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Fuck buddy

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lele11 · 19/03/2023 14:48

Has anyone actually had a successful fuck buddy?

All the stories I've heard it puts me off

Also do you tend to stay round their house or is that not how it works

Thanks

Sar

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changedname1979 · 19/03/2023 18:16

I did many moons ago, we use to stay the night with each other sometimes, sometimes we’d do ‘couple’ things together, we had a great time without the ties of a relationship, it was overall very good but it was difficult for both when it came to an end.

DGConsultant · 19/03/2023 18:43

The concept is interesting, never had one, could be doing with one pronto. I'd say the trick is balancing the sexual with the emotional investment, difficult not to get feelings down the line probably, so boundaries would need to be very clear from the outset.

mynewnameisfreckle · 19/03/2023 20:02

I have had a fuck buddy for many years (10 actually) and it works out great. If we're both single and fancy it, we get together. I don't want to be with him and he doesn't want to be with me. It's just sex.

DGConsultant · 19/03/2023 20:08

Being single will give the best conditions for success I'd say, and treating It as just sex, fairly crucial.

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lele11 · 19/03/2023 20:38

mynewnameisfreckle · 19/03/2023 20:02

I have had a fuck buddy for many years (10 actually) and it works out great. If we're both single and fancy it, we get together. I don't want to be with him and he doesn't want to be with me. It's just sex.

That's a long time!!

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Estherpologist · 20/03/2023 06:33

I've had three, though for at least 2 of those, i think the lines got quite blurred. How you define a relationship when you're friends who have sex has to be a bit flexible in my opinion. But that's fine, cos the sex was amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oldtadger · 20/03/2023 09:33

Think of it as playing tennis with regular partner.

You meet, have some fun and then go home.

Emilypost · 20/03/2023 13:01

A Chat friend who is Bi has a man she has fallen for who lives about 3 hours away and a girl friend she sees when she can.
She is chat buddy from the old Sex Chat Thread so never met in 6 months of friendship. Missing that thread😟

AverageGuy · 20/03/2023 13:03

Not had a FB, but I've had two FWB in the last couple of years, and would definitely like another.

I found they both worked well for me, but as we did "couples" things together as well as having sex, there is / was always the risk of one of us developing feelings for the other, so a FB might suit better..

Thisismysexforumname · 20/03/2023 13:11

Emilypost · 20/03/2023 13:01

A Chat friend who is Bi has a man she has fallen for who lives about 3 hours away and a girl friend she sees when she can.
She is chat buddy from the old Sex Chat Thread so never met in 6 months of friendship. Missing that thread😟

Me too. That was good fun and I made some good friends from it. 😥

Estherpologist · 20/03/2023 13:14

AverageGuy · 20/03/2023 13:03

Not had a FB, but I've had two FWB in the last couple of years, and would definitely like another.

I found they both worked well for me, but as we did "couples" things together as well as having sex, there is / was always the risk of one of us developing feelings for the other, so a FB might suit better..

How do you differentiate between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits?

AverageGuy · 20/03/2023 13:36

Estherpologist · 20/03/2023 13:14

How do you differentiate between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits?

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In my personal opinion a FB is someone you meet with just for sex, whereas a FWB is someone you do other things with, like meals, cinema etc.

lookeelikee · 20/03/2023 16:40

For either situation, FB or FWB. The people involved need to be able to compartmentalise.

Orgasmicreaction · 20/03/2023 18:07

I started to see a FB late last year and it turns out that neither of us can compartmentalise. We did try to keep telling ourselves that it was all about the sex, but everything else was too good. I can imagine that it would be very difficult if one side only had fallen hard, but luckily, we both feel the same way and are able to continue with it. It is now very lovely and smushy, which would not have been ideal if things were restricted to FB status.

Therefore to answer the OP. Not a successful FB but a new relationship.

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lele11 · 20/03/2023 19:26

AverageGuy · 20/03/2023 13:03

Not had a FB, but I've had two FWB in the last couple of years, and would definitely like another.

I found they both worked well for me, but as we did "couples" things together as well as having sex, there is / was always the risk of one of us developing feelings for the other, so a FB might suit better..

Are they not the same thing lol!

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Zanatdy · 21/03/2023 05:17

For me it wouldn’t work as I would end up falling for them, which would then blur the lines and cause pain. I guess it both people really are on the same page then great. No strings sex. But often one person ends up falling in love and it ends in pain. I know that would be me

GentlemanJay · 21/03/2023 16:07

I've had two brilliant FWBs in the past. I like to get to know people and doing other stuff with them too so prefer FWB to FB.

It's essential you keep the messaging and the chat down between meets and not make them too often. Very honest conversations are important two.

Angela59 · 02/04/2023 06:19

FB for two years.
After husband left I was seduced (unexpectedly & rather deliciously) and don’t really want a man in my life perm x

Tallguy101 · 02/04/2023 21:27

Had a couple over the years, no coercion and precautions taken so no problems.

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 04/04/2023 02:42

I couldn’t do it. I can’t have sex with someone unless I already have feelings for them. I’d be like a sack of potatoes with someone I didn’t have feelings for and fancied the pants off. With someone I did have feelings for/fancied, however, am the most passionate person on the planet. It probably explains why I haven’t had many sexual partners even though I’ve had lots of offers. It’s the way I’ve always been and a man either flicks my switch or he doesn’t.

ForestLilac · 04/04/2023 20:03

Oldtadger · 20/03/2023 09:33

Think of it as playing tennis with regular partner.

You meet, have some fun and then go home.

Well. I think a lightbulb just got switched on.

Tallguy101 · 05/04/2023 11:12

ForestLilac · 04/04/2023 20:03

Well. I think a lightbulb just got switched on.

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Good for you!

ChangedMyName231 · 05/04/2023 22:29

Yes but fwbs, not fbs. First was a disaster as I got attached. Gave myself a year off and realised I really missed the exciting sex, so I decided to try again and successfully found not one but two new fwbs. And am also successfully unattached to either although we are great friends and message almost every day 😁

Runaround50 · 06/04/2023 07:52

I could do with a FB at this time in my life too.

Tallguy101 · 06/04/2023 15:38

Runaround50 · 06/04/2023 07:52

I could do with a FB at this time in my life too.

Then go and get one!

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