Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Sex

You need to have been registered for 7 days to post in the Sex forum. Please don’t send unwanted PMs to other users.

Original poster

Is it desperate to message him

119 replies

KnickersInADrawer · 18/08/2021 15:51

Essentially was invited to ‘join for a drink’ for tomorrow.
A few months ago a Friend, let’s call her X, invited me out with one of her former colleagues (Mr Y) and he brought a friend along too. We all had too much to drink, Mr Y and I ended up kissing all night and he went down on me but it didn’t go any further. The next morning he asked my friend for my number and he text me to say I should have gone back to his with him and asking when I was next in his city. Flirting too such as ‘next time whisper what I’m good at’.

So a few months have passed and then he messaged me on Friday night to say he was with his friend and they were just discussing that night. He asked when I’m next in his city and I said this Thursday as I have a meeting, we discussed the meeting and he said ‘if you’re here on Thursday then join for a drink?’ I tried to be casual by responding that Thursday could be fun with a wink face. He gave a flirty response about working Hard Miss and then asked if I’m staying in his city after the exam- I responded yes and that’s where it was left.

So, do I message to ask if he’s still free tomorrow? Is that desperate? I don’t want anything other than a night of fun- I’m moving abroad next year (which I discussed with him in our texts on Friday as he has worked in the country I’m moving to) so not looking for anything serious, but equally I don’t want to seem desperate and if him not following up with a time/place is a message?

OP posts:
billy1966 · 19/08/2021 20:23

@wizzywig

Damn I'm reliving my single days through you op.
Booty calls didn't happen in my day....I would have been appalled 🙄.

If reincarnation really is a thing I definitely want a bit more fun in my 20's...the funny thing is I thought I was having a great time.

Different times for sure.😁

Itsbeen84yearss · 19/08/2021 20:33

It’s got the Ick factor for me. I wouldn’t message him. You should never have to remind a guy you exist. If he was that into you or even that interested in having sex with you he would have arranged something and travelled to you by now. He sounds like an opportunist and you sound a wee bit more sensitive given you’ve created this thread. I doubt you’ll feel great about it after.

Earlydancing · 19/08/2021 20:35

Yeah, I'm old too. Back in the day one night stands were frowned on and you got a 'reputation'. Go women these days, I say.
I think a booty call is a bit different, though. I don't approve of those. Too abusive. This is an equal relationship, with the op as eager as Mr Y.

billy1966 · 19/08/2021 20:37

@Itsbeen84yearss

It’s got the Ick factor for me. I wouldn’t message him. You should never have to remind a guy you exist. If he was that into you or even that interested in having sex with you he would have arranged something and travelled to you by now. He sounds like an opportunist and you sound a wee bit more sensitive given you’ve created this thread. I doubt you’ll feel great about it after.
This is a good point.
MintyGreenDream · 19/08/2021 20:46

Ooh I used to love a are u in town fuck back in the day

HeReWeGoAgAiN1112 · 19/08/2021 20:51

Enjoy it op. I’m 38 and a single parent. I have guy local to me and we hook up a couple of times a month. The sex is incredible but I go over to his on his lunch break, we have a good time and then have coffee and a catch up before we go about the rest of our day. It’s not at all exhilarating and exciting like this!

Sakurami · 19/08/2021 21:04

Have fun!

Northernsoullover · 19/08/2021 21:28

@MintyGreenDream

Ooh I used to love a are u in town fuck back in the day
Oh God yes! That's how they went! Happy memories indeed.
Northernsoullover · 19/08/2021 21:29

@Itsbeen84yearss

It’s got the Ick factor for me. I wouldn’t message him. You should never have to remind a guy you exist. If he was that into you or even that interested in having sex with you he would have arranged something and travelled to you by now. He sounds like an opportunist and you sound a wee bit more sensitive given you’ve created this thread. I doubt you’ll feel great about it after.
I think she might feel fabulous. She knows what's on offer.
RantyAunty · 19/08/2021 21:58

Enjoy!
Some of us who haven't had a good shag in ages are living vicariously.
Grin

HollowTalk · 19/08/2021 22:15

I want to know whether I was right about the threesome!

SeaShoreGalore · 19/08/2021 22:24

I doubt you’ll feel great about it after

Grin Some people just love to spread a bit of joy around, don’t they?

I think the OP will feel great!

TyotyaKlava · 20/08/2021 10:59

Op how was your night? Hope you had fun

Hopingforabagofbuttons · 20/08/2021 14:08

@RantyAunty
Lmao at that comment at living vicariously through Op, did make me actually laugh out loud Grin

Original poster
KnickersInADrawer · 23/08/2021 23:24

I can only apologise to you all for not updating sooner! I woke up hungover the day after and then had so much to do at work!
Anyway, there was a slightly hold up at one point when he was like ‘oh no I am held up in a meeting, a shame as I was really looking forward’. So I basically said come to the hotel afterwards. So we met in the hotel bar and had drinks. Then it was last orders so we agreed he would come up to the room for a drink. He told me to make a group chat with my friend and his friend suggesting a night out. Whilst up in the room we spoke, he did a work video call and basically then we ended up kissing and he carried me onto the bed from his chair. He went down on me, I briefly did the same to him and then you can guess what happened. After a few minutes he said ‘no I want to f*$ you properly…, I have a 5am work call, I can’t’. Then we carried on kissing and he went down on me again and briefly we DTD partially again then he was like ‘no I have to go, make the group chat and next time will be even more exciting with other people there I can f@£ you…. Or on a Friday night and you can just stay at mine’. So I was drunk and being silly but he went home and said ‘make the group chat to suggest a night and send me any photos of yourself tonight’.
So I sent a picture (no face or anything identifiable). He gave a flirty response and messaged again the following morning saying he was looking forward to the group chat messages suggesting a group night.

So it was a fun night (no regrets) but I think he obviously likes to give a performance and is a bit fixated on being ‘watched’. I might make the group chat in a few months if I’m bored/fed up of winter but otherwise not bothered.

Worth the experience though and a fun way to kill the evening Grin

OP posts:
Original poster
KnickersInADrawer · 23/08/2021 23:28

I had obviously been discussed because he said ‘both my friend and I agreed we are far more comfortable with you than Miss X’. So I don’t think he wants a threesome as such but definitely likes the being watched idea. It’s his call, if he wants another casual meet then he can message!

OP posts:
BittaOrange · 23/08/2021 23:31

It all sounds rather grim OP. Hope you have practised safe sex.

MyOtherProfile · 23/08/2021 23:36

So he just wants a group sex thing? Are you happy with that?

Earlydancing · 23/08/2021 23:36

Isn't your friend in a relationship and not putting out? Do you think this makes them more comfortable with you? I couldn't gave coped with the first time when your friends were round the corner but him actually arranging it like that.... er, no. But if you're happy with that and you had a great night, good on you. Each to her own, after all.

Itsbeen84yearss · 23/08/2021 23:48

Definitely got the ick factor

NotaCoolMum · 23/08/2021 23:58

🤢 thanks for the (very detailed) update.

RantyAunty · 24/08/2021 08:26

He sounds disappointing. I hope he at least paid for the hotel.

EarringsandLipstick · 24/08/2021 08:31

God that all sounds utterly vile. What appeals to you about it?

AlternativePerspective · 24/08/2021 08:42

Jesus .

And seriously, any bloke saying “I want to f*ck you” isn’t someone who respects women. Any woman who is turned on by that needs to raise their standards.

PeterPomegranate · 24/08/2021 08:53

I’m as boring as they come but isn’t it up to OP if she had a good time and wants to meet up again. It doesn’t matter if anyone else likes the idea really. As long as she’s safe and having fun.

There’s a lot of judgment on this thread.

And many other posters asked for a detailed update! I’m sure she wrote it for them not for the posters saying ‘I think you’ll regret it’.

This topic prevents users from posting on it until they have been members for at least 7 days.

Swipe left for the next trending thread