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Too much sex??

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flipflopshrug · 04/07/2021 11:30

Hi folks

I've recently started a new relationship, we're about 2 months in and everything has been amazing. We're still in the honeymoon phase and have basically been at it like rabbits for the whole 2 months.. last night we DTD and afterwards he said he thinks he needs a few days off as his orgasms aren't as 'intense' as they were when we first met. He thinks he needs a few days where he doesn't cum so that he can 'build his reserves' (his words) so that it'll feel 'amazing' again. He said that when we first got together his orgasms were shattering and he'd feel them all over, whereas last night it was more 'yep that's it'.

Now I feel like I'm not doing enough to please him? Mine are still amazing, don't get me wrong there are instances where they're less intense than others, but they're still amazing.

I suppose I'm asking is it normal for men to need a few days sex free to 'recuperate'?

He said he still wants to have sex but he'll just make sure he doesn't finish... to me that sort of defeats the object- sex is amazing and the closeness of being with your partner is obviously a big part of it, but without the big finale surely it's an anti-climax (no pun intended) 😂

Please let me know your thoughts?

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JustAnotherOldMan · 04/07/2021 15:01

Depends on his age and the frequency of sex, personally once a day is okay for me, but if your at is 2 or 3 times daily, then yeah a break for a day or 2 can be nice, will also depend on how much sex he has used to having recently, suddenly having to up your level of performance can be “daunting”
Enjoy Smile

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flipflopshrug · 04/07/2021 19:07

@JustAnotherOldMan

Depends on his age and the frequency of sex, personally once a day is okay for me, but if your at is 2 or 3 times daily, then yeah a break for a day or 2 can be nice, will also depend on how much sex he has used to having recently, suddenly having to up your level of performance can be “daunting” Enjoy Smile
He's 30 😊 and yes went from having none to at least once a day 😂
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JustAnotherOldMan · 04/07/2021 19:22

I wouldn’t worry then, he probably just shagged out Smile

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flipflopshrug · 04/07/2021 19:51

@JustAnotherOldMan

I wouldn’t worry then, he probably just shagged out Smile
Hopefully he'll recover quickly 😂
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BoobDilemma · 04/07/2021 22:08

Sounds great, I’m jealous Smile

ReadyforTakeOff · 04/07/2021 23:53

A few days to build his reserves?!! What a joke.. :)

me4real · 05/07/2021 03:51

@ReadyforTakeOff eh?

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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 06:08

@BoobDilemma

Sounds great, I’m jealous Smile
It is pretty great, 😬😂
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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 06:08

@ReadyforTakeOff

A few days to build his reserves?!! What a joke.. :)
..?
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Estherpologist · 05/07/2021 06:40

If you wanted a break for a few days, that would be ok wouldn't it? Park your insecurities about not doing enough for him before you start questioning whether he's into you and enjoy having more sex than most people.

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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 07:20

@Estherpologist

If you wanted a break for a few days, that would be ok wouldn't it? Park your insecurities about not doing enough for him before you start questioning whether he's into you and enjoy having more sex than most people.
I suppose I was just asking the question as I've not heard of this before. Coming from a totally sexless marriage, it's all new to me 🤷🏻‍♀️
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AverageGuy · 05/07/2021 08:36

@flipflopshrug - I'm nearly 60, and yes, I sometimes need a day or two to recover, but at 30? Confused

You say you have been having sex at least once a day - Do you live together? I wonder if it's a case of "familiarity breeds contempt" (I'm not by any means suggesting he treats you with contempt!)

Maybe the honeymoon phase is finished, and you are settling down into a more stable relationship?

Sorry you had a sexless marriage - it sucks, doesn't it?

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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 08:46

[quote AverageGuy]@flipflopshrug - I'm nearly 60, and yes, I sometimes need a day or two to recover, but at 30? Confused

You say you have been having sex at least once a day - Do you live together? I wonder if it's a case of "familiarity breeds contempt" (I'm not by any means suggesting he treats you with contempt!)

Maybe the honeymoon phase is finished, and you are settling down into a more stable relationship?

Sorry you had a sexless marriage - it sucks, doesn't it?[/quote]
I definitely don't think he's treating me with contempt.. he's constantly saying how he feels and how happy he is.

Yes we're living together. Maybe you're right re settling into stability.

And yep, sexless marriages really do suck. Mine only took 3 years to get there 😩

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JustAnotherOldMan · 05/07/2021 08:54

I suppose I was just asking the question as I've not heard of this before. Coming from a totally sexless marriage, it's all new to me

Seriously don’t worry about it, a day or 2 of not DTD will highen the anticipation and sex even better

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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 09:02

@JustAnotherOldMan

I suppose I was just asking the question as I've not heard of this before. Coming from a totally sexless marriage, it's all new to me

Seriously don’t worry about it, a day or 2 of not DTD will highen the anticipation and sex even better

I can't wait already 😬😂
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Isthisitforever · 05/07/2021 09:29

@flipflopshrug - That’s the problem with good sex, it’s addictive.

AverageGuy · 05/07/2021 09:33

@flipflopshrug - That's great news!

Isn't regular sex with someone that wants to have sex with you fantastic? (it's been a while for me Sad, but..) I'm thrilled for you!

As @JustAnotherOldMan says, don't worry about going a day or two without DTD - you probably are settling down into something more sustainable, but don't let it slip into something that isn't working for you!

Don't pester him, but drop subtle (or maybe not so subtle) hints that you are keen to go again... Or is that just me wishing it was me...

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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 09:36

[quote Isthisitforever]@flipflopshrug - That’s the problem with good sex, it’s addictive.[/quote]
Tell me about it 🙈

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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 09:36

[quote AverageGuy]@flipflopshrug - That's great news!

Isn't regular sex with someone that wants to have sex with you fantastic? (it's been a while for me Sad, but..) I'm thrilled for you!

As @JustAnotherOldMan says, don't worry about going a day or two without DTD - you probably are settling down into something more sustainable, but don't let it slip into something that isn't working for you!

Don't pester him, but drop subtle (or maybe not so subtle) hints that you are keen to go again... Or is that just me wishing it was me...[/quote]
Hints are being dropped, sexy matching underwear is being worn 😬😂

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JustAnotherOldMan · 05/07/2021 09:59

Hints are being dropped, sexy matching underwear is being worn 😬😂

Serious amounts of envy, those days are long gone for me..

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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 10:03

@JustAnotherOldMan

Hints are being dropped, sexy matching underwear is being worn 😬😂

Serious amounts of envy, those days are long gone for me..

Tbh I thought those days were gone for me too 🤷🏻‍♀️
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AverageGuy · 05/07/2021 10:08

@JustAnotherOldMan

Hints are being dropped, sexy matching underwear is being worn 😬😂

Serious amounts of envy, those days are long gone for me..

@flipflopshrug - and he still isn't biting? Confused I would be Maybe more direct methods are required?

You probably are, but try initiating next time you are cuddled up. Maybe walk in in nothing but the underwear (or nothing!)

Or maybe just tell him...

I'm as jealous as @JustAnotherOldMan...

Isthisitforever · 05/07/2021 10:22

I would be happy with every day once a week. It’s been a long time since he’s woken me up with wondering hands.

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flipflopshrug · 05/07/2021 10:33

@AverageGuy he definitely wants it... and he's seen the underwear this morning as he 'accidentally' walked in while I was getting dressed. Maybe my luck will come in later... 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Isthisitforever he always wakes up with wandering hands!

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AverageGuy · 05/07/2021 10:44

Ok, I'm very confused now.

Wandering hands, but no follow up? Did you reciprocate? Maybe he doesn't think you are interested?

Sees you in lingerie, and no follow up? Maybe you should have "accidentally" lost the bra or something... Maybe it's just me, but if I was fortunate enough to be in that position, I don't think it would have stayed on for very long...

@Isthisitforever - Flowers Sorry for you. I've been there, done that, and got the T-Shirt. Divorce was my only way out... Your mileage may vary.... But you do NOT have to put up with it. Plenty of men out there ready, willing and able...

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