Boobs affecting my confidence!

[BoobDilemma]

For quite a few years now, having smaller boobs has affected my confidence during sex, I’m not flat-chested but I am small busted. I nearly went through with breast surgery but decided against it eventually.
I’ve tried to accept myself for who I am but it’s not always easy.
Does anyone else feel this way?

@BoobDilemma (and others) there's a very wise saying - anything more than a handful is a waste...

I don't consider myself a boob man, or a leg man, or a bum man. I like the person, not the attributes.

Thank you all for your input, it has definitely helped me.

I sometimes hate mine thanks to my now ex DP making all sorts of comments about his ex’s “massive rack” and how bigger is better
They’d always been smaller and I’ve breastfed but really I never hated them before. They fluctuate with hormones so it depends on which part of my cycle I’m in.
I wouldn’t really want implants though. I like how sensitive they are and I like how they’re perky they’re not really affected by gravity despite my advancing years l.
Nobody in the past ever had an issue with them.
I have to try to not let his comments get to me

@federerballs

I sometimes hate mine thanks to my now ex DP making all sorts of comments about his ex’s “massive rack” and how bigger is better They’d always been smaller and I’ve breastfed but really I never hated them before. They fluctuate with hormones so it depends on which part of my cycle I’m in. I wouldn’t really want implants though. I like how sensitive they are and I like how they’re perky they’re not really affected by gravity despite my advancing years l. Nobody in the past ever had an issue with them. I have to try to not let his comments get to me

Maybe you should have compared him to an ex partner of yours and his massive part and told him how bigger is better. He was been cruel.

My FWB has large boobs and she hates them and sometimes feels uncomfortable being naked with me, but I assure her that it's her that I like and the size of her boobs is not important to me.

I have had partners with small boobs and that's always been fine too.

I once had a girlfriend who was completely flat chested and she was very happy with that. even going topless on the beach.

If men are decent they like/love you for who you are, not for what you've got.

Breasts are the gift that keeps on giving. From our first interaction with them to our musings and memories when temptation has long since avoided us, they fascinate most men with a pulse, whatever their sexuality.
We can differentiate breasts, nipples and areolae by size, shape, colour, shade, their softness and their firmness, temperature, changes throughout the monthly cycle and how they respond during lovemaking.
And yet, when we are offered the opportunity to meet the bumps under your jumper - not always perfectly matched, sometimes part way through surgery or after a mastectomy - the answer seems to come back "Yes please".
They are as part of you as your laugh, your accent, the colour of your eyes or hair. Anyone who is only after a collection of perfect identikit parts isn't worthy of you in the first place.

Breastfeeding three babies has changed my breast size. They are not just there for a sexual purpose but to give our babies the best start in life. All boobs are amazing in their own unique way.

Hi, OP

Mine are huge and I hate them. So much so that I always keep my bra on during sex. I would do anything to have smaller, pert ones. I can't afford to go private.

I've never liked them as they are too big for my frame, and look ridiculous. Honestly, you are one of the lucky ones. Big boobs ARE overrated.

Don't worry, I was a 'titless wonder' but it helped me to look good in bra-less dresses for more years.
Now I am older they have kept their shape compared with some I see at swimming club.

I've got a small frame but quite large boobs. I feel self conscious about them, they almost look like they're on the wrong person! I'd like to be smaller. I wish we could all feel beautiful, just the way we are.

@Aliceclara

I've got a small frame but quite large boobs. I feel self conscious about them, they almost look like they're on the wrong person! I'd like to be smaller. I wish we could all feel beautiful, just the way we are.

You are all beautiful just the way you are.

First off, I'm a man and I prefer small boobs (not that it's something that's ever affected my decision to date someone). I'm sure I'm not alone, in fact I suspect for many men the thought of big boobs is far more appealing in theory than the actual reality of them.

Anyway, my now partner was in a similar position to you when I first met her, she said it was a self confidence thing, although I think she meant small boobs affected her appearance clothed rather than purely in the bedroom. To me, she had an amazing figure - size 8-10 with in proportion b cup boobs. But she wasn't happy with them.

We weren't in a serious relationship at that point, although I still tried to talk her out of having them enlarged. I was concerned that she still wouldn't be happy, that they'd look 'fake', and that she couldn't really afford it either. I'm not sure if the self confidence thing was actually trying to reattract her ex. She went through with having surgery and went from a B cup to a C.

I have to say they do look great (not better than before, to my eye, but just equally as good). They're still very natural looking, and not out of proportion to the rest of her figure. I've not noticed any real change in her personality or self confidence though, either that's a very sub conscious, deep rooted thing, or it hasn't turned out to have had a positive effect. I did suspect her slight unhappiness was due to other reasons (the ex). I'm not sure if she's actually a bit underwhelmed by the lack of improvement to her self confidence, but she does say she's happy with them now. She's also well over her ex now and in many ways in a much happier place anyway.

That's not the end of the matter however. About 6 months after having the implants, she started to get ill. After a year she was chronically ill. Her GP was useless, and eventually it got so bad I pushed her to go to A&E. She was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, and was hours/days away from death. She spent a month in hospital and had life changing surgery.

Now that could have been a total coincidence (and most women who have implants don't get any side effects like that), but have a google for breast implant illness/implants and autoimmune diseases.

Oh my - I love small breasts. We're all into our own things - be yourself and know that we all find you all attractive !

@altmember

First off, I'm a man and I prefer small boobs (not that it's something that's ever affected my decision to date someone). I'm sure I'm not alone, in fact I suspect for many men the thought of big boobs is far more appealing in theory than the actual reality of them.

Anyway, my now partner was in a similar position to you when I first met her, she said it was a self confidence thing, although I think she meant small boobs affected her appearance clothed rather than purely in the bedroom. To me, she had an amazing figure - size 8-10 with in proportion b cup boobs. But she wasn't happy with them.

We weren't in a serious relationship at that point, although I still tried to talk her out of having them enlarged. I was concerned that she still wouldn't be happy, that they'd look 'fake', and that she couldn't really afford it either. I'm not sure if the self confidence thing was actually trying to reattract her ex. She went through with having surgery and went from a B cup to a C.

I have to say they do look great (not better than before, to my eye, but just equally as good). They're still very natural looking, and not out of proportion to the rest of her figure. I've not noticed any real change in her personality or self confidence though, either that's a very sub conscious, deep rooted thing, or it hasn't turned out to have had a positive effect. I did suspect her slight unhappiness was due to other reasons (the ex). I'm not sure if she's actually a bit underwhelmed by the lack of improvement to her self confidence, but she does say she's happy with them now. She's also well over her ex now and in many ways in a much happier place anyway.

That's not the end of the matter however. About 6 months after having the implants, she started to get ill. After a year she was chronically ill. Her GP was useless, and eventually it got so bad I pushed her to go to A&E. She was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, and was hours/days away from death. She spent a month in hospital and had life changing surgery.

Now that could have been a total coincidence (and most women who have implants don't get any side effects like that), but have a google for breast implant illness/implants and autoimmune diseases.

That is actually one of the reasons I decided against it, some people were reporting side effects after that haven’t been there before.

I don’t know what happened with genetics, as my Mum has large boobs.
I feel much better about them now though and that’s a positive in my opinion.

Thanks for all the other posts too.

@Fruititty

I am a member of the itty bitty titty club with a pair of double As. I love them and all my partners have loved them too. I am quite fascinated by big knockers though and would love to have a feel of a pair but that's a whole different thread.

Me too! Mine are small, always have been. There have been times over my life when I longed to have them just a little bit bigger. But now I am 53 and I really appreciate the fact that they don’t sag and I can happily go without a bra. My partner loves them. Infact I’ve never had a partner who didn’t.

“A bonus is the fact that she is now in her mid fifties and has pert breasts without any sag, or veins.”

I know you’re trying to write a kind, supportive post, xpc316e but there’s no need to offend others at the same time. I knew sag was not generally appreciated, but are veins something I need to add to my list of worries now?

My past partners have had massive to small boobs, I loved them all
My wife has small boobs which has the advantage for her not having to alway wear a bra
Also no back ache which was an issue for a previous larger partner

Recently rejoined the world of sex and have a new partner (well, it has happened twice so perhaps I am getting ahead of myself!) but.. I am feeling self conscious about my small breasts.
They are small and, unfortunately, saggy due to breastfeeding for two years.

The people who are saying they would prefer natural small breasts over fake.. but even small and with Sag? Mine are very soft and I can't help but think he will hate them.
I have worn not just a bra but a top during both sexual encounters.
Considering a breast enlargement but very nervous about that for health reasons particularly potentially not finding lumps as easily.

@BootySOS Oh no, don’t go and have surgery! I don’t normally advocate getting drunk to have sex but could you have a few glasses of something and just let yourself go? I think you need to rip of the plaster and then it’s done, he’s seen them and what will be, will be, but I’m 99.9% sure he won’t see what you do.

Touch them yourself. You say they’re soft...surely that feels nice. I have read these threads before and seen comments from blokes who love soft breasts. You still have something to play with and grope, you hopefully enjoy them being played with so you both have another thing to enjoy and he will love turning you on.

Blokes get a bad rap for this kind of thing but actually, most men are really decent and like normal women, with all their lovely flaws. We only see the vacuous, image-conscious men on tv who appear to want a Barbie doll, but I’ve not found this to be true in real life. Most men don’t really have a preference and just like exploring and having fun. If they’re into you, they will just want to have access to your body so they can play.

Please don’t overthink this. It can become a real stumbling block the longer it goes on and some of that initial passion comes from the nerves and being open with each other. Being super self-conscious is denying you both something amazing and ultimately, if he’s one of the 1% who is going to have an issue with you boobs, you’d be better off finding out now so you can move on to a nice guy.

Good luck x

Ah, well I spent my teenage and early 20's being a tad self - conscious about having big boobs, but then they bece fashionable, so that was handy. Still developed a hangup from a twat BF saying I had small nips - so you can't win! I suppose they aren't that big, however, as they give ever so much erotic sensation, I don't really care. TBH I think being able to get your rocks of from having them played with is more of a bonus than whatever size they are.

I like small bobs. genuinely think they look great.