Too Small

[ScottishZoe]

Am I Being Unreasonable in finding men with less than 5 inches in both length and girth just far too small?

I do prefer a good 7-8", and 6"+ is still good, and I can work with 5"+ although it's not really that great.

But for under 5" I find to be just too small and coupled with slim girth, almost a case of "Is it in yet?"

Does anyone else find that a man can be packing just too little?

Maybe your fanny is too big?

My DP is about 6 inches and fairly girthy, some positions (deeper angle) can be uncomfortable, no matter how much foreplay we’ve had, so I would not want him to be any bigger.

For every lock, there is a key..

Possibly in some cases.

It's just as likely though that if you 'need' that much - then you probably have a 'baggy' vagina.

Have you had considered vaginal tightening surgery?

@ScottishZoe

I agree but it must be horrid for them.

[quote Cascascascas]@ScottishZoe

I agree but it must be horrid for them.[/quote]
Thanks @Cascascascas

Though apparently that means we need "vaginal tightening surgery"!

Though I do my kegel exercises.

I appreciate whilst we have the option to make ourselves tighter (although apparently not tight enough for some), men can't do exercises to add an inch or two to their length or girth.

I do feel sorry for 'men' with small ones, especially as I think the "Size Doesn't Matter" messaging isn't as prominent (thankfully) as it once was, so they perhaps do realise that size matters and if they pack below average that is probably just not enough. Sadly for them and their partners.

I have a very big penis but that too causes issues sometimes. You get used to working around things though... :)

@ReadyforTakeOff

Dare I ask how big?

Don't think I have come across too big before!

I recently bought a kegel8 machine for prolapse. But wow! It works on tightening everything, I mean everything, way more than what I expected and I'd recommend it.

I thought I did kegels properly beforehand- clearly not. My prolapse has almost retreated entirely (rectocele and rectal) and my partner has asked what I've done to become so much more "powerful".

I use it it twice a day every day. I'm in week 3 and I'm properly impressed. And no I don't work for Kegel8!

It’s not top of my list, a man that is good with his hands would be more important for me.

@Mxflamingnoravera

I recently bought a kegel8 machine for prolapse. But wow! It works on tightening everything, I mean everything, way more than what I expected and I'd recommend it.

I thought I did kegels properly beforehand- clearly not. My prolapse has almost retreated entirely (rectocele and rectal) and my partner has asked what I've done to become so much more "powerful".

I use it it twice a day every day. I'm in week 3 and I'm properly impressed. And no I don't work for Kegel8!

Are you using the program specifically for prolapse can I ask?

(Sorry to derail)

However much we pander to men and say otherwise, dick size matters. Making insulting remarks about women's vaginas won't change that.

Regardless of slight differences between one vagina and the next, a man is going to be able to come without any difficulty (assuming he's not destroyed his dick with porn).

Women are not the same as men. We're all built slightly differently (as has been rather nastily pointed out on this thread). Some cocks just don't hit the right spots. Most women find orgasms come easier with a slightly (emphasis on slightly) larger than average, girthier cock. But of course there are outliers who prefer much smaller, or much larger penises.

There's nothing wrong with having genital preferences. Given the orgasm gap, I think women should be actively encouraged to consider what type of cocks work best to get them off. This constant pandering to the male ego is not serving us sexually.

What's with the 'men' in inverted commas @ScottishZoe ? I'm wondering whether you're a genuine poster now.

I appreciate whilst we have the option to make ourselves tighter (although apparently not tight enough for some), men can't do exercises to add an inch or two to their length or girth.

No, but we can take pills that will practically double our size in no time. I know because it says so in all the emails I get from Russian penis enlargement schemes.

men can't do exercises to add an inch or two to their length or girth.

A man can shed fat and put on muscle, which will enhance his overall appearance and make his cock look bigger. It will also improve his sexual stamina & performance.

@Seadad

Apologies with the attacks on my body parts, I wasn't in a positive frame of mind. I was thinking back to when in the mood and then unveiling a four incher, and for me the partner then does seem less manly.

Though I appreciate that men can't help what size they have and it doesn't make them any more or less of a man.

@Rocaille

I was sadly expecting some comments, which put me off asking the question for quite a while, though I wasn't expecting surgery to be suggested.

I do find orgasms a lot easier with 6"+, as its almost an inch over average, not sure if that is what you consider to be slightly or not.

7-8" is more a visual preference and allows greater flexibility with positions and rhythm.

At the risk of you also being insulted, which I don't want, may I ask what you find to be just too small?

But I agree with the orgasm gap, if we want that to be closed we should be afraid of sharing our preferences.

@ScottishZoe It’s natural to have preferences but we should make sure we don’t make anyone feel inferior or inadequate with regards to them, as you say men can’t help what they’re born with and I’m sure they are just as capable as feeling self-conscious as what us females are. It’s very much the same as men, who prefer a certain body shape, breast size etc, you can have a preference but whether you choose to settle with that preference depends on many other factors too.

The orgasm gap in my opinion is a result of inexperience and a lack of communication. I think if we’re sharing our bodies with someone, we should be able to tell them what we like, as we know every woman’s body is different.

@Ladywholoveswine I was looking for some reassurance that I was normal or nothing wrong but turns out that a couple of posters and me require vaginal surgery or at the very least considered to be slack down there.

I don't think my original post was intentionally making anyone feel inferior, as a PP said there is a key for every ...

Look when women like myself and a couple of other posters who appear to agree with me try to communicate and because below average is too small for us, we apparently need surgery.

If men express a preference for larger breasts, do we jump on and assume they need glasses?

Would women still be considered to have issues down there if we admitted to find below 4" or below 3" just too small? Or we expected to pretend that even less than 1" would be ok?

@ScottishZoe That’s why I said it’s ok to have a preference and there’s nothing wrong with that, just pointing out we should also be mindful that we don’t make men feel inadequate because of it.
One of my ex-bf was the smallest partner I had, don’t think he was anymore than 4.5 inches, he was great at oral so the size thing didn’t really seem an issue.
Is your partner on the smaller side, or are you referring to casual partners which you’ve had sex with?

because below average is too small for us, we apparently need surgery.

What do you think average is?

@Snoozysnoozy

A man can shed fat and put on muscle, which will enhance his overall appearance and make his cock look bigger. It will also improve his sexual stamina & performance.

His cock may look bigger but it will still feel small in your -slack- fanny. Plus if he looks and feels better then he may have the confidence to find a better partner. While you'll be left searching for the 1/100 maybe 1/1000 with 7" plus

It's not just making it look bigger, it's about usable length lol. They reckon that for every stone overweight a man is, it creates about 1/2" of extra fat around the base of the penis. Which obviously affects how far the useful protruding length is. And the exact same is also true for women - the more overweight they are, the deeper the layer of fat around their vulva, and the less depth their partner's penis is going to reach.

And as the opposite piece of the puzzle, the size/tightness of a woman's vagina is equally relevant - the looser it is, the larger penis it's going to need for the same feeling of fulfilment. That's no more a slight on women with loose vaginas than it is on men with small penises. Men can't do anything about their size (beside loosing excess weight), at least women have the option of tightening things up (if they so desire).

And 7"+ is very, very rare, 1/100 men at most. So I do wonder if some people's rulers need calibrating. It's not unreasonable to want any attribute in a partner, whether or not it's realistic is another matter.

Seems to keep changing but I believe that average is a little over 5"

I'm an athletic/slim build and despite previous comments believe that I am quite tight down below.

This topic has been exhaustively discussed on this thread (among others)..
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4307260-Does-a-larger-penis-make-a-difference

Despite what anyone says the vast majority of males have a penis length of around five to six inches when erect....yes there are longer ones but they are extremely rare...