Husband keen on my past and flirting with an ex-FWB at wedding

[DreamyLimeWasp]

So my husband has always been really interested in my past relationships and sex life. At the beginning I played a lot of it down because I wasn’t sure how he’d react.
About two years ago, we were quite drunk and having sex when he started asking loads of detailed questions. I could instantly tell how much it turned him on, which in turn made it really hot for me too - he even said he wishes he could have watched.
From that night on I’ve been completely open with him, and he’s become much more confident asking for every single detail.
Now we’re going to my friend’s wedding where a guy I used to be FWB with will be attending. My husband is very excited about it. He’s already asked if I’d be willing to flirt with him, and he’s even said that if the situation felt right I could do anything I wanted with him.. he's also booked a double hotel room just incase.
Has anyone else’s partner got into hearing about your past experiences like this? Or wanted to watch you flirt (or more) with someone else? Would love to hear similar stories!

Do you know if your ex FWB is still single, will he be going to the wedding alone?

So much judgement and pearl clutching! Your hubby sounds the same as me - my wife has a flirtation with another man but hasn't done anything with him, yet. Its a deep part of my sexuality but it only expresses itself when I love and completely trust my partner.
Honesty and complete truth is key - don't withhold anything or jealousy will follow.

If you have not found it already this is an interesting blog on this kind of thing: https://secretvixen.blog/

M wife admitted she and her previous broke up after a M-F-M involving him and his best friend. She said, "it sounded like a good idea at the time." I got incredibly turned on hearing the details, but she wisely said, "never again." I will trust her wisdom in this area of life.

Let's hope your old fwb is still interested so you all get what you want hopefully it won't ruin your marriage.

My husband is the same as yours. He has always been very fascinated and aroused hearing about my past experiences even about my masturbation habits. We have a very good sex life and we talked a lot about me having sex with another man while he watched and maybe joined. We did end up doing it and it was a great experience for the both of us and we have continued doing it. If you are both open minded and have your eyes wide open found in and are secure in your relationship it can be amazing. Reach out to me if you have questions I’d be happy to discuss

I always find it annoying when people who are into that lifestyle, phrase it this way - "if you are secure in your relationship". When people have no desire to share their spouses with anyone else it does not mean their relationship is any less secure. It is a kink and lifestyle thing (and while I am glad it worked out for you, most often than not couples who engage in such things end up separating. Yes, I realise not all couples, yes, I know we all know couples who make it work, not saying anyone is wrong for living that way)

It doesn't mean that if you don't want to open things up in whatever way then you don't have a secure relationship!

It just means that if you want to explore in those directions, make sure you have a secure foundation to start with.

I could write it out in formal logic if that would help 😂

Fair enough.
Anyone reasonable enough wouldn't say it, that much is true. But I've been told otherwise before. Some people do believe that, somehow.

Have you decided to arrange the encounter with the exFWB like making a date with him or are you intending to surprise him and make do with however the opportunity turns up?
Where will you have him?
Sorry if too many questions I am getting quite fascinated by this sequence. Thousands of us reading this around the world and bloke is in for a session and he has no idea.

My advice is to not go to the wedding thinking we'll see what happens.

Before you go, have some very direct conversations about the what if's, where the line is, what happens if one of you changes your mind. Iron out the details.

Going into this without those hard lines and clear communication could cost you your marriage.

I haven't arranged encounter or contacted him so it's going to be on the night and ses what happens. The wedding is at a hotel and that is where we are staying, would assume he might be too. Husband has booked us a spare room incase it's needed so could be there or perhaps his room

I've led such a vanilla life, so wish you the best. I think you could usefully give the nod to the fwb though, or else it could all fall flat

If it’s all consensual then who cares

What happens if your target turns up with a partner?

I thought the exact same thing he may have a partner

Threesome?

That’s for @DreamyLimeWasp and husband to think about.

Actually I was joking.

I do think the OP's husband is a being bit presumptuous in booking an extra room without any prior contact with the ex-FWB. It would be much better to see how the wind blows between OP & former-FWB prior to the wedding so everyone is on the same page.

Ooft, I had a sense of humour failure 🤣

I have asked my wife about her past boyfriends; I think that's really hot. Also it would be very hot to see her having intense sex with someone, in my mind's eye just because she would be so very very into it, and have amazing orgasms and it would be exciting to see her so turned on. Because I'm very connected to my wife and I love her very much.

In that sense I get where your husband and you are coming from. I'd just not worry too much, and have fun. But draw the line. You and the husband are in the relationship. This former FWB is a tool. A tool you might use for your own enjoyment, you and your husband. Don't let him become a person, not a tool. A tool has sex with you and makes you orgasm hard while your husband enjoys the show. A man sends you text messages, DMs you in instagram, flirts with you, talks about his day with you. You have to be absolute. No contact whatsoever after that night, except maybe for simple messages sent with you and your husband typing the messages out together, to arrange a future meet potentially.

Yes, have sex with someone for the enjoyment of you and your husband but, never let anything get in the way of your relationship, even a tiny bit, even a percent of a percent. And that has to be a hard rule.

enjoy the wedding on Saturday OP.

looks like it'll be a guaranteed hot one

Looks a lovely day for it

What a weirdo he sounds