MMF threesomes

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Thought about name changing for this but fuck it.

I haven't had a threesome before but it's something I've been really interested in doing. I have a few fuck buddies at the moment and it turns out that two of them have realised that they know one another. They have discussed it between them and would be up for a threesome with me. They are both straight so aren't planning to interact with one another.

I was contacted by Chap 1 who told me that he and Chap 2 had discussed it. I messaged Chap 2 who has confirmed he's up for it.

Is this a really bad idea? It has the potential to be really awkward, doesn't it? I'm not after a relationship at the moment so I am enjoying having people I can meet in a NSA way. But I'm still chatty and flirty and cuddly on "dates". I'm just wondering how this'll work with two guys.

Has anyone else done this? Any tips?

I'd ditch both chaps 1 and 2 because it seems somewhat disrespectful that they disclosed their arrangement with you to each other. I'll admit that I don't have any FB experience though .

No experience but I'd say that if you're all up for it then go for it! I'd say consider your relationships though and what you expect afterwards, i.e. Continuation of the same or revert back? Also be a bit careful that it's in the right context i.e. They're mature enough to handle it and not going to be rumour spreading about you etc! But I know it's something that consenting adults do and it's not that unusual I don't think (well inviting others into relationships!) but think this is less risky because it's not like you're married to one then the situation wouldn't affect potentially the marriage iuswim

PP makes a good point. Given they clearly discussed you behind your back and (presumably) without your consent, could you trust em to have a threesome with?

If you think yes, and aren't bothered by them talking then I'd say go for it. Why not? I don't see why it should make things any more awkward or anything. I don't see it necessitating a relationship with with afterwards. If you don't enjoy it then don't do it again, if you do enjoy, there should still be no pressure to repeat unless YOU want to

They are disrespectful.

From my experience talkjing to guys the here's the convo they had:
'Hey, I've been fucking this bird, startled her name is'
'Not startled from MN?'
'Yeah that's her,do you know her?'
'Yeah, I'm fucking her as well.' The two high five and continue, 'you reckon shed be up for a spit roast?' Much laughter followed,
'I bvet she would actually, I reckon wed convince her at least' high fives follow,
'Yeah I'd be up four that, I ain't gay though so I'll have te front you have the back right?'
'Yeah and we'll switch half way'
'Nah, I aint having your sloppy seconds'
Then followed much planning and fantasising about having a woman p!leasing them both and very little thought of hiow they would please or treat her.

So on and so forth.
Basically turning you into a masturbatory aid for the two of them. If that appeals, you crack on.

It's a let down from my experience. Mine was FFM & the fantasy was far better than the reality.

Look, if you want to do it then do it. It's hardly like you'll be in a relationship with either of these guys anyway.

Just make sure you set some ground rules first and keep yourself safe

Hmm Demanmodmar, that is sort of what I'm worried about.

To clarify I met both men via FabSwingers. In my profile, I say that I am curious about threesomes. FS has a "verification" system where people basically leave Trip Advisor style feedback. I think it's a bit weird (like leaving a restaurant type review for a private dinner party) but if someone nice veris me, I'll reciprocate. So chap 1 and chap 2 are both on my verifications list. So chap 1 recognised Chap 2's username.

Do you see either outside of the sex? If not then go for it, it's not like you're 'friends' with either in that case. They're there for sex and sex only, and as you've said, your profile suggests you'd like to try a threesome

Go for it.
I've had a couple of MMF and it was great fun.
If you're all single then who's it hurting.

If you're on fab swingers then it seems like you're all into a slightly non conventional sex life anyway so iTs no like they're new to this type of thing (I.e. Boys in the playground speak from a PP - I'd say it wasn't so much that, more exploring their sex experiences perhaps!?)
If there are comments left by previous 'acquaintances' can you check they're 'ok'?

My immediate concern was exactly what has already been mentioned, but seeing as you met through FabSwingers then I don't see the issue.
If this is something you fancy, you already know these 2 chaps, so I can't see the problem.
Make sure you have the boundaries agreed before you get into a room together. Stay safe and have fun.

It'll either be hugely awkward OR really great or just a bit meh.You have to think about how you feel if it's hugely awkward, if you're the sort of person who can just chalk it up to experience then go for it BUT if you're not then I'd give it a miss.

Go for it if you trust them. MMF is awesome and beats the hell out of FFM.

What does their feedback say on tge site? Have they done this before? Do they live near you and will they be discrete?

TheNaze Why was it a letdown if you dont mind me asking?

Make sure you confiscate their phones during proceedings unless you fancy being shared over the net too.

Oh I miss Fabs!

It's not disrespectful of them to have propositioned OP because both men are visible in OP's verifications and it's easy enough for them to work out that they know one another.

As for flumble's comment, discretion is highly valued in the swinging community and live broadcasting of meets just doesn't really happen.

As for MMF, it's fun but not as fun as MFF in my opinion! But still fun.

Go get 'em! I'm also now wondering if I ever met either of them during my three years of Fabbing!

Your not in a relationship with either one, so don't worry about all this disrespectful nonsense.

I have always enjoyed the MMF threesomes I've had. My husband and BF enjoy them also, although they are not exactly threesomes as such because my DH just takes a passive watching role.

Just relax, and have fun......

That was a fantasy of mine many years ago. But married for 20 years now, and it will stand a fantasy :) Hope it works out!

Go for it, what have you got to lose?

We do it 3 or 4 times a year, with my mate. Cavewoman loves it (she instigates when we do it). I have posted about this before.
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I bloody hope this namechange works!

I'm on Fab too, and would probably still feel a bit miffed if people I knew plotted behind my back ... guess I'd feel better if they met face to face e.g. at a club and realised they both knew me rather than one sifting through the veris for a likely candidate to help fulfil his fantasy ... can't explain it any better. I'd ideally want one of them to suggest it to me, with a view to me contacting the other IYSWIM .... but it is very true that Fab kind of skews 'normal' etiquette and if you like and trust both guys and want to try mmf then maybe this would be an ideal opportunity nonetheless ?

I've only done it twice - am quite a newbie, once with my partner and a guy I already knew and felt very comfortable with and it was amazing being the centre of attention, with them insisting it was all about me. The other time it was partner again who's bi, and another bi guy .... which meant we didn't have to worry about who was touching what, and it felt extra naughty for that .... although both guys messed about a bit their interest was mostly me again. I feel very lucky to have had those experiences, each time the men were extremely considerate of me and what I felt comfortable with. Would definitely do it again.

I was on a similar website to fab a few years back and had a mmf threesome.

It was without a doubt the hottest experience of my life. Loved every moment of it. So I say go for it!

Always thought about repeating the experience but worried it couldn't live up to the first time, so haven't. One of the men involved when I did it was not at all local and in the area on business so there was no hope of recreating that exact combination. If it's not for you, you don't have to do it again, but I'd say it's definitely worth trying at least once!

Well, we did it. I wouldn't say it was the hottest experience of my life but it was very enjoyable. I liked being the centre of attention. The interaction between the two chaps was interesting. They were so polite to one another. When Chap 2 left first, they shook hands. For some reason, that amused me. I'm sure Debrett's advises that two men who have just shared a woman for everyone's sexual gratification, should definitely shake hands at the end of the evening.

Yay

I'm kinda jealous.

how Cordial!

Respect!