So if I do sleep with him how do you get from there to a relationship?
People have posted here about getting from what they thought would be a ONS to a relationship which is lovely, but that is probably more good luck than anything.
Of course there are exceptions, but usually the more there is a relationship first, (not a game playing version of hard to get) the more the chance of a relationship continuing.
Also for a relationship to form you need to be compatible in the first place.
Physical attraction is important but not enough for that on its own.
Do you know what he is really interested in and vice versa?
Have you talked about what books/music/films you both like?
Do you know what he has a passion for? And. vice versa.
Have you done anything like go to an art gallery, for a walk, to play some game...hanging out?
Have you met each others friends?
What do you know about each others families?
Have you met any of each other's family?
Have you laughed and had fun together over things?
Pets?
Have you major interests, friends and a life of your own and vice versa? (i.e. Not needy)
I do not mean have you given each other a third degree questionnaire but have you shared these things bit by bit?
Has he just sent sexts, or have there also been texts about you/you both/ a shared joke?
Have you laughed and had fun together over things?
I don't mean have you given each other a third degree questionnaire but shared these things bit by bit.
What if you slept with someone and then later found out they had Nazi sympathies? Or you love animals but found out later he does not/and is allergic to them? Or, hates his family, when you have a close happy family? Or he is still in love with someone he has recently broken up with?