mn is a public website. We do not sign up to terms and conditions that say threads may not be discussed outside of mn, on twitter etc...

[wannaBe]

yep, thread about a thread... big deal.

so - thread started on mn. Another poster tweeted about said thread, came back to the thread and said she'd tweeted about it.

Subsequently posters called for her to be banned for tweeting about a sensitive thread, followed by lots of other nasty name-calling.

Thing is, the thread was public anyway. You don't have to be logged into mn to view it. You don't have to have a button next to each post to tweet about it - all you'd have to do is copy/paste the link into twitter. Once you put your private business on a public website you lose control over what happens to it/who talks about it/tweets about it/potentially writes about it in the press.

To suggest that a poster should be banned for talking about a thread that is on a public website, on another public website is ridiculous.

Mn has hundreds of thousands of hits a day. People are very naive if they think that their private, sensitive business is limited to the few people that post on the threads in question.

And people do discuss mn on twitter. Both in terms of threads/the potential genuineness of posters/the outcomes of threads. It's just that they don't come back on to mn to talk about having done so.

YANBU - don't know what the thread you are referring to is/was, but I think it's important to remember the public nature of the forum when we post here if information is very sensitive in RL. MN have copyright on what we post and can make books out of it. So no bannings for tweeting, I think..

YANBU. Sometimes you can almost be lulled in to thinking you're a member of a private club here, but of course you're not.

god folk tweet about mn threads all the time. the main culprits being mn towers themselves.

hysterical fools!

There are tweet and FB share links above every thread anyway, so MN technically promote the sharing of threads...YANBU

YANBU. Chickens says it all.

YANBU

I know which thread you are talking about, and the thread itself comes up on a search anyway. It is a public forum.

Anything posted on here should be considered to be out in public. You may have to be a member to post, but anyone can read these boards.

WannaBe - I don't know what thread you are talking about. I'm very ambivalent about this. Of course you are right that this is a public forum, people are naive etc etc.

You are right to warn people about what they are saying on a public forum (I have also warned the OP in threads). OTOH, I don't think I'd think very highly of someone who took something outside MN. Maybe that doesn't matter - we're all strangers and owe each other nothing (?). I just don't think it's very decent.

Again, I don't know the thread in question

YANBU
What thread was it?

YANBU at all and people would do well to remember this situation.

Yanbu, poster shouldn't be banned. But, am amazed ( saw the thread you are talking about I think) that common decency didn't stop tweeting. It was an unkind thing to do given that it was a sensitive issue for the OP. Unkind is unkind IMO, Internet or not.

tbh what thread it was isn't really that relevant, although admittedly it was a fairly sensitive thread. However, I would say that the more sensitive the thread the more people should think before posting if they don't want others to talk about it.

JLC I do see what you're saying but tbh the majority of the time people don't say when they tweet about stuff on the internet - they just do it.

And in reality we never know who is reading anyway - a few weeks ago a woman standing next to me in a shop said "oh I'm on mumsnet too." she'd clearly recognised me from my posts on here even though I don't know her personally .

Yanbu.

A member cannot and should not be banned for using a button which is there for a purpose, placed by mnhq. That is ridiculous.

It serves as a really good reminder just how public everything we say here is. ANYthing could possibly be tweeted, and we should remember this.

Why, if you're reading a thread of a sensitive nature, would you want to share it further. Of course MN is public, but observing decency isn't too much to ask, is it?

was it the porn in teh bathroom one?

tbh i hadn't even noticed the twitter button, if i want to tweet something i just cut and paste

Well then let this thread serve as a warning!!

Why did the poster come back and tell everyone she'd tweeted about it?

YANBU op. But I do think that the decision to put buttons inviting users to spread discussion out of MN shows that MNHQ puts publicising the site at a far higher priority than maintaining its value as a source of community support. It was a nasty decision I think. I have seen MNHQ itself (before the addition of the 'whore this thread out to humanity' button) tweet out a thread in which an op was expressing very embarrassed anxiety about her son's penis size.

Lady - so this tweet arose from a topic where there wasn't a link to twitter/fb?

unless the tweeter was stephen fry i don't see what difference it makes tweeting it. its not like the daily mail are hanging on alousieg's every word, they are more like to reading the relationships topic

I don't think what you have written is unreasonable OP

I do think that tweeting a sensitive thread to laugh about it and then coming back in to tell the thread you've done that is insensitive.

It's a bit like a mum at school struggling with a personal trauma and you wandering around the playground spreading the news and having a good giggle at her expense? it's just bitchy.

Hmmm Bitchnet....could it catch on instead of mumsnet

iirc she tweeted about it for different opinions. The thread was pretty much a them-against-us thread anyway, all about point scoring between the anti/pro posters so very little advice seemed to be in there anyway and sensitivity had gone way out of the window long before anyone tweeted about it.

Ladyintheradiator I think that people should think very carefully before posting threads of a sensitive nature that could potentially make them identifyable on public websites yes. Because unless you can disguise yourself so much as to not be recognised (in which case you probably have to change the content of the thread anyway) then your postings aren't anonimous and you have no control over who is reading them. And if you can be totally sure that you're anonimous then you shouldn't have anything to fear from people talking about those threads elsewhere.