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Linking Sensitive Threads to Social Networking Sites

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WhenwillIfeelnormal · 21/02/2011 14:26

Please can you take a look at this thread in AIBU which explains the rationale behind this appeal.

When Mumsnet decided to provide the facility to link threads to Facebook and Twitter, several of us had grave reservations about this move. When it was clear that Mumsnet was going to continue with the policy, I started a thread asking for you to consider removing the buttons from the most sensitive discussion boards, such as Relationships, Bereavement and SN. Others made similar requests and you were kind enough to agree.

At the time, I said that just removing the buttons without having a permanent request and rationale on display, might not be enough to dissuade posters from linking sensitive threads to those sites. Unfortunately, no such written appeal has been displayed.

Last night a poster decided to link a very sensitive thread on to Twitter and the issue for me is not about privacy. The OP in that thread is pragmatic enough to know that what we write on here can never be considered private.

The issue is more to do with human consideration and making a decision not to invite Twitter followers to gawp at another person's distress.

Could you please consider writing a policy on this issue, with clear expectations about users' behaviour, including any penalties that will occur if this is transgressed. Could this policy also be reinforced at the top of each of the non-Twitter/FB linked boards please, because it is evident from the AIBU and sensitive thread concerned, that many users hadn't noticed the absence of the FB and Twitter buttons on those boards.

Thank you.

JustineMumsnet · 22/02/2011 10:24

Morning all,
Been catching up on this thread and the other related ones this morning, as I've been away.

The issue here, I think, is one of sensitivity. From our perspective, it's very difficult to either enforce or have clear guidelines on this - as many have pointed out deciding where to draw the line is pretty impossible, as is enforcing that line.

We can certainly put up something in our etiquette about how it's not nice to tweet/fb about threads of a very personal nature but again, it comes down to a decision about what is "very personal" and that's a subjective judgement.

Tbh I don't think you can effectively enforce sensitivity in a top down kind of way. The way communities like ours tend to impose etiquettes is by expressing disapproval of certain behaviours, which makes people less likely to behave that way. I believe that's kind of what's happened here.

The main reason MN allows posters nicknames rather than real names is that conversations are public and searchable and the nature of the internet means that folks will link to and discuss anything and everything on it. So we think it's important that people who want to get advice about personal stuff don't have to reveal their identity. But that doesn't mean it's private, it's just not easily identifiable.

I'm sorry Sensitivitysquared that in some ways your experience has been the "case study" here - clearly it's not been a pleasant experience for you and that's a shame because our aim is to make parents' lives easier, not the reverse.

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