Sex survey 4. It would be great but I simply couldn’t.

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This, like all my planned survey questions, only needs very simple answers and no justification. Only women need reply. Before anyone asks, I have no good reason to want to know the answers other than curiosity.

Situation: the first time you are going to have sex with a new man. There are lots of things you have done sexually before that you enjoyed. But is now the right time for all of them? After all it is the first time with him and who knows where the relationship will go.

Question: name one (sex) thing you have done before and you enjoyed that you would not do the first time you have sex with a new man. If it’s been a long time since you had a new man, please feel free to use your imagination about what you would and wouldn’t do. “Nothing” (as in you wouldn’t restrict yourself from anything you enjoy) is a valid answer.

My answer: swallow or generally let him cum anywhere except in a condom.

I wouldn’t trombone a man on a first date. That would have to wait a couple of weeks

Fuck without a condom. That takes talking, testing and trusting and that's unlikely to have happened by the first time.

Swallow. Unprotected sex. Anal.

Nothing that put my health at risk, so nothing unprotected.

Anything unprotected. That comes with time, exclusivity and and mutual visits to the STI clinic.

Unprotected sex is the perfect answer that I should have thought of. Let me change the question to assume that's not going to happen.

So something you enjoy but wouldn't do that time, excluding unprotected sex.

Bondage. Again, it's a trust thing.

Would not attempt to make a partner squirt on a first date.

Anal or rimming. Enjoy it, but never do it the first time I'm with someone new

@RickDeckard - (presuming you’re a man, sorry if not) why not? That’s one of my favs and probably a sure fire way to get me back for round two lol

I would do most things but I wouldn’t cum swap on a first date.

I want to change my answer.

I wouldn’t rim on a first date.

@BluebellForest836 haha... Fair enough. I definitely get third dates out of it. Can be a bit intense and uncomfortable if they've not done it before though. Hence leave as a drip feed for date two once kink and boundaries established. Yes, I'm a fellah... And I'd rim on the first date

@RickDeckard - I get your point, it can be pretty intense which is probably why I love it.
haha, probably hypocritical of me here but I’d expect to be rimmed on a first date but I just wouldn’t offer it

Everyone kept saying unprotected sex.

I wouldn't have any sex with him if I didn't feel/know it would be ok unprotected.

@mellowww you must wait a long time til you sleep with someone by the time you get sti tests everytime or you trust really easy.

I'm with @mellowww. I wouldn't have sex with someone if I hadn't had the STI chat, tests and it was safe to do unprotected (ie without a condom). I'd probably still use one anyway.

@mellowww

Condoms, they're great for reducing the risk to something I am ok with in exchange for the benefits. Everyone has a different judgement of where that is, and that's wonderful.

BDSM.

Normally oral

[quote BluebellForest836]@mellowww you must wait a long time til you sleep with someone by the time you get sti tests everytime or you trust really easy.[/quote]
I wait a very long time!

Not keen on strangers. Prefer long acquaintance.

I just wouldn't feel good judging how far it was medically safe / infection-risk free to go. I'd need that dealt with. Some of it will most likely be judgement, but yes also discussion/checking. All a bit passion-killing.

The longer you know someone and more you know about them, the better, I guess.

It goes without saying I wouldn't have PIV sex without a condom for some time, if at all. I personally like using condoms.

Oral sex is low risk for AIDS so I wouldn't have a problem with that without a condom, and I always swallow, otherwise I think I'm not doing a good job. Mind you IDK if I would bother much in future as I'm trying to never do anything sexual that's a 'chore' again.

I probably wouldn't do pegging with a new guy straight away.

But I CBA with sex at the moment, so all this is moot.

Oral sex

Fisting. Anal.

Thanks for the replies although I was hoping for some more boring ones :)

The ones that I would list too are:

Anal, Oral, Swallow

All great but not the first time.

But I think I might even restrict the sex positions to missionary and me on top. I am not sure if I really want to do it doggie style or standing the first time.