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Original poster

Could we have an "interracial" talk topic?

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toky · 28/10/2004 14:33

I would dearly love to talk to other mums in mixed relationships, about all the issues of mixed-race kids etc. I know I could start a general mixed race thread (and will do if this request is turned down), but there are so many 'sub-threads' I'd have to end up starting, from the thorny political issue of mixed-race hair to in-law (in)sensitivity, etc etc!

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marsup · 28/10/2004 22:05

'Rainbow relationships'?
No just kidding, it's a bit twee.

hercules · 28/10/2004 22:06

"Are you doing it with someone a "bit different"?

LipstickMum · 28/10/2004 22:30

LOL

marthamoo · 28/10/2004 22:32

Aw gawd @ rainbow relationships PMSL. And they said "Feeling Low" was twee!

mammya · 28/10/2004 22:34

But isn't everyone a bit different?

hercules · 28/10/2004 22:35

What about "but you'll never be able to have children".

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nikcola · 28/10/2004 22:38

mee too good idea for a new topic xx

Shimmy21 · 28/10/2004 22:40

Or the charming comment my dh has had more than once - poor thing couldn't you find a nice girl from here?

hercules · 28/10/2004 22:41

"but will she ever wear a sari?"

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toky · 28/10/2004 23:19

Just checking back in and sooooo delighted to see such a lot of response to my suggestion! Don't really mind about the name: multicultural/interracial/multiethnic sound fine to me (although a lot of the other suggestions made me smile ....)

(Oh, and the questionnaires thing is one of the many things I'd definitely like to chat about in our new Topic area KatieMac!)

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hester · 29/10/2004 10:16

I'm in a mixed race relationship (and from a mixed race family) and would love to join in.

JuniperDewdrop · 29/10/2004 10:25

Think this is a great idea. What about people who aren't mixed race though? Could you make the title so that they're included even if they're not caucasian? Just a thought.

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toky · 29/10/2004 10:55

Sorry to be thick JD, what do you mean? Mixed race / mulicultural / multiethnic = any combination of races -- ??

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JuniperDewdrop · 29/10/2004 10:58

sorry, just meant couples of other cultures etc who may not be mixed race? Maybe they don't need a thread though?
Hope you get it soon.

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toky · 29/10/2004 11:04

Oh, you mean "non-white parenting" / "ethnic minority parenting" or some such?! I think that's different altogether from what I had in mind ...

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LipstickMum · 29/10/2004 11:09

I don't think I would like "non-white parenting" as a title!

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toky · 29/10/2004 11:11

Me neither! TBH I'm not a fan of the term "ethnic minority" either ... But whatever the title, I think it's a separate thing.

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LipstickMum · 29/10/2004 11:12

There seem to be A LOT of different issues coming out of this subject area, don't there??

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toky · 29/10/2004 11:21

Mmm ... and I feel on potentially tricky ground. Don't want to be divisive / exclusive but I don't think all "non-white" people share the same issues - the MIXED experience is quite specific, especially when it comes to parenting.

If other black / Asian etc mums feel the need for a separate Talk Topic (I don't!), maybe another thread could be started - ?

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LipstickMum · 29/10/2004 11:24

I think quite tricky, but possible. Everyone's experience is so different. I'm going to think about some possible sub headings, or something...

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toky · 29/10/2004 11:28

I think I'd be happy with pretty much any 'mixed' category (whether racial or cultural), but would be unhappy to be thrown together with all 'other' (agh) races - the white and black experience are equally relevant/irrelevant to the mixed one, iykwim.

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LipstickMum · 29/10/2004 11:29

Oh dear...

hmb · 29/10/2004 11:31

Puts head nervously above parapet. This could get nasty, hope very much that it doesn't. Ducks back down again