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Fuck buddy

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lele11 · 19/03/2023 14:48

Has anyone actually had a successful fuck buddy?

All the stories I've heard it puts me off

Also do you tend to stay round their house or is that not how it works

Thanks

Sar

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GentlemanJay · 08/04/2023 14:12

Kenny69 · 08/04/2023 10:39

There is nothing worse than being lonely in your marriage, it’s 10x worse than being single, when you are legally and financially tied to someone who doesn’t give a shit about you is the most lonely place in the world

This.

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 14:16

GentlemanJay · 08/04/2023 14:11

No. I've had two FWBs. The difference is that we only met up once a month to do nice things. The rest of the time we left each other alone apart from a couple of messages a week.

Is that not a fuck buddy though?

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 14:18

I want a monogamous person to have sex with and message a few times a week and sometimes sit in a pub or go for a stroll in a park or sit in a cafe with.

Sex = once a week or fortnight, other stuff once every two or three weeks.

What am I looking for then?

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 14:20

I think monogamous is important to me at this stage. Tested, clean, no condoms. And trustworthy. I don’t want to worry about any STDs.

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 14:21

Kenny69 · 08/04/2023 10:39

There is nothing worse than being lonely in your marriage, it’s 10x worse than being single, when you are legally and financially tied to someone who doesn’t give a shit about you is the most lonely place in the world

100% agree with this.

TeaandLemonDrizzle · 08/04/2023 14:27

Kenny69 · 08/04/2023 10:17

@TeaandLemonDrizzle
rhe end of my marriage was sexless for years, I was really unhappy 🙁

im not going back to that again, the women i speak to have all been in the same boat as well.

this suits both our needs, a bit of intimacy and some sex, and no one gets upset or unhappy that you don’t want to do XYZ or have to go to some event you don’t want to.

but it’s not for everyone 🤷‍♂️

It is a lonely existence. I was awoken by someone else which really rocked my world (I was vulnerable - sex surge of menopause and all that). I will spare the details but I started to realise how fake and lonely my marriage was and nothing my husband could do could make me want sex with him. He thought I was frigid but I wasn’t. He was s*it and anything intimate and the chemistry just wasn’t there. I had been a naive, inexperienced student when I met him (he was 30 at the time). I think this also links to why I couldn’t have a FB or FWB - I really, really have to like/love someone with deep desire for me to able to ‘perform’ correctly, if that makes sense. I am an extremely passionate female but only with the right person. Probably explains why I couldn’t kiss all those frogs all those years ago!!

And, yes, the man who rocked my world was that man who I had innocently started chatting to online back in 2018. Extremely passionate, affectionate (and he’s still in my life at a distance although we met up a couple of weeks ago) and just connection on every level BUT married. Shi*. It has broken me. He feels bad about it every time but continues to come back. I feel
like pants all the time as I am still
lonely and neglected! Not only can I not have him but I can’t get over the regret that I allowed myself to live in a sexless/no affection marriage for over a decade (married for 23 yrs). I just couldn’t pluck up the courage to tell him. I was a FOOL! I ended my marriage immediately on realising I was starting to step outside the boundaries and now I know why I did.

So, still single and lonely but no way could I do the FWB/FB thing. I need a connection more than just someone you meet up with every now and then.

Kenny69 · 08/04/2023 14:47

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 14:20

I think monogamous is important to me at this stage. Tested, clean, no condoms. And trustworthy. I don’t want to worry about any STDs.

@ForestLilac
you can call it whatever you want, but it does kind sound a bit more like FwB, especially if don’t want to move in/ meet daily/ get your lives together

Wirh my FWB, we were both SH tested and no condoms ( she didn’t want condoms, i insisted on SH testing before we stopped using them) neither had other partners ( or used condoms if we did ), but our meetings might have been months apart & she wanted more often, but we did chat between meets

wirh my new person ( who I’m not sure about yet), it s more about the physical sex ( for her) so it’s definitely condoms with her

NCSexForum · 08/04/2023 15:02

Kenny69 · 08/04/2023 14:47

@ForestLilac
you can call it whatever you want, but it does kind sound a bit more like FwB, especially if don’t want to move in/ meet daily/ get your lives together

Wirh my FWB, we were both SH tested and no condoms ( she didn’t want condoms, i insisted on SH testing before we stopped using them) neither had other partners ( or used condoms if we did ), but our meetings might have been months apart & she wanted more often, but we did chat between meets

wirh my new person ( who I’m not sure about yet), it s more about the physical sex ( for her) so it’s definitely condoms with her

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That is a lot of trust that you’re putting into another woman to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. I would never forgo condoms with a casual partner and would make sure I was on a reliable contraceptive.

Kenny69 · 08/04/2023 15:11

@NCSexForum
we are a bit older, she was post menopause,
potential new FB is still having periods, so it’s condoms with her

Tallguy101 · 08/04/2023 15:41

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 14:18

I want a monogamous person to have sex with and message a few times a week and sometimes sit in a pub or go for a stroll in a park or sit in a cafe with.

Sex = once a week or fortnight, other stuff once every two or three weeks.

What am I looking for then?

You are looking for a FWB.

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 17:32

Tallguy101 · 08/04/2023 15:41

You are looking for a FWB.

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Ok, thanks. I did try it before but didn’t like it so stopped. I realise now he was using the phrase FWB, but in reality it was a FB.

NCSexForum · 08/04/2023 19:49

Surely it doesn’t need a name, if it works for you then who cares what it’s called. There are a many different dynamics to relationships.

bedtimeisthebest · 09/04/2023 13:42

After spending last night with our Couple with Benefits having various permutations of partners we've all been to the pub for lunch and now I've just dropped my wife off at her fuck buddy for the afternoon,

She told us she is going to treat him to what she calls a CMT.

That's the three places she wants him to come, Cunt, Mouth and Tits.

Hope she succeeds and I'm guessing will be too tired for any more sex when he brings her home later.

Runaround50 · 09/04/2023 13:52

@bedtimeisthebest yours and your wife's schedule this weekend, makes feel utterly exhausted! 😀

Glad you all had fun though!

DGConsultant · 10/04/2023 00:20

@bedtimeisthebest Mind blown. Wow. Fun Isn't the word. More power to you!

Zanatdy · 10/04/2023 06:41

ForestLilac · 08/04/2023 14:18

I want a monogamous person to have sex with and message a few times a week and sometimes sit in a pub or go for a stroll in a park or sit in a cafe with.

Sex = once a week or fortnight, other stuff once every two or three weeks.

What am I looking for then?

That sounds like the guy I was seeing! He had babysitter issues and wasn’t much of a texter! Did get one most days though!

I think you’re looking for a FWB or someone who does want a relationship of sorts, but doesn’t have a whole lot of time (and you’re both happy with the arrangement).

Zanatdy · 10/04/2023 06:43

bedtimeisthebest · 09/04/2023 13:42

After spending last night with our Couple with Benefits having various permutations of partners we've all been to the pub for lunch and now I've just dropped my wife off at her fuck buddy for the afternoon,

She told us she is going to treat him to what she calls a CMT.

That's the three places she wants him to come, Cunt, Mouth and Tits.

Hope she succeeds and I'm guessing will be too tired for any more sex when he brings her home later.

Lol I love that, CMT. Will have to remember that one. I think your life sounds wonderful, I’m sure people might judge (if anyone knows in the real world) but sex is fun, if everyone is happy and they clearly are, it sounds like a great set up!

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lele11 · 10/04/2023 08:07

bedtimeisthebest · 09/04/2023 13:42

After spending last night with our Couple with Benefits having various permutations of partners we've all been to the pub for lunch and now I've just dropped my wife off at her fuck buddy for the afternoon,

She told us she is going to treat him to what she calls a CMT.

That's the three places she wants him to come, Cunt, Mouth and Tits.

Hope she succeeds and I'm guessing will be too tired for any more sex when he brings her home later.

Neither of you mind?

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bedtimeisthebest · 10/04/2023 08:45

@Zanatdy

Very few people in the real world know about our life because we know many will judge harshly, so best to keep it anonymous on here

@lele11
No neither of us mind. Zero jealousy, in fact she updated me on what they'd done when she get back last night which I found very arousing.

Zanatdy · 10/04/2023 08:52

bedtimeisthebest · 10/04/2023 08:45

@Zanatdy

Very few people in the real world know about our life because we know many will judge harshly, so best to keep it anonymous on here

@lele11
No neither of us mind. Zero jealousy, in fact she updated me on what they'd done when she get back last night which I found very arousing.

Yes I don’t blame you for keeping that info private - I would too.

Tallguy101 · 10/04/2023 16:36

bedtimeisthebest · 07/04/2023 18:09

Yes, we have an open marriage.

We live together. We share the same bed most nights except when I'm at my FwB. She never stays with him. We also have a couple with benefits who spend nights with us, due to them having teenagers still at home. They came over last night so the F and I could watch the England game whilst my wife and the other woman's husband fucked upstairs. and we're seeing them tomorrow.

It all works very well, no jealousy on anyone's part.

Wy wife has been out to dinner with my FwB and I on a number of occasions and I've met her FB quite a few times too.

My FwB and my wife's FB know about each other as well as our CwB

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Lucky you, that is some arrangement!

Flipflops123 · 10/04/2023 23:22

@bedtimeisthebest
Do you do coupley stuff with your fwb? Like massages and cuddles?

Also, have any of your fwb ever declared feelings for you? What would happen if they did?

Sorry for the questions, I find your lifestyle really interesting!

bedtimeisthebest · 11/04/2023 07:21

@Flipflops123

Cuddles certainly. Some nights together don't even include sex, just lots of kisses and cuddles. I did some time agio give her an all over massage which we both really enjoyed. She did say she would give me one back but that's yet to happen.

Flipflops123 · 11/04/2023 09:28

@bedtimeisthebest you've just reminded me that I owe my DH a massage 😂 oooops I always seem to conveniently forget! 😂

jaystone · 16/04/2023 06:11

It's easy to judge in these situations but some people just need more.

I've had fwb situations over the years mostly oral relationships you may be surprised how many men don't give this to there partners or just can't do it.

All casual yet intimate and friendly some have been amazing we both get what we want.

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