Qui tacet consentire videture... I want it to be understood by MNHQ and by guests to this site that my silence on the subject of the recent speculative threads does NOT condone their existence.

[Aitch]

Aitch.

i partly want MNHQ to know because they ticked off the people who bumped the threads yesterday and have defended the rights of the ghoulish posters to post. all absolutely fair enough, it's their site and their call.

so despite the fact that i don't much approve of the behaviour of yesterday's bumpers either (because it does rather turn the whole thing into a silly free-for-all and at the end of the day we are talking about a possible dead child here), i wanted MNHQ to know if there were many other people on here who had sympathy with their intentions but who felt they had nowhere to express it.

i guess that i don't like the idea that people who i would align myself to, in terms of opinion if not specific behaviour, were getting into trouble without me standing behind them in some way.

I'm not interested in a majority view here. I don't even regard myself as a Mumsnetter. I just check in every so often because it can be interesting or helpful.

Anyway, the real reason I can't sign up is that I might be in the mood for a fight later and what better place to start than a thread full of speculative nonsense.

"grief tourism"

that encapsulates it anchovy.

But the thread still continues, and they can delude themselves that because we do not speak out, we agree. I don't want them to do that. I want them to realise that large numbers of MNetters disagree with them.

In the same way that if the BNF marched through my street, I'd want them to know I disagreed with them.

and mn is my 'street', in a away

I'm bloody annoyed that mumsnet aren't stopping it tbh. They've listened before - eg about fromula feeding. Like Tamum, if it continues (and it is- they're still at it- discussing the smell of corpses) it's got to be time to take some sort of break. I would avoid the company of anyone that obsessed with the case in RL.

I thought the disrupting the thread was tiresome. I don't like the ghoulish speculation any more than you do but neither am I impressed by the off topic disruptions. Or for that matter those threads where people start saying "I'll get the maltesers."

Signed. Ellie.

It was my comment about the pig Expat!

signed

god, no, i find that utterly adolescent, NKF. and i tend to try and point that out.

I doubt they give us a moment's thought MB. Why would they? We're over here discussing them. They're on a roll.

I agree Aitch- MNHQ's intervention was taken as being an "OK' from the ghouls that they were in the 'right'. I don not want to be associated with that.

Spot on, as usual, MB.

It has made me feel quite a bit better about MN.

And gess.

I would worry about someone in RL if they wanted to go on and on about it.

But the posters aren't associated with MN's decision. Maybe I just don't feel very personal about the site.

For what it's worth, I think MN made a good point in stopping the disruptions. This is a forum and I think it's best either to ignore or to argue.

No, but they, they posters, took it as them being in the 'right' and as 'winning' and I suppose of being the voices of 'reason' (good grief). I want them to know I still think they're sick weirdos.

Gess - I understand that but (and this is where I don't understand) why not go and tell them that?

beuatifully put gess. thank you

because I am sick of fighting things that I can't change. i don't have the stamina and they don't listen. they have the upper hand, when the resy of MN boycots them (for very good reasons) so the voice of reason gets slapped down, over abnd over again.

are they going to listen, nkf? is it just goiing to result in more discussion of the smell of cadavers happening around me? this seemed like a better idea, tbh, because i really do not want to engage with them again, we tried the last time, and i think the proliferation of them suggests that we failed.

are they going to listen, nkf? is it just goiing to result in more discussion of the smell of cadavers happening around me? this seemed like a better idea, tbh, because i really do not want to engage with them again, we tried the last time, and i think the proliferation of them suggests that we failed.