can I ask how long you had known dh/dp

[NorfolkEnchantsToday]

Before you did anything sexual?

I'm curious.
I've met someone id quite like to be in a relationship with but now I've met him and dated him 3 times I'm not sure of the etiquette

Married and living with someone or married and separated? Two different things.

Really sorry if it's the former x

Married married.
Facebook tells me they are having a lovely time at home this weekend. Not in Devon at all!
Never mind

I'd be tempted to "like" the Facebook post!

I'm tempted but not sure if it's worth it as we aren't Facebook friends.
I'm tempted to see him Monday and act like everything is okay before I drop that in.
Then I might play adulterer bingo- 10 points for every cliche

1, I stay for the kids
2, I didn't tell you cos I don't want to loose u
3, I don't love her
4, she doesn't understand me

nooooo definitely don't meet up with him!

As much as it would be fun to watch him squirm it's not worth the fall out and he really isn't worth anymore of your time.

how did you meet him?

If you're questioning it, then I don't think you're ready to have sex with your new guy.

Imo if you're ready you're not worried about him leaving you after it.

Oh major crossed posts. Sorry

Online dating of all places

Just cut all contact and block sweetie.

He doesn't deserve a nanosecond more of you.

It's hard on a website to gain intuition but you obviously had some sense tingling to give you doubts.

Don't give up hope. Not every guy is a twunt.

I just don't know what I do wrong it's so disheartening
I've had married
One guy said he was 42,'looked 42 turned out to be 57 and lied
Then there was the guy who was 47, said 33 fessed up when we met and I was he also was a front for UKIP

There's more stories too

So, sorry Norfolk.

I can't believe it

Just read this thread. I'm so sorry op. What a total cock. I know it hurts now but I agree you need to walk away head high and block him or it'll mess with your head and heart. I did online dating and slept with a couple of people before realising they were total wankers.
I ultimately met my fiancé on match and he's ace so please don't think nobody is out there. Just move on and take care of yourself. Married or not he's not a keeper by the sounds of it so you've dodged a bullet .

Thank you

I'm
Just so relieved I've come out of this not bad and can walk run away as fast as possible

Norfolk what happened is awful but you had a narrow escape. Yes, what a relief.

In my opinion there is no way you can know someone from a dating site as they could lie a lot. You were lied to and probably a lot of people on dating sites have been lied to.

thats just awful. just block him from your phone email etc. hes not worth it

I'm just concerned if someone believes his lies and he carries on

I guess this time my cynical nature has paid me dividends

Have you reported him to the dating web site?

Yes, it did.

I would not call it cynical, but just having healthy boundaries.

He's gone off
My dating site

Thats a shock
Bullet dodged though.
I know the thread has taken a bit of a turn but one of the things I saw was that he was sexting?

In future I'd block anyone who sexts or tries to initiate it if you are seeking a LTR. They aren't interested in 'you'

Would any of you tell the wife?

Is his wife someone you know?

I think it would be best for your sake if you got as far away from this creep as possible Norfolk and not have anything more to do with him or his life in any shape or form.

Dating web-sites are full of people cheating on their spouses I believe. You are probably not the only one he has been seeing.

What would other people on this thread think, I wonder? I can certainly see why you would want to tell her. I am just not sure what would be best to answer.

How are you feeling today Norfolk? What happened was very unpleasant for you. At least you have escaped getting even more sucked in, but what a shock.

i feel absolutely horrendous if im honest im not sure im strong enough to deal with this.
I want to tell her, but shes obviously a fool anyway.