Anal sex problem

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I've recently started seeing someone and we're both really enjoying exploring sexually. He mentioned anal sex and um...licking me there as turn ons and I said I didn't like anal. I've only done it once years ago and I didn't love it but the reason I said I don't want to is because since having my son I've had haemorrhoids and sometimes they feel ok, other times if I'm constipated (which I do tend to suffer from unfortunately), it can all get quite painful and bleed . I'm also aware that I have a little skin tag down there because of the piles and I'm quite self-conscious about that, I worry about him noticing it when we're doing it doggy style but try to put it out of my mind and assume he's focusing on other things! But obviously with something like rimming it would be more obvious and I just find the idea a bit mortifying which is a shame as otherwise, hygiene issues aside I'd definitely be up for trying it.

And as far as actual anal goes, is that even possible with piles? Has anyone experienced that? I'm worried about pain and possible bleeding both from a not wanting to damage myself point of view and from a being hideously embarrassing point of view. But I really would like to try it if it is possible, I don't want to just close the door on it altogether so to speak .
I wouldn't want to rush into things but I'd like to get some idea if this is something that would even be feasible. I know I should probably mention my problem but honestly at the moment I'm just too shy about it, I want him to see me as a sex goddess not a person with piles!

I like anal sex, but it is definitely not for everyone.
It doesn't really sound like a good idea for you. You don't sound that keen and it's a very bad idea if you have piles.

And although lots of lube is vital for anal, I hate to see it given as the sole piece of advice for people wanting to try it. This is why it ends up hurting people. Far more preparation is needed.

Laughing at enflaming I know you have a pesky skin tag but setting fire to your arse is not the way forward .

Op, it doesn't have to be permanently off the table. Get your haemorrhoids healed and then go for it!
I would advise lots of lube, very slow with you being in control, agree to stop immediately if you want/need to. Use a condom (it is very uncomfortable and messy for you afterwards otherwise)
Have fun!
There is another thread on the sex topic about tips.

It is very interesting that all these men that want to do anal ALMOST NEVER suggest that they want to be on the receiving end, just saying!

Have you tried anything up there OP? You could always try and have a little play yourself, maybe with a toy? That would give a bit of an indication about comfort etc?

Not so in my ex's case, Treasonable. Very keen on anal with a woman, and very keen on getting some action in that area for himself! It was actually my hetero-normative prejudices that were a problem in that regard.

no so in my case either Treasonable
My GF wanted it up the arse, I suggested we try the strap on. She enjoys it but still prefers it up her chuff.

There are lots of women that like it up the bum without any pressure from men.

Treasonable you are so wrong. Anal really isn't my thing however, I split up with my DW in 2010 having been married 12 years & of 15 or so partners I've had since then, all bar one lead on it and almost expected it. It was a real eye opener (not a euphemism)

of 15 or so partners I've had since then, all bar one lead on it and almost expected it
They all wanted to do you up the arse?

(assuming you are a man)

Haha yes, I'm male.

No, they all were the ones leading it & there was an expectation that I'd be giving it not receiving it. The whole outlook on sexual expectations & female grooming etc over the last 18 years has changed dramatically. I was genuinely shocked

I probably wouldn't OP. I had piles after my DC for years and any attempt at anal was excruciating. It was just about ok if it was someone with a very small penis, but still not pleasant. Any bigger than small and it was agony.

But...I had my piles removed a few months ago with an operation called HALO, and now my bum hole is like new again, and anal is not a problem. See your GP, and they can refer you.

I also have a skin tag which I wanted to get removed at the same time. The consultant said he could do it but there was a good possibility that I could end up with fissures if it didn't heal right, which would be very painful for the rest of my life. I decided to leave it!