it improve the experience for those of us who enjoy a lot of mumsnet and are frustrated by some of it?

PS Greensleeves...I read your whole post with interest and compassion as I had a very similar experience myself.

OP posts:
FAQ · 04/03/2008 22:45

actually now really wishing I hadn't even seen this thread - yes I've joked around on it - and yes sorry OP this is a miserable post about me - but actually feeling really sh*t now

expatinscotland · 04/03/2008 22:46

Oh, believe you me, Greeny, it ain't you!

I have a special penchant for OPs who start threads about specific posters they refuse to name - or even that they name - to bitch about them.

Because whilst I can take plenty of peoples' misery, being a pessimist myself, I can't deal with people being that rude.

VVVQVJournalist · 04/03/2008 22:46

LOL at Greensleeves trying to make this about her come what may

I blardy love you snotty!