Right this is going to be long so if you want to skip fine by me, it is also about being an adult not a child as although I had all the abuse bullying, ostracising, staring, etc as a child I want to take on one of the sacred cows of this place from an adult perspective.
As an adult with obvious disabilities and I have found that I must be grateful for everything at all times. I must never be in a bad mood with anyone ever. I must get used to being tlked about not to. I must get used to people asking me things through other people e.g. (does he take sugar?" I have to not get frustrated when asking for things to be different, like the lay out of a shop, or people not to put obstacles in my way, only to be told they "did not realise it was a problem". I must be a cheerful crip and ask fr things in a joyful and none demanding way or else I am "scary"
I have to like being asked by children and random people "What's the matter, with you" the alternative of telling people to not be rude is either aggressive or unhelpful. So your getting the idea that I have no such thing as privacy, nor do I have any dignity as someone who is born with a impairment quickly gets used to having things done to them even if they do not want it to be, not even talking about medical stuff, like what school, or what hobbies etc. Now the common theme and with those posts above mine are the lack of personal respect and seeing the individual. Instead being treated as public property and as a collection of ailments / problems.
It then gets worse when nothing disabled people do is good enough, we camping and we are moaning killjoys, we work and pay taxes, but we are worthless to the employer as we might need extra support or need flexible working. We are sexless as on this board it has been said many times that no one has a right to sex, fine no one has, but it's damn easy for those who have no problems in attracting a partner never mind actually physically doing the do, to then spout how rights do no EXIST. Perhaps if we said lesbians should not expect to have sex ever, a bigger outcry might be had.
Parents with children of SN want them to have every opportunity and experience that life has to offer, I am glad to say that most children with SN will achieve their potential, but to finish with the litany of ishoosh. Potential is being limited by money, facilities close, services shut, schools expel, transport is lost, people become mean and ugly, social services and health care become more rationed and less responsive, families are pushed way past breaking point trying to deal with the inhuman faceless system. In short this society promotes division and people turning against those that they are told are weaker and more problematic than themselves. Not just disabled people, but women, the elderly, black people, young people, you get the picture.
And yet we fight, we, refuse to lie down, we refuse to let the bloody middle class conservative voters who are the ones that are of primary interest to the politic-le parties in this country, get to sleep soundly at night. We will kick them in their guilt, and we will continue to haunt their dreams. We will keep telling them that they are holding up the system that is so fucking knackered if it were a horse it would be glue already. However the most unforgivable thing is the intolerance and down right lack of respect shown on this board as exemplified by both the public transport thread, and the transsexual thread. I do not think we have to agree with everyone, in fact the one thing that pisses me off most is that carers have so much politic le influence whilst those they give the care too see theirs decrease, disabled people and those they care for should in some respect be oppositional they are after all coming from different points of view. But feminist, gay, race, and age campaigners all need to be aware that no one group has prior claim to rights, that is a hierarchy the very thing that is the root of the problem in the first place. Ok done now, thank you for reading this far if you did, if not I can't say I blame you.