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[eastie1122]

Oral sex has never been within my comfort zone, but I really want to try and please my partner in this way as he has said he enjoys this!
Any tips on how to boost my confidence and make this as enjoyable as possible, for both of us!

I've only ever given oral sex to DH (he's the old person I've slept with)

I've never understood the disgust people have with semen,
Maybe I'm just lucky as DH's is very mild tasting and I have no issue with swallowing.

My tip would be to talk to your partner, everyone is different and enjoys different things.
Ask him what he likes.

..is it just me ,or are these threads increasingly consisting of men describing what amounts to abusive, manipulative behaviour toward women? (expects heap of abuse to fall on head) vulnerable women being abused. Couldn't look any more obvious to me. These men(?) should be ashamed of themselves.

We are eternal.... You've answered your own question! You've never understood the disgust... because you've only tasted one man and he is mild tasting.

We're into all sorts of kink and I'd like to be able to swallow etc but I find it tastes foul to me. If it didn't it would be fine!

Remember you don't have to do it until he comes, if it's a new thing for you that might be quite a lot of pressure! Nothing wrong with starting him off/teasing before moving to full sex. :)

user are you suggesting oral sex is tantamount to abuse?

Thanks again, I do do oral just for a bit before full sex, I just want to be able to do it till he comes, just gonna have to practise as said before!
I don't think it's abusive me wanting to please my husband, I love and trust him no end, and it actually really turns me on the fact that I am doing this purely for him and that I am making him hard, want to ejaculate etc! I love taking care of him, cooking, cleaning etc and this is just part of that

My tip is to get some flavoured lube and apply all over the area, lick off as in licking and sucking on a lovely nice lollipop! Takes care of the taste problem.

Angryyeti that is a good idea! I never thought on that!

user1471535250 sorry but shut up!
If you read my posts o said she shouldn't do anything she doesn't want to, and OP has said constantly she isn't doing anything she doesn't want to do in a loving respectful relationship!
If you've got nothing to add leave it alone

User, I can see you across many threads this morning almost going out of your way to upset as many people as possible.

Can I suggest we just ignore this toxic little bunny, it's probably just another Daily Mail Scumbag tabloid hack....

Can only surmise that USER is a "wanker." obviously sticking your dick into a woman who is consensual is tantamount to abuse.

This annoys me no end. Clearly user isn't in a position to offer themselves fully, trustingly and lovingly to their partner, I just wanted some advice on how to take our sexual relationship to the next level of enjoyment, for both of us!

Ignore them Eastie, you partner is a lucky man to have you.

Thank you. I do try
I just think that continually growing your love and desires is the best way to keep your relationship strong!

Its paramount to a good relationship. Open, honest discussions about everything, sex included. Good communication is the key.

How can it do any harm?

So USER.

The good Lord gave me this aperture. Lets call it a love wand. When it is full of blood there is an animal instinct within me that wants to put it into female moist parts. The females seem to want the love wand because by being moist they are open to receiving it. In fact they actively encourage the love wand by using their hands or mouth, sometimes they talk to it. When the love wand enters the female they shout at me to do things. They shout things like, "don't stop" "harder" "deeper" they use longer sentences as well for instance "Oh God that's it, right there, don't stop". This is sometimes accompanied by moaning noises.
As for any abuse? The love wand has been known to spit at females. It seems to take on a life of its own at a certain point and this spitting cannot be helped, however this spitting and the fluid it spits has been known to produce life. In my case two lives. I don't know if my love wand is an abusive tool or not, but to date no female has ever said to me. "do not come near me with that thing again".
SO I can only assume that these females love to be "abused" by the love wand. They seem to show it lots of affection, before, during and after the "abusive" period.
HTH :)

Noego what a perfect response to the biggest load of bollocks!

How often do you all have sex? This is another question which frequently comes to my mind, what is a "normal" sex life

I personally don't mind the texture or taste. But from experience if you aim it to the roof of your mouth, as far back as feels comfortable then swallow you hardly notice the taste or texture.
Have a glass of water at the side to have a quick drink afterwards too.
I also notice if we've had sex a lot the night before, then I give him a bj in the morning there isn't as much stuff, which might help.
And brushing your teeth or having a strong mint before means you don't taste it as much.
If you can't get over the swallowing though, don't worry about it. It's supposed to be fun for both of you and if you're constantly worrying about swallowing it will spoil the whole thing.
You could just finish off, by letting him cum on your boobs. My boyfriend actually prefers that.
I'm just not keen on the clean up, so tend to only do it if I give him a bj in the shower.

With regards to a 'normal' sex life, There's such a thing. It's what works for you and your partner.
My boyfriend and me, 2/3 times a day. But we don't live together and tend to see each other 4/5 times a week. But then we didn't do it for the last 6/8 weeks of me being pregnant or the first 6 weeks after. Although it's important to us, it's not the most important thing.

I find men that ive slept with quite like it if you pull the foreskin back and lick the tip really gently, just run the tip of your tongue round it. Lick his balls too, suck them into your mouth...DO NOT apply any pressure unless you want to send him through the roof. Use your hands and mouth at the same time. Try and deep throat if you can, I can't really do it, I sometimes push it into my cheek instead. Instead of just going up and down when you're sucking, try going forwards and back at the same time with a sort of rolling motion with your head. It's a very pornified move but my current partner loves it.

Get him to the point of coming then slow down so it subsides then do it again...tease him a bit

Thank you for the advice, I really will put it to use....once the night shift run ends! I'm so nervous!

How did it go?

Top tip from a professional cock sucker: ASK HIM what feels good. Tell him to give you ongoing verbal feedback, so that when you're doing something great, he says "Oh fuck yeah" or whatever.

Generally speaking in my experience, most guys really just want to feel that you're enthusiastic and doing it because you're enjoying it too, not because you feel "obliged" to return the favour.

Technique will vary depending on what he likes and how big his cock is. If he's large then you'll need to use a lot more hand action. If he's on the small side then deep throat will be easy.

Don't forget to pay attention to his balls too. It's not all about the cock.