What to wear to my first sex club ?

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Hi,
im going to my first sex club very soon. Apart from being very nervous, I have no idea what to wear.
I think it’s quite a high end club as it’s in knights bridge.
I doubt I will be having sex this time and just observing.
im excited but nervous

Not all young and beautiful (me for a start 😂😂), but if it’s properly run there’s no pressure on women to do anything, and you can start by just watching (or talking if you prefer), and going on from there. I certainly didn’t walk in and crack on with multiple strangers from the first moment lol

All shapes and sizes and most nearly naked.

Yes, as long as it is a well-run one you will not feel any pressure to do anything in particular unless/until you want to. Any problems and the bouncers would be super on it. I personally needed a couple of drinks to get going but I would certainly advise against more than that.

@PinotPony jelly babies to share?
Call me green as grass but what am I missing here?

I would like to know about this too 😆

I've never been offered a jelly baby. I feel like I'm missing out now!

I’m a “mature M” and prefer a cup of tea at parties/clubs these days…… doesn’t seem to deter the ladies…😉

If you’re as shy and retiring as I obviously am [ahem], then asking a stranger if they’d like a jelly baby and what is their favourite colour is a bit of an ice breaker. As opposed to “Cor, you’re hot, fancy a fuck?”

Plus they’re good for an energy boost when you’re all fucked out at 2am. 😂

I did think they could be an energy boost @PinotPony , as they're great on marathons.

But using them as an icebreaker?👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Some nights it feels like a marathon..!

That's the point I go home! 🤣

I am truly knackered, as per the true definition of that word!

Asking for a friend, how much does it cost to attend one of these events?

Depends.

If you go as a single woman, you're very much in demand, so it's £5/£10.

If you go as a couple, then the sky's the limit. The last time I went to one as part of a couple, it was £50.

Also depends where you go. Killing Kittens Hedonism is £60 for women and £150 for men.

the ones I’ve looked into, you need to be a member. 7 sins is strict vetting. And Foxden I had a very short informal video chat. Don’t let that put you off. It’s mainly to ensure you are there for the right reasons (men specifically).

no membership fee but pay to attend events.

I sometimes wish I had the bravery and self confidence to do something like this. I'm very inexperienced though, have never been able to orgasm in front of a man so I dont think a room full of them would be a benefit, more a hindrance.
I'd love to be totally sexual and get great pleasure though. Very excited for you.

what are you hoping to get from this experience (besides the obvious)

Hi,
actually I think it would be the perfect place for you to gain confidence.
this is completely new to me. But since separating from my husband, I don’t want to die not experiencing something that excites me.
it may not be for me, I will find out. There is no pressure.
can I recommend Foxden, look into it. The woman who runs it is called sinead. It is a sex positive community. I did a zoom with a group of women last week and thought OMG, I’m so glad I found Foxden.
for me, I want to wear sexy lingerie, feel empowered, and if I choose to have sex with someone I will, otherwise I will just go, watch, chat. Everyone is there for different reasons.
life is short, try and if it’s not for you, you have lost nothing.

foxden have a what’s app community group where women meet up and have a drink before going in to an event.

they also do social events with no play, you can just talk to professional work people who are like minded.

the other club is DV (Dominium Vita.
good luck.

Happy for you to PM if you want support.
this is very new for me, but this is my journey. I’m excited and nervous

Out of interest do they vet the men they allow in? In terms of attraction. A club aimed at women needs to right?

Just a tape measure I think.

The one I go to vets single men @Gymbunny2025 but I don't know how.

They didn't vet the man I joined with as part of a couple. He's only allowed to go if I'm there too.

On women led/couple nights, they only let 5 -10 single men in, and all the men have to be well known to the club.

Re-reading your post, I don't know how they can vet attractiveness, as what is good for me might be rubbish for you. E.g. I cannot stand gymed up and/or typically handsome men. Seems quite shallow if looks is their basis for joining, and certainly not a club I'd want to be part of. Least of all, because I'd be always wondering if I was pretty enough.

I know that OH likes the idea in principle. But he’d be wanting MFF only which I doubt would happen even if I was up for it.

I get what you’re saying about attractiveness and how to judge… but the thought of any old man being able to go and being naked!! There’s no way I would go 😂. I thought maybe the type of club OP is talking about would be different.

But even if they did vet single men, it’s easy for a man to get in as part of a couple so it wouldn’t matter anyway.

it’s an interesting thread. Although I’ve now started to wonder whenever I see a man wearing slides at the gym 😂

For the one I went to (a long time ago) we both had to send photos first. (My lover was in his early 50s but cute and in good shape).

As with all things, I guess it's horses for courses @Gymbunny2025 . I like OP4F in London the best because it's so chilled. PP in Dunstable was ok, but I did feel in my 40s there.

I'm not a KK girl I don't think, as I'm a little overweight and have an apron belly. It doesn't bother me, but I get the impression it would bother KK and other types of clubs.

I've joined in with a couple a few times as a single female, so you could get the MFF your OH would want. Particularly if you went on a woman focused evening.

I agree that I'm never looking at sliders on men in the same way again!

It’s certainly not for everyone. I hope you enjoy OP, regardless of whether and if so how you participate. At the very least it’s a good excuse to buy some expensive new lingerie! I’m not an exhibitionist but am fairly body confident which hopefully you will be too.