Linking Sensitive Threads to Social Networking Sites

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Please can you take a look at this thread in AIBU which explains the rationale behind this appeal.

When Mumsnet decided to provide the facility to link threads to Facebook and Twitter, several of us had grave reservations about this move. When it was clear that Mumsnet was going to continue with the policy, I started a thread asking for you to consider removing the buttons from the most sensitive discussion boards, such as Relationships, Bereavement and SN. Others made similar requests and you were kind enough to agree.

At the time, I said that just removing the buttons without having a permanent request and rationale on display, might not be enough to dissuade posters from linking sensitive threads to those sites. Unfortunately, no such written appeal has been displayed.

Last night a poster decided to link a very sensitive thread on to Twitter and the issue for me is not about privacy. The OP in that thread is pragmatic enough to know that what we write on here can never be considered private.

The issue is more to do with human consideration and making a decision not to invite Twitter followers to gawp at another person's distress.

Could you please consider writing a policy on this issue, with clear expectations about users' behaviour, including any penalties that will occur if this is transgressed. Could this policy also be reinforced at the top of each of the non-Twitter/FB linked boards please, because it is evident from the AIBU and sensitive thread concerned, that many users hadn't noticed the absence of the FB and Twitter buttons on those boards.

Thank you.

I will never even bother looking at another post by AlouiseG, I'm sure many other people will skip on past her posts, as she has outed herself as a person with no compassion. The original tweet could have been excused, but the lack of remorse for the hurt she caused SS is really unforgivable.

Alouiseg - you have been told that your actions have caused upset and hurt to another person. Even if it was accidental, you still owe her an apology - that is good manners and decent behaviour. You shouldn't need to be told this.

Well I've noticed it before, that she tends to post with the heart of a politician...no apologies, no giving in whatsoever - but she was nice on one thread I met her on, so there is a balance there - she isn't, like, Pure Evil.

However I do think on this occasion she has acted wrongly. And I think she should apologise, but I'm really not sure she has it in her to. It is a shame as I suspect she wants to.

Well if she chooses not to apologise people will draw their own conclusions, not necessarily as generous as CiderhouseBob. At the moment MN feels like I've been warped back in time to the playground. It's so depressing..

dittany if I truly wanted to I could find out so much information about most people on here - anyone could it isn't hard.

If you want to be as unrecognisable as possible in rl be circumspect at least.

HowDOYouThinkStalkersDoItTiggaxx

Justine's response lost me when she mentioned "communities such as ours ..." because the whole message behind these two or three threads is, of course, that Mumsnet is NOT a community.

And there is no longer any point pretending that we are.

So, time for a re-think and a shake-up, much as there was after the DM affair.

I agree with bibbity. I have recently started to write a v short column/piece for a mag and even a year ago I may have linked to it here to see what people thought but now feels v different.

I know a few people's names on here but mainly through private messaging or email, and I wouldn't pass on their names without knowing I could trust the person I was telling...personal information needs to remain very much within the bounds of sensitivity and implicit confidence. I see having any of that sort of information as a privilege and an honour, never to be abused...even if absolutely gasping to shout it out on here, that I have an email from someone famous or highly respected. You just don't.

And whether I could find out their addresses or not, it isn't something I would wish to do, because something stops me, and that is probably the concept that it would not be a decent thing to do, and I wouldn't want them to do it to me.

So you could look at it that way...maybe ALG would be happy to have this done to her, I don't know, but if she wouldn't I would suggest she desists from doing it to others.

It's very simple, really.

I also see my membership of MN as a privilege and an honour, and I do see it as a community. I really do.
It's the only one to which I really belong - well, I suppose there is the school gate and there is our road, but this is the place I gravitate to on a daily basis.