can I ask how long you had known dh/dp

[NorfolkEnchantsToday]

Before you did anything sexual?

I'm curious.
I've met someone id quite like to be in a relationship with but now I've met him and dated him 3 times I'm not sure of the etiquette

12 years ago we had sex on the bonnet of his car. Afterwards he said sorry what's you name? We've just bought a house together.

About 6 hrs

...16 years and 2 kids later mind

DH was meant to be a ONS.

We will celebrate our 36th wedding anniversary this year!

Thank you all

If he's a keeper I think whether or not you shag him is by the by.... Unless he's got a Madonna complex then you wouldn't want him anyway!

Communication is the key. Tell him what you are thinking. Again, if he runs a mile because you are being open with him - is it worth it?

Go on, enjoy yourself!!

I don't even know how to tell him how I feel tbh.
I'm so used to being let down. I want to enjoy now and my anxiety to do one but it's tough

About 2 hours. Clearly not very good at one night stands as we've been married 4 years now

I don't think you need to tell hime how you feel in a heavy sort of way, just try to keep getting to know each other and what you are both like in a general, happy relaxed way.

Are you sure you want a relationship with him, rather than someone? How well do you know him?

That's true, I do like him though

Has he said things to you that make it seem as though he really likes you? Or things that show he is interested in finding out more about you and what you like?

Not just things about fancying you, or moving too fast with saying he loves you , or flattering you?

It's like he wants to know me, about me and my life

Gut says leave it alone, never see him in an evening, but head is saying are you being too guarded and overthinking as he does live a distance away but works nearby

On the first date 24 years ago

That's good. Do you know much about his interests etc?

Why not give it a bit more time, you have nothing to lose. See him informally a bit nearby for a casual lunch or something. What about a very simple picnic on a nice day?

Have you met each others friends? Family? Do you know much about him?

It's irrelevant now.
I just found out he is married

omg what a cunt!!

Totally!!
He can FOTTFSFOATS

About 5 weeks and afterwards he told me he was going to marry me! I laughed and found it all very amusing! I did indeed marry him though

4 months. We'd already said ILY, met each others' friends, decided to be gf/bf, everything first. It was lovely! I don't really like having sex with people I don't know. It just doesn't do it for me.

How did you find out he's married??! Argh, poor you.

DH was a one night stand gone wrong

Shit, sorry Norfolk. :(

Better you found out now, though.

t's irrelevant now.
I just found out he is married
I am very sorry Norfolk. That must be very upsetting.

What a great thing you did for yourself by giving yourself time to find out though.
You seem to have been re-thinking how you want to be treated in general and that sounds extremely positive.

Gut says leave it alone

You were right,

Sorry yo hear that Norfolk