What to wear to my first sex club ?

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Hi,
im going to my first sex club very soon. Apart from being very nervous, I have no idea what to wear.
I think it’s quite a high end club as it’s in knights bridge.
I doubt I will be having sex this time and just observing.
im excited but nervous

Formal/casual mix? Like you were going out to a nice restaurant I’d imagine. So tasteful but not absolutely OTT

I wore a lovely LBD with gorgeous underwear.

When I felt ready a couple of hours into the night, the LBD came off.

Others were wearing basques and slitted underwear from the get go. I didn't feel out of place being more dressed than them.

Thank you
I don’t want to look out of place.

I was thinking of wearing a white top but can’t wear a bra with it, so thought that might not be practical,
i have got all in ones that look like underwear but thought I should wear separate knickers.

im probably completely over thinking this.

this is completely out of character for me, I’m going through divorce and I’m in need of letting myself go !!

You're not overthinking it at all. You've got to feel comfortable and confident walking in there. Your outfit is a big part of that.

I remember going through the exact same dilemma!

I’ve already tried on so many and keep ordering clothes 🙈
you are right, I want to feel confident because if I don’t it will show.

i have LBD’s but feel they aren’t sexy enough or I can’t wear the right bra underneath.

im thinking in case I do choose to take it off.

im going by myself so I really do need yo feel confident

The LBD I wore wasn't sexy as such, but it was classy. Which gave me confidence. I knew I looked great.

Are you going alone or with someone? If you're going with someone, their opinion might be of value?

This is what I bought to wear

I’m going alone, which I prefer.
this is something I need to explore.

that helps because my dress is classy.
thank you 😊

Thank you, having read everyone’s advice.
i think i will go with a little black dress, it’s classy, short and I feel sexy and comfortable

i have it in red, is that too much ?

I’m confused, you have a LBD but you have it in red? Or do you mean you have it in red “as well”?

If you’re looking for classy, I’d go with black.

I have the same dress in black and red.
red seems quite extrovert for my first time, black seems more safe and introvert.

i don’t know why i get so worked up over outfits !!
sorry 🙈

Black for first time, save the red for another event.
You mustn't give away all your ideas the first time.
Wear knix that you are happy to walk round in.

Thank you

I will do that :)

A friend just did the exact same thing - her decision was to wear a black tube miniskirt and a pretty much see through white blouse over some classy stockings and bra. That way it was obvious there was something under the wrappings but she was in control over the unwrapping .
Blouse was picked because she could gradually unbutton it at the pace she wanted.

Apparently it worked perfectly.

Thank you
that’s a great idea x

So how did it go ?

It’s not until a couple of weeks, still preparing!!

Sorry for my ignorance/age/rural related stupidity but wtf is a sex club?

Is it legal? Be careful out there whatever you wear.

Your dress sense sounds spot on.

Underwear that you’re happy to be seen in, if that’s not too obvious! Layers quite good but not practical with the current heat

It’s completely safe, I believe. If you are interested, look up FoxDen.
I had a webinar talk with them last night.
consent is paramount with them.
its a sex positive safe space. Women can enjoy to their pleasure, what ever that may be .

Their ticket booking pages for the sex events have a dress code description
https://www.tickettailor.com/events/thefoxden/1726933

And there's a link to a Pinterest board:
https://uk.pinterest.com/thefoxdenclub/the-fox-den-dress-code/

...though amusingly I think the Pinterest user got a bit confused, and included a photo of a full English breakfast. Maybe you should wear two eggs and a slice of bacon

My Pinterest board has cakes on it. And also bathroom tiles. My goodness I am boring.

Have fun OP and stay safe.

Of course it is legal! They are very careful about age, consent etc. Any funny business from men and they get slung right out. The bouncers are very experienced guys. I did this so long ago that I can't remember what I wore, but I remember being naked for a great deal of the time so that is probably why! (Oh to have that body again!).

There are tents on my board ....