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Fuck buddy

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lele11 · 19/03/2023 14:48

Has anyone actually had a successful fuck buddy?

All the stories I've heard it puts me off

Also do you tend to stay round their house or is that not how it works

Thanks

Sar

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Kenny69 · 06/04/2023 17:17

Currently have / had a FWB for about 2 years,but she has expressed feelings for me, so we have both agreed to back to stop that relationship.

Have recently found a new FB , met this week for the 1st time, an okay meeting, both us were quite nervous, hopefully we can meet up again for some good quality NSA sex.

guiltyassin · 06/04/2023 18:25

@TeaandLemonDrizzle I am the same. Sometimes I would love to be able to have sex with someone just for the heck of it.

I honestly don't get how you can. No judgement on anyone who does, I just personally need more.

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 06/04/2023 18:31

guiltyassin · 06/04/2023 18:25

@TeaandLemonDrizzle I am the same. Sometimes I would love to be able to have sex with someone just for the heck of it.

I honestly don't get how you can. No judgement on anyone who does, I just personally need more.

I just couldn’t. Never have been able to. I’d probably just lay there! I think people need to be emotionally detached from it but I couldn’t do it. Never.

NCSexForum · 06/04/2023 20:50

I had a FB in the past, there was no emotional attachment, it was just sex and lust, we were attracted to each other a lot which is what made the sex so satisfying.

Estherpologist · 07/04/2023 07:41

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bedtimeisthebest · 07/04/2023 16:04

My wife calls her Friend with Benefits her Fuck Buddy as that is just about all they do.

With my FwB we do go out for meals and drinks, we go for walks we hold hands even when we're out and spend the night together.

With my wife and her man they just meet up and fuck and then she comes home. They have very very rarely had a meal out and they don't spend the night together.

It is what works for you and what feels comfortable.

You don't have to tell friends and relatives about it .

Runaround50 · 07/04/2023 17:22

@bedtimeisthebest do you and your wife still live together? Share a bed? How does fwb and a fb work when you spend the night away and they just fuck? Is it just an open marriage ?

Hardtime · 07/04/2023 17:44

Kenny69 · 06/04/2023 17:17

Currently have / had a FWB for about 2 years,but she has expressed feelings for me, so we have both agreed to back to stop that relationship.

Have recently found a new FB , met this week for the 1st time, an okay meeting, both us were quite nervous, hopefully we can meet up again for some good quality NSA sex.

I think that this is the difficult part - staying on the same page. The FB and Tennis analogy is a good one, if you just meet on court for singles or doubles then I imagine life is easier, being an FWB with a mid-week meal or other activities, lines are more likely to get blurred - at least for one of the players.

bedtimeisthebest · 07/04/2023 18:09

Runaround50 · 07/04/2023 17:22

@bedtimeisthebest do you and your wife still live together? Share a bed? How does fwb and a fb work when you spend the night away and they just fuck? Is it just an open marriage ?

Yes, we have an open marriage.

We live together. We share the same bed most nights except when I'm at my FwB. She never stays with him. We also have a couple with benefits who spend nights with us, due to them having teenagers still at home. They came over last night so the F and I could watch the England game whilst my wife and the other woman's husband fucked upstairs. and we're seeing them tomorrow.

It all works very well, no jealousy on anyone's part.

Wy wife has been out to dinner with my FwB and I on a number of occasions and I've met her FB quite a few times too.

My FwB and my wife's FB know about each other as well as our CwB

Runaround50 · 07/04/2023 18:16

@bedtimeisthebest wow how interesting. Relationships have certainly evolved over the years, to suit individual needs I guess.

If it works, that's wonderful. So I guess you and your wife aren't intimate yourselves then? ( or maybe you are ?) Either way, it's a good set up for our guys it seems.

Runaround50 · 07/04/2023 18:17

you guys

bedtimeisthebest · 07/04/2023 18:33

Runaround50 · 07/04/2023 18:16

@bedtimeisthebest wow how interesting. Relationships have certainly evolved over the years, to suit individual needs I guess.

If it works, that's wonderful. So I guess you and your wife aren't intimate yourselves then? ( or maybe you are ?) Either way, it's a good set up for our guys it seems.

If you mean with each other, yes.

Both together and as part of FFM and MMF threesomes with our CwB and very occasionally with her FB. Never with my FwB who really doesn't like threesomes.

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 07/04/2023 20:45

Kenny69 · 06/04/2023 17:17

Currently have / had a FWB for about 2 years,but she has expressed feelings for me, so we have both agreed to back to stop that relationship.

Have recently found a new FB , met this week for the 1st time, an okay meeting, both us were quite nervous, hopefully we can meet up again for some good quality NSA sex.

Where did you meet her? Online? Didn’t you have a tiny bit of feelings for the other one?

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 07/04/2023 20:48

bedtimeisthebest · 07/04/2023 18:09

Yes, we have an open marriage.

We live together. We share the same bed most nights except when I'm at my FwB. She never stays with him. We also have a couple with benefits who spend nights with us, due to them having teenagers still at home. They came over last night so the F and I could watch the England game whilst my wife and the other woman's husband fucked upstairs. and we're seeing them tomorrow.

It all works very well, no jealousy on anyone's part.

Wy wife has been out to dinner with my FwB and I on a number of occasions and I've met her FB quite a few times too.

My FwB and my wife's FB know about each other as well as our CwB

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You should all move in together! What fun!

Kenny69 · 07/04/2023 22:07

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 07/04/2023 20:45

Where did you meet her? Online? Didn’t you have a tiny bit of feelings for the other one?

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Yes, online, we are over 100 miles apart, so we both know the score, meet up have fun, go our separate ways.

the other lady was the same, but we were further apart, would do overnight hotel meetings, nice meals, plenty of good sex , but quite different lives, she was nice person but no really feelings from my side, as others say you need to be able to compartmentalise

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 08/04/2023 06:12

@Kenny69

That’s why I couldn’t do it. I’d fail miserably at seeing it in that way - putting aspects of my life in different compartments. I think, coming from a sexless marriage (my doing) and one which lacked connection in other areas, I want the whole thing. The fairytale. The chemistry. Lots more. I would give so much more for someone I had feelings for. Even though I am still single, I still couldn’t do it. It’d make me feel empty inside.

I can see why some people do it though but I bet it’s the women who develop feelings the most.

guiltyassin · 08/04/2023 09:17

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 08/04/2023 06:12

@Kenny69

That’s why I couldn’t do it. I’d fail miserably at seeing it in that way - putting aspects of my life in different compartments. I think, coming from a sexless marriage (my doing) and one which lacked connection in other areas, I want the whole thing. The fairytale. The chemistry. Lots more. I would give so much more for someone I had feelings for. Even though I am still single, I still couldn’t do it. It’d make me feel empty inside.

I can see why some people do it though but I bet it’s the women who develop feelings the most.

Yes, I agree @TeaandLemonDrizzle . I'm just not sure it exists 🙁

NCSexForum · 08/04/2023 10:17

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 08/04/2023 06:12

@Kenny69

That’s why I couldn’t do it. I’d fail miserably at seeing it in that way - putting aspects of my life in different compartments. I think, coming from a sexless marriage (my doing) and one which lacked connection in other areas, I want the whole thing. The fairytale. The chemistry. Lots more. I would give so much more for someone I had feelings for. Even though I am still single, I still couldn’t do it. It’d make me feel empty inside.

I can see why some people do it though but I bet it’s the women who develop feelings the most.

There are plenty of women that can separate emotions from sex, myself included, I’ve had a fair few ONS and a FB for 9 months in the past. Some people are just better at compartmentalising than others.

Kenny69 · 08/04/2023 10:17

@TeaandLemonDrizzle
rhe end of my marriage was sexless for years, I was really unhappy 🙁

im not going back to that again, the women i speak to have all been in the same boat as well.

this suits both our needs, a bit of intimacy and some sex, and no one gets upset or unhappy that you don’t want to do XYZ or have to go to some event you don’t want to.

but it’s not for everyone 🤷‍♂️

Kenny69 · 08/04/2023 10:39

There is nothing worse than being lonely in your marriage, it’s 10x worse than being single, when you are legally and financially tied to someone who doesn’t give a shit about you is the most lonely place in the world

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 12:04

@Kenny69 @Tallguy101 (or anyone really),

What is the difference between a fb and fwb? Where is the tipping point from one to the other?

I know technically what is what, but is a fb only meet, sex, go? No texting in between?

Is a fwb meet, chat, drink/eat/museum, sex, go, texting? Why ISN’T this a ‘light and chilled relationship’?

What makes it one or the other?

Tallguy101 · 08/04/2023 12:39

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 12:04

@Kenny69 @Tallguy101 (or anyone really),

What is the difference between a fb and fwb? Where is the tipping point from one to the other?

I know technically what is what, but is a fb only meet, sex, go? No texting in between?

Is a fwb meet, chat, drink/eat/museum, sex, go, texting? Why ISN’T this a ‘light and chilled relationship’?

What makes it one or the other?

You have the basic description accurate in my book of the differences between the 2. I certainly message with a FB to arrange the next meet etc but contact would be a lot less than with an FWB who I may go to gigs with etc as well as have bedroom fun.

guiltyassin · 08/04/2023 12:50

But isn't someone you have sex with, do other stuff with, chat with between seeing each other, essentially a boyfriend or girlfriend?

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 13:07

guiltyassin · 08/04/2023 12:50

But isn't someone you have sex with, do other stuff with, chat with between seeing each other, essentially a boyfriend or girlfriend?

You see, this is where I get confused too.

GentlemanJay · 08/04/2023 14:11

No. I've had two FWBs. The difference is that we only met up once a month to do nice things. The rest of the time we left each other alone apart from a couple of messages a week.

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