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Can we have a topic where name changing is not allowed?

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WorraLiberty · 29/12/2015 15:21

Lots of people feel the 'atmosphere' has been somewhat lost, due to MN becoming so big and so many people name changing for dubious reasons.

So how about a new topic where name changing is not allowed?

So to post in that section, you choose a different name (much like in Mumsnet local). But you have to stick to that name only.

That way, in that section at least, there would be less arses/goady fuckers/Billy bullshitters and drama llamas, hiding behind name changes.

People will become 'regulars' again (in that section at least) and when you go there to chat, you'll at least 'recognise' other people.

OK I'm sure there are 1 million reasons why this is a stupid idea/impossible to set up, but can anyone think of them? Grin

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fidel1ne · 31/12/2015 23:02

Really? So no support for the bereaved? For difficult ante-natal choices? For abusive relationships? For homelessness? For money problems? For MH or PND?

fidel1ne · 31/12/2015 23:03

No handholding or moral support?

OddSocksHighHeels · 31/12/2015 23:04

RL help can only do so much. People want to come on here and talk to others that have had similar experiences or to off-load or to find out what the RL help available is.

Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2015 23:05

I do read some posts and think 'well that's too much for MN to advise, you really need RL help'. But I get told all the time that some people literally have only MN to help them so have to post on here, there really is absolutely no other option whatsoever. And how lucky I must be to have RL support etc etc.

Which is all very well, but people coped before MN and when it was down due to Jeff etc.

DixieNormas · 31/12/2015 23:05

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fidel1ne · 31/12/2015 23:05

We cope without a NC ban.

DixieNormas · 31/12/2015 23:07

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fidel1ne · 31/12/2015 23:08

I'm not sure the fact that people cope without something is ever a strong argument for not having it Sparkling. 'Coping without' is a pretty low bar.

usual · 31/12/2015 23:08

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Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2015 23:08

For some people not posting on MN might mean they are more likely to seek RL help.
Advice from random strangers on the internet is not always a good thing.

OddSocksHighHeels · 31/12/2015 23:09

It's not that there isn't anything but MN but if you're feeling shit about something at 10pm or on a Sunday or whatever then there might not be any RL help. And sometimes you're getting the help but still want to talk things over with others. There's nothing wrong with that.

Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2015 23:10

I am not saying we shouldn't have it fid. It's here now. Just pondering whatt if it never existed or went poof one day never to return.

fidel1ne · 31/12/2015 23:10

For some people not posting on MN might mean they are more likely to seek RL help.

Maybe, I'm not sure, but I know that some people get RL support because of the support and encouragement (and even contacts and information) they got on MN first.

What's wrong with the idea of just Chat being NC-free anyway?

Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2015 23:11

Nothing wrong with talking stuff over at all. Just be cautious about taking any advice however well meaning it seems.

DixieNormas · 31/12/2015 23:12

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Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2015 23:13

I didn't discover MN til DSs were 12 and 9. I had to make my own entertainment during the night feeds. Grin

fidel1ne · 31/12/2015 23:13

I am not saying we shouldn't have it fid. It's here now. Just pondering whatt if it never existed or went poof one day never to return.

They coped and they would cope but at the moment they don't *have^ to just cope alone in the middle of the night or stuck indoors with a screaming baby because MN is here and they can post here anonymously.

How many 'I want to hurt my baby' threads have there been on the main boards over the years (for example)? Quite a few.

usual · 31/12/2015 23:15

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Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2015 23:15

That's the way I feel too usual.

I appreciate that others feel differently and use MN very differently to me.

DixieNormas · 31/12/2015 23:16

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fidel1ne · 31/12/2015 23:16

There's nothing wrong with talking to other people on the internet, But they can't solve your problems. I don't think people should rely on MN or any other forum TBH.

Sometimes people just need talking through a bad half hour. Or suggestions of how to phrase things to their GP. Or friendly informal information about how social services or housing law works. Or what hospices are like.

That's the way I see it anyway. MN wouldn't be MN if the NC ban was made and made blanket across the site.

Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2015 23:18

DS2 did a few all nighters Dixie. Ugh. I used to sit in the rocking chair willing him to sleep and watching the sun come up. I used to have the TV on with subtitles so as not to wake the whole house.

usual · 31/12/2015 23:18

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Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2015 23:21

I do wonder if I had had MN when DC1 was born I would have been feeling very shit indeed usual.