Male posters

[Judeisnotobscure]

Hey guys…may I say that I am really grateful for the male perspectives shared on these threads. Sadly I’ve read some horribly negative comments this evening. Please don’t be put off posting!

You said it annoyed your wife and you did it anyway!!

Groping men without their consent is also looked upon pretty dimly round here, even when it's said in jest.

@treasurefoil there could be lots of reasons really, the obvious ones are physically for him, stress, ED, worry , weight etc,

some are more to with your relationship, how he views you in the relationship ( mother v lover), how he views the relationship as a whole

finally ( and the most difficult), is that he might not sexually be attracted to you anymore.

@Yorkieboy i feel I probably have a similar playful dynamic with my partner, groping and play fighting!! I know he respects me, my body and my mind and I him!

+1000

If I was groping my DP’s crotch and he was annoyed by this, I wouldn’t do it again. Stating you continue to touch your wife’s breasts when she’s already said it annoys her isn’t something most people would find acceptable, that’s why people commented on your particular post, maybe see this as re-establishing your behaviour towards your wife, rather than something negative.

Just had a quick glance through "Site Stuff" on Active to see the men-bashing is continuing. We're all a bunch of pervs apparently, or men pretending to be women and getting off on that, or something.

It is a bit depressing tbh. But I'll keep on posting when I feel I want to share something or have anything useful to offer. It's a great discussion board and long may that continue despite what those who are making uninformed judgements are saying.

I like to think that some men come to a largely women's site in order to try and understand a greater female perspective on things. I take my hat off to them. However, that does not account for all male posters. I have been called "shitty" by one male poster on MN, but I don't believe in tarring everybody with the same brush.

So my view is male posters are welcome provide as in other parts of life they come with courtesy and respect and leave any double standards behind.

Women have struggled hard to get where they are today, but believe me we have not overcome male prejudice yet. We are still seen by many as entertainment centres for the bedroom. Good sex is about passion and sharing.

I posted on here a while ago( under a different name) on a sensitive topic because I wanted male and female opinion, and also I didnt just want a thread full of LTB. The advice I got was really well balanced and well thought out, and tbh much more use to me than a page full of pearl clutchers screaming that my husband was a bastard. This board would not be the amazing, balanced place it is without the male viewpoint. Please stick around guys, we want you here !

Shoot me down but I'm really uncomfortable with males posting on this topic on a site for mums. For that reason I would never post. It makes me wonder why so many men are on this thread / topic and very few on other ones about less exciting topics?!! I'm not anti men at all but can't they go onto Dads net or something? It gives me the creeps tbh which is honestly how I feel so apologies if this is an unpopular opinion

I've just posted on that thread if anyone else wants to help set the record straight!

@everywhichway wow, so many horrible options are being shared. Judging by that thread, Mum’s really don’t like sex so I am a freak 🤣 peace and love 💗

I think is pretty much par for the course really, if you look at the relationships board there are some truly awful stories that get told and LTB is the only response, but some threads deal with sex & desire & intimacy issues and LTB is just banded about like confetti, with very few thoughtful or measured responses.

Some truly horrible things were said to you today 🙁
I'm sorry if my trying to be reasonable on that thread made it worse.

@Smartishguy i absolutely lay the blame at your feet, you are a MAN after all! 😂Thank you for your apology but it isn’t needed at all! You were not the problem xx

@Judeisnotobscure I just realised I ve named changed so I may be to blame after all.

Sorry, I get confused while typing with one hand 😖

@Smartishguy stop it 🤣

the sex topic seems full of men only. If they can give useful advice, all good, but personally I prefer to hear how women feel.

I was thinking if I had time today that I might respond on to the barrage of vitriol which is coming our way. In my mind I had begun to compose something reasonable and well-balanced. I still might although I suspect that it won't make the slightest difference to some of the posters there as whatever you say they will simply not believe it. Probably it would even inflame more horrible comment. It's really very sad that some people have such a cynical view of life.

Thankfully I haven't seen too much of it spilling over into the Sex Board discussions recently which have had the usual welcome assortment of helpful and good-humoured contributions.

@Iloveabaconbutty you are way better with words than me, but I wouldn’t bother! They’re not prepared to listen and you’re too sweet to have nastiness directed at! Xx

@Iloveabaconbutty I'm feeling miserable wrapped in the dressing gown of doom today so thought I'd spend some time being reasonable.
It might have made things worse.

@Smartishguy dressing gown of doom? Noooo!! Here, I can sprinkle you with happy glitter, I have loads ✨✨✨

@Judeisnotobscure PLEASE NOOOOO!

dammit where's the vacuum cleaner 🙄

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@Judeisnotobscure @Smartishguy
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The sex topic seems full of men only?

Straight up nonsense as five minutes' read of the average thread shows.