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Too Small

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ScottishZoe · 04/10/2021 08:42

Am I Being Unreasonable in finding men with less than 5 inches in both length and girth just far too small?

I do prefer a good 7-8", and 6"+ is still good, and I can work with 5"+ although it's not really that great.

But for under 5" I find to be just too small and coupled with slim girth, almost a case of "Is it in yet?"

Does anyone else find that a man can be packing just too little?

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SxWmn · 08/10/2021 11:24

When I’ve been intimate with my sexual partners in the past, I can honestly say when I’ve looked at their average cocks I’ve never thought, ‘That could do with a few more inches’, it’s about the passion, the mutual pleasure and just enjoying each other’s bodies. Statistically speaking, how many men actually have big cocks, it’s more common to see a larger cock in a porno but in reality not many men have them. I think it’s absolutely fine to have a preference but we shouldn’t demean those that don’t fit our expectations.

waterSpider · 09/10/2021 15:24

I've fucked guys every size from micro penis to 13"

There's a website/club offering $50,000 for anyone who can prove a length above 10", so I suggest you pass on the details. No-one has claimed the cash after several years.

MrJones · 09/10/2021 15:33

@waterSpider

> I've fucked guys every size from micro penis to 13"

There's a website/club offering $50,000 for anyone who can prove a length above 10", so I suggest you pass on the details. No-one has claimed the cash after several years.

Any one have Roberto Esquivel Cabrera’s telephone number?
MrJones · 09/10/2021 20:33

He has a 13” foreskin that almost touches his knee?!? No wonder he keeps a bandage on it.

Desireforsex · 09/10/2021 22:25

So you’d have to wade through 7 inches of foreskin to find his cock 😕

MrJones · 09/10/2021 22:56

@Desireforsex

So you’d have to wade through 7 inches of foreskin to find his cock 😕
No, amazingly it’s 18.9” long so you’d have to wade through 12.9” of foreskin. I had heard of him before but not his story.

Apparently, he’s been hanging weights off of it since he was a teenager.

He was trying to make his penis bigger but only succeeded in stretching out his foreskin.

Desireforsex · 09/10/2021 23:03

Oh jeez, hanging weights of your foreskin, I don’t have a penis but that doesn’t sound too pleasant. I wonder what he does when he needs a pee, or needs to wash it, so many questions 😳

me4real · 10/10/2021 01:15

A bigger one looks more impressive, that's the main thing to me. But for sure it feels better too.

Catullus5 · 10/10/2021 08:04

The sight toxicity on this thread is a pity because @ScottishZoe makes a valid point and one that I've long been puzzled about.

Showing my DW a good time is very important to me. And as we married young and didn't date much beforehand, neither of us have much experience other than with each other, which means discussions like these are particularly useful for me.

Making DW come first, oral, attention to the clit, using toys, are all things I've made a point of doing over two decades of marriage, as This Is What a Good Lover Does. And she does enjoy it. But the other evening we had sex: no oral, no nothing, just very, very slow missionary PIV. She said for her it was the best sex in ages. Her explanation was: sometimes you like chocolate but other times the roast dinner, and that's what we'd just had.

Perhaps I'm getting confused because as a man how I experience sexual pleasure in my own body is all about my cock and perhaps I am making the mistake that the clit is a direct female equivalent.

Or perhaps I'm rubbish at oral etc but given that it's something that gets us both off I think I'm OK at it. I just think for whatever reason PIV is what DW likes best. It seems like a dimension of enjoyment that perhaps doesn't have a male equivalent.

I appreciate the discussion as it means I don't have to ask my DW questions that might irritate her.

Catullus5 · 10/10/2021 08:25

My point in all this is that if PIV is that important to some, size will obviously matter to them. And also that I feel slightly misled by what I've read.

(I'm not suggesting I'm particularly well-endowed fwiw).

Lex345 · 10/10/2021 08:41

@Catullus5 I think PIV is hugely important-DH is very giving with oral and open to using toys and he is great at it-but sometimes I just really want a good fucking! Even without orgasm, the sensation of PIV cannot be replicated with clitoral stimulation and to be honest even toys are not quite the same either.
Do you enjoy oral? But still enjoy PIV? It not because someone is bad at oral that women enjoy PIV.

SexualHealing · 10/10/2021 09:48

Thank you for your honest post, Zoe. I do know that most women, in my friendship group, do wish their partner was better endowed.

The first guy I ever dated had a whopper. And the sex was incredible. I was able to orgasm without much effort, on my part.

There are other men who have also made me cum but this has been few and far between.

Bigger works better for me, and always has.

But.. Most of the larger men have been assholes (as well as some of the smaller ones). And now I have met a really lovely man. I haven't orgasmed but he makes me feel great! He loves every inch of my body and that turns me on, too. So he makes me feel good but minus the orgasm.

So, from a sexual point of view, I do wish he was bigger. But from a mental health point of view, I wouldn't swap him.

We have the best time in and out of bed, and although I shouldn't have to trade orgasm, that's exactly what I've done... But I'm not writing the O off completely..

Most women I know love big dick. It comes up in Convo a lot. But that's because we're a very honest friendship group..

Samedaysameshit · 10/10/2021 17:30

Have you told him that he’s not big enough?
I think you should as ultimately this isn’t sustainable and he need to option of moving on now before thinks get too involved.
It’s not really fair on him thst he thinks everything is great but your ‘trading down’ for your mental health,

SexualHealing · 10/10/2021 20:20

No, I haven't but if he were to ask, I would.

I don't live in the land of make believe where we pretend to orgasm. Every time he has a shed me if I've come, I've said no, because I haven't.

And if you're trying to make me feel bad for feeling a certain way, or lying to myself, you might want to give your head a wobble.

I really like this guy, but he's not great in bed. However, he makes me feel wonderful, so...

SexualHealing · 10/10/2021 20:21

*asked me

me4real · 10/10/2021 23:06

I just think for whatever reason PIV is what DW likes best

@Catullus5 I can't stand receiving oral and love PIV. Most women are partial to oral but everyone's different. I hope you're able to give her what she wants.

@ScottishZoe Ooh I had a thought- probably a PP's already metioned it but some people like penis sleeves/extenders to add length. You could get one, you don't necessarily have to explain why to him. I imagine you can get some that vibrate so they feel good to him, too.

DixonD · 11/10/2021 00:29

@Seamills

Would you rather be with a bloke with a big dick who's also a big dick, or an average sized bloke who you also get on with in other ways?

Quite happy being with a bloke with a big dick who didn’t know he had a big dick until I told him. We have been together for 18 years. Married for twelve. Safe to say that we get on with in other ways.

Of course he already knew that! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

OP, I prefer smaller myself. So size does matter to me, just in the opposite direction. There’s no way I’d want anything like 6”+.

My DH is around 5.5”, so perfect. If he were smaller, that would suit me just as well. It’s not all about the poke after all.

Catullus5 · 11/10/2021 01:59

@Lex345

FWIW I prefer PIV to recieving oral, but I think that's beside the point. Both - for a man - stimulate the same part, so there's not a huge amount of difference. Whereas how PIV feels for women isn't similar to anything a man can feel.

Back until a couple of generations ago (ie when all doctors were men who didn't ask women anything) it was thought PIV was all that matters. Now it's all about the clit. But as this thread shows, it can be a greater or lesser preference for either I'm guessing.

@me4real

I'm pretty sure I do - she's had long enough to tell me otherwise. Grin But often she hasn't known what works best for her. A lot of what does has come my suggestions after discussions like this one. I'm quite proud of what we've achieved in bed during our marriage.

me4real · 11/10/2021 21:01

@Catullus5 I'm lucky I think in that I think most PIV does stimulate my clit, although doggy style is/was my fave and unless a bloke strokes the pussy at the same time there maybe isn't a way that can directly stimulate the clit- although they do say the clit covers a wider area than we usually believe.

A vibrator used internally doesn't really do anything for me, so it's not just vaginal stimulation that's doing it usually.

2me2u2u2me · 12/10/2021 11:49

@Myotherusernamewastakenagain

Maybe your fanny is too big?
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Alonelonelylonersbadidea · 14/10/2021 12:54

If you want 5" in girth that's very unusual. I've been with some very large men and they never had that in girth. I don't know where you find such a man. Or am I misunderstanding girth as diameter?
Can I suggest fisting? This would emulate that and I love this.

I've discovered through my sexual experiences that bigger men have been lazier in bed relying on their size to just 'win the day'. My partner now is the second smallest man I've been with and it's the best sex I've ever had. He makes more effort and he seems to touch parts which otherwise were left untouched.

Size is not everything it just makes it easier. All penises are different just like all vaginas are. Some just fit each other better.

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ScottishZoe · 14/10/2021 19:43

@Alonelonelylonersbadidea

You are misunderstanding Girth
Average girth is 4.6" so 5" isn't much larger than average and certainly not up to fisting levels.

Girth is around not across!

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Tal45 · 14/10/2021 20:03

My ex was quite concerned that he didn't measure up but to be honest I didn't notice at all. I have no idea who is the biggest or smallest I've slept with, I'd say they were all about the same if asked and that it was much more about how keen they were to please me then it was about how big they were. I'd dislike being judged negatively on my boobs as much as I'm sure they'd dislike being judged negatively on their dick, to me it's just really shallow and a non issue.

Alonelonelylonersbadidea · 14/10/2021 20:25

Hahahahahahahaha @ScottishZoe that makes more sense then. Girth is circumference. Thank fuck for that!

Maybe if I weren't a fan of fisting I'd be more concerned with it then. As it is, no penis matches up anyway! Grin

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