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Anyone tried a MMF threesome or DP?

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naughtyjezebel · 16/11/2015 19:07

Hi I am planning a MMF threesome with my DP....and also considering trying the other kind of DP (ahem)

This is the No 1 favourite sexual fantasy of both myself and himself.

We have previously enjoyed a foursome with a couple I know and in fact we have both previously had threesome experiences before we met each other. He has suggested that we could try a MMF threesome with a friend of his from overseas, when the chap comes to visit. I very much like this idea Wink as I have wanted to try it for years Grin

So the desire is mutual, we are both comfortable with the idea, no one is pressuring the other etc etc. In fact the foursome we did together was pretty amazing and made us closer, as its something we both have a mutual interest in and neither of us have had a relationship before, where the other partner actually shared our taste for this kind of thing.

Can anyone tell me about their experience of MMF and in particular, has anyone tried and achieved double penetration? I really want to try this but am interested to know what it "feels like" physically before I take the errr plunge so to speak. I can do the MMF experience with or without trying DP, as its up to me, but want to find a bit more about the mechanics of it before I do so.

Thanks

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TheVeryHungryPreggo · 16/11/2015 19:28

Buy a decent dildo or butt plug from somewhere like Sh! or LoveHoney and use that anally while your partner penetrates you.

That's the sensation part sorted.

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naughtyjezebel · 16/11/2015 19:31

I am more interested in having two guys than the DP to be honest, but am interested to try the DP when I have the opportunity to. I have only met one woman who has tried DP successfully, and the mechanics look a bit awkward (positioning etc)

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naughtyjezebel · 16/11/2015 19:32

ps we have done that actually, with a wee vibrator in the rear and him in the front

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Pantah630 · 16/11/2015 19:32

Fantasy is very much better than reality, don't bother. The sex isn't that good and no matter how much you think it won't, it will fuck the trust in your relationship, they takes many years to build back up. It can also highlight any insecurities you or your partner have.

Pantah630 · 16/11/2015 19:35

And yes with the DP, it's not all that, just make sure the one with the slighter girth goes anally.

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naughtyjezebel · 16/11/2015 19:59

Make sure the lighter one goes anally - good tip thanks Panta. I disagree about it necessarily wrecking the relationship, as I have many friends who are swinger couples who have great long term relationships. Although I agree that it does create more potential to. If I or he feels that it might put any strain on our relationship, we will stop such activities, we have already agreed that in the ground rules. We are experimenting together, as opposed to both being long term confirmed swingers and to date everything has been fine. I have played alone, with his agreement with couples but never with single guys and I always discuss it with him beforehand to make sure he feels comfortable about it and if he doesn't then I won't.

When you say it will fuck the trust, what do you mean? The couples I know are very open with each other and have agreed ground rules. I guess, like any relationship, if one person breaks the agreed ground rules, then it would fuck the trust.

I have already decided to try the MMF, but am interested to hear what other people have done re MMF and DP in particular as the DP bit looks as though it might take some practice to perfect.

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Pantah630 · 16/11/2015 21:01

Slighter, not lighter Grin

If either of you have any unspoken insecurities, doubts creep in, perceived inadequacies, etc and this leads to breakdowns in trust. But, it looks like you're quite experienced in experimenting with others with your partner so you should be fine. Go for it and have fun, if it stops being enjoyable, stop. Make sure both of you are on board, you say you want to try mmf, does your partner? Or would he rather mff? I have green eyed monster issues so can only deal with mff in my head not in reality, whereas I was quite happy to try mmf. DP thought he was on board but looking back I think we were both a tad naive thinking it wouldn't affect the dynamic. We did it more than once with the same person and almost 20 years later we are still friends with him but no longer as close as we were. Our marriage survived though :)

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naughtyjezebel · 16/11/2015 21:25

Oh that's interesting ....the dynamics are curious aren't they? For example, he was initially happy for me to meet couples alone (but not single guys) but is not now. I am not happy for him to play alone at all. He did once and I was crazy with jealousy afterwards, so we agreed he wouldn't do that again, as it would damage our relationship with each other. I don't mind what he does (within reason) as long as I am in the same room. I guess I need to feel I have some control ha ha. We have agreed that we will only play together so that we both feel secure in knowing there are no secret liasons. I guess its about discussing what you feel comfortable with and trusting the other person.

So its slighter for the anal! Did you try dp then? Does it hurt? That's what I really want to know. I have errm studied it in porn movies ...the girls seem ok but I could imagine it getting uncomfortable if both thrusted too much lol

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naughtyjezebel · 16/11/2015 21:35

Actually he suggested the mmf, not me! We tried the ffm during the 4sum meet, as I wanted to try that.

His favourite fantasy would be to watch his girlfriend having sex with other guys/guy, then him "reclaiming" her back afterwards. My fave fantasy is mmf or even mmmf Wink. Hence both wanted to try it.

He has suggested we try with a friend of his from overseas, as I guess it will mean that he feels relaxed with the guy, but the guy won't be living closeby etc so won't be a long term threat to him.

He is quite insecure (about his height, his performance and skills and his willy size) so I am not sure how he will actually feel suring the event.I know that when he tried to swing in the past he couldn't always perform.

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UntilTheCowsComeHome · 17/11/2015 12:12

If your dp has issues with himself then I can't see how this would work.

He's got to get up very close and personal with another bloke. He'll be feeling this other guy's dick through you, that's got to be weird for a completely straight guy.

Whatever the position he'll be looking at this other blokes face and body so if he has an iota of insecurity then I'm sure it won't work out.

Keep it as a fantasy.

Drew64 · 17/11/2015 13:16

Yes, we have tried it.
For the guy on top, it's not an easy position to maintain iyswim (then again i'm not as fit as I used to be)
I couldn't comment on what it is like but my DW says that it's fantastic!

My wife has had a lover for a few years now and it has NOT destroyed our relationship, quite the opposite in fact

cricketnut77 · 17/11/2015 15:31

I would definitely advise doing this with someone who is experienced in dp if you want to go through with this. Perhaps going with someone you know is not the best idea if he is insecure . Try to get a man with a similar size cock as his as this will make the dp easier as well as making him feel more confident. My girlfriend loves it and as a man it is tighter than normal as you can feel his cock very clearly. Its important to remember the men are there for your pleasure. Enjoy

BackToTheCaveman · 17/11/2015 15:45

I have posted about this previously ( www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/2432158-Threesomes )

CaveWoman and I do a MMF 2 -3 times per year. We have done DP loads of times - oral and either fanjo/Anal, but we have never "pulled off" fanjo and anal at the same time. The times we have tried, just either got too complicated or CaveWoman felt too vulnerable. Sorry if TMI but controlling the penetration depth, if the guy is underneath (anal) is hard. So I would say have the anal man on top (behind obviously).

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naughtyjezebel · 17/11/2015 16:40

Untilthecows, he has done dp before and threesomes with MMF and loves it Smile. Its me who hasn't done that yet.

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naughtyjezebel · 17/11/2015 16:43

Drew and cricketnut, mmm thanks for the advice hee hee - noted Wink

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naughtyjezebel · 17/11/2015 17:15

Caveman, thanks for that link and for the practical advice re positioning! It is incredibly useful, I may show to dp so he can read your tips before he enters into anything (snigger) Wink

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pocketsaviour · 17/11/2015 18:45

I have done MMFs before and really enjoyed them. It's great to feel like you have two hot guys who are both into you :)

Haven't done DP, it's never really appealed, although have used toys at the same time as anal or vaginal penetration. The positions they get into in films seem really uncomfortable to me and I would worry about either getting squashed or feeling trapped and breathless (if all lying down), or about someone losing their balance and it all ending up rather painful.

swisscheesetony · 18/11/2015 08:36

Yes. Fantastic.

Caveat - two men I picked up in a bar so no emotions/egos involved.

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naughtyjezebel · 18/11/2015 14:48

I think its more clear cut and simple if its with relative strangers. My dp and I are probably going to do a MMF 3sum with one of his friends from overseas, who he grew up with. He feels comfortable with that. He feels nervous about the prospect of having to perform in front of a stranger, for me its the opposite, I like the anonymity of playing with couples who I am not "involved" with, then its just straight forward fun and no messy emotional dramas.

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Eekaman · 18/11/2015 22:16

Quite a few years ago, my buddy and I had a one nighter with a wonderful lady who definitely wanted to have us both, and we did complete DP. It was quite odd as we'd been playing around for ages, with spit roasting and taking it in turns for PIV and all of us were in control of our bodies, but DP.... she asked for it, and I'd say once both my buddy and I were fully in and just getting used to the crazy intense sensations, we all three of us came within seconds :)

So a laugh, a joke, a bit more playing around / recovery and we did it again, this time all three of us totally loved it. Quite amazing. My buddy was flat on his back, with the lady in doggy, we learnt that me entering anally before my buddy entered vaginally was the best way to go, but both of us guys kept reasonably still and let the lady regulate the speed.

As for feeling my best mates cock against mine, well, we discussed it afterwards and we were both totally relaxed with it. Years later I was his best man when he married, he was mine and we often had same room (or pool / spa / sofa sex with our spouses, but no swapping as neither of our wives was into that, but they did like watching each other.

I've also had FMF twice, and neither was anything as much fun as that MFM. It seemed like hard work on both occasions, as neither of the ladies were at all bi.

Allofaflumble · 19/11/2015 14:01

Safe sex I hope?

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naughtyjezebel · 19/11/2015 16:12

Yes obviously safe sex! Smile

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naughtyjezebel · 19/11/2015 16:17

Eekaman, that sounds like a great experience and thanks for the tips on the logistics.

A couple of other fellas have said its very satisfying as it feels a lot tighter when both holes are plugged so to speak. We have tried with dp and a sex toy and it did feel pretty amazing, even just doing that.

So did you enter anally first and then your buddy underneath enter afterwards then? I was wondering which would be easier, front or back first.

I have noticed that in vids the guys tend to keep fairly still so that the woman can regulate the movement, presumably to avoid any potential discomfort.

mmm can't wait heh heh Wink

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willywonka69 · 19/11/2015 17:03

Guy on his back legs together. Can be with his knees bent over the edge of the bad. You on top.
Second guy kneeling behind you in bum, lots of lube, his legs outside guys lying down. ('legs get in way otherwise) or if the first guys legs are bent over edge of be then his legs are out if way a bit.

willywonka69 · 19/11/2015 17:04

Try double v..... Wink Smile

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