Shaving private areas and comfort

[Abigail69]

Hello

DH loves me shaved and cleans down there. Initially, it is pleasant/etc and DH is happy but a few days after it is itchy because of stubble/etc.

I or DH uses his Gillette shaving Gel and Sensory 3 razors. Is there anything I could do to stop or even reduce the itching? At times I used med cream to reduce itching. Once the hair is a bit longer and not sharp its better ie back to normal.

I prefer a shave but the downside puts me off. Thanks in advance

Octopusmittens

this thread is so mumsnet

but I digress

so is armpit hair !
but no one getting frothy about that being shaved off

im single , no sex 😭 but I’m shaving as it’s just better for me personally

Oh how depressing it is to
see posts like “I’m starting a new relationship so obviously I need to start shaving my vulva but it’s itchy / uncomfortable, what should I do?”

fucks sake ladies

it’s not cleaner

most of you aren’t doing it for you

My DH would prefer me to shave but a) I can't be bothered. It requires constant maintenance and life's too short b) I find it itchy and uncomfortable like you do
C) it's my body and I don't really want to change it for someone else d) I really don't see what's wrong with having hair there!

same.

Actually, I’m not sure whether DH would prefer me to shave or not, I don’t think he’d dare express an opinion on it. (And I really don’t give a fuck what he thinks about the appearance of my fanny anyway)

Chuffing eck. Did the door open and loads of mardy people walk in?

It's all down to personal opinion/preference...which we are all entitled to

It's all down to personal opinion/preference...which we are all entitled to

Not that simple when women internalise the male gaze.

Not to mention their male partners actively verbalising that they’d prefer their wife’s/girlfriends to shave their vulvas, despite it being uncomfortable.

If you read the post the OP says she prefers a shave and is merely looking for advice on reducing irritation. She's not asking whether her DH should be destroyed on Mumsnet for stating what he likes

I always shave, every other day. Always have. Didn’t like the hair from a young age.
No itching, soreness at all. I don’t do it for anyone but me. I also did it before it was cool/I was aware of porn images. I feel cleaner, fresher, cooler and just more comfortable.

@Suzi888 - Exactly. I have lesbian friends who remove their hair. I don’t think somehow they are removing it for male benefit.

Why does this have to become a feminist issue? What is wrong with a woman exploring these things with a loving partner?

If it was the other way round there would be no outcry.

Not everything has to be turned into a problem caused by ‘the patriarchy’.

@yorkshireteabagman if you read the post the first sentence is

“DH loves me shaved and cleans down there.“

so, the motivating factor is the preference of the man. Also equating shaved with clean - so wrong!

@StarlightLady that’s nice for your lesbian friends. The op and others on this thread have said that they are doing it because of their partners wishes, despite finding it uncomfortable.

Why does this have to become a feminist issue?

It IS a feminist issue. Those of us highlighting that fact on this depressing thread are not making it into a feminist issue.

@EezyOozy the op actually said that she prefers a shave, but the downside puts her off.

@EezyOozy I’m sorry you find the thread depressing, however that’s on you. Please don’t try to shame the OP for asking for help.
Honestly, just hide the sex thread. Let the (male and female) shavers shave and the waxers wax ✌️

I understand that there is a distinction between doing something you desperately don’t want to do, just because someone else requires it if you. Is it not possible for a woman to do it for a man (I would say a person doing it for another person but we are specifically talking about women doing it for men) because she wants to do something nice for him? Whilst still retaining her sense of self and it not being a demeaning act for her?

messed up the first sentence there but I’m sure you get my meaning!

I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest that since this has been posted in the sex topic (rather than style and beauty or health, for example) that there are fair, few men posting on here!

I personally prefer to shave - same as I shave my underarms and legs.
I do it every 2 days as it literally takes 5 minutes of my time therefore I don't get the itchy regrowth.
I use shaving foam or conditioner and moisturise same as I do rest of my body.

Indeed I read the first sentence, it simply stated something her bloke likes. And then in the last sentence she states what she likes, and by some form of beautiful miracle they both like the same thing! Don't let it ruin your day

I'm sitting here in shock too. Some of these 'partners' sound controlling as fuck.

Shaving your intimate area should be something you do for you, and you only. It's a personal decision.
'DH likes me shaved' that's great, but it's not up to him.

Not being shaved isn't 'unclean' either. Pubic hair has a function for fuck sake.
My god.

Spot on.

Much prefer that version.

Tell him to shave all his bits and experience the delight of itch stubble. You don't need to mimic porn images or pre pubescent girls unless it is hundred percent your choice.

Fucking hell, how brave are you? I epilate upper thighs and I can manage until I hit towards the public bone, I can't tolerate the labia. I can epilate underarm fine. I used to shave intimate area for my own sake. It felt nicer but the regrowth was a nightmare. One thing I don't like is that it makes you look like prepubescent. So for that reason and because it itched/couldn't be bothered I stopped. DH doesn't get a say in how I style my body.