non-sex talk during sex - it's a turn off

[kentlad]

So, I(m33) do not mind the usual dirty talk but my partner(F28) finds it okay to put me off by stopping to either moan about something I did or didn't do, make a joke about something etc. I stand there with a full erect member and have to start going back and forth or have someone laugh about silly things like "unusual noise of wetness, air bubbles,a look i may make etc,"

She finds it weird that sex is usually a time you are just focused on turning each other on etc. She is not bored , so I think but she finds me weird that I just stay "tuned" into a sex mind space until the deed is done.

Please tell me I am not going crazy to find the odd. I am actually avoiding sex now because I have said it over and over again that it's a turn off but she just things It's normal and I am expected to not be put off.

Put this in the Sex topic, you and your 'erect member' have put me off my dinner.

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Well it's clearly a post about sex - perhaps don't open it during dinner!?

How long have you been together? Have you had a properly frank conversation with her? I'd be very worried that she isn't listening to your feelings.

But 'member' is not a brilliant alternative to penis you know... 😂

Sometimes you just need to express your thoughts about the pedestrianisation of Norwich city centre tbh

@OrlandointheWilderness the Sex topics exists for good reason, many people don't want to see this shit in active and have the topic hidden.

Is it in The Life and Opinions of Tristram Shandy that the moment of the eponymous hero's conception is marred by his mother commenting to his father, "My Lord, you have forgot to wind the clock"?

It doesn't sound like she's very turned on if she's talking about the laundry or a recent tiff. Have you spent any time exploring what really turns her on?

I once lost concentration when my exh was on the job and said “oh it’s bin day tomorrow and we haven’t put the bins out”😆

Tbh I'm someone that finds my husbands sex look funny and I start laughing my head off whilst my husband mutters dirty stuff to me I can't say anything 😂😂😂

Anyway, dinner was feta baked with tomatoes, herbs, garlic and white wine, with pasta stirred in at the end.
Wouldn't make it again, it wasn't great.

So why do you keep on clicking on the thread when the title shows that it’s clearly about sex? Report the thread and asked it to be moved, job done

But it literally says it's about Sex in the title @ActualChips - if you feel so strongly about it why on earth would you click on it to read!? Yes it should be in the sex topic, but I do wonder why anyone who feels that strongly wouldn't just scroll on by and ignore it as a once off!

Really it sounds quite nice

I once started talking to my husband about one of my friends once. I didn’t do it again 😆

You have a lifetime of sex ahead of you. Chill out.

I understand you want her to fall in awe at the god that you are but just relax and enjoy the journey.

so sorry - I put this in the wrong section. ADMIN? help, how do I move it?

😂

Yes and discussing wheelchair access to Dixons

I won't be surprised if this is said next, maybe i should say it first so she can get how I feel.

Literally has sex in the title of the post. Why open it if you're so easily put off your dinner?

She's bored.

The title tells you exactly what the content is so if your about to eat don’t open something containing sex if your going to get put off your dinner

It sounds delicious but I find feta can be hit or miss. It’s a risky cheese.

Talking of feta, OP, as long as she’s not complaining about your member smelling of feta, you’re winning.

“finds it okay to put me off by stopping to either moan about something I did or didn't do”

as in something bedroom related or general household chores type complaint?

Your post is making me think you take sex very seriously and don't think there's any room for jollity and I'd find that weird and offputting tbh. Surely we've all giggled a bit at an unfortunate noise while DTD?