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Yr10 DD's school closing - please help me think it through.

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TheCheeseTax · 23/04/2026 21:29

My girl is Y10 at an independent school. It's sadly closing at the end of the academic year.

DD has autism, diagnosed, but does well. She's academic, strong, stubborn. She loves hard and has friends. She is quirky, can come across as aloof.

We are considering school, both private and state. But here's the thing - we can't find anywhere which matches her current subject's boards exactly.

The school we'd like to send her to has her friends there and more will likely
join. But none, not one, of the subjects match the current board.

Our boys' school matches the subject spec for only 1 bit at least she'd have 2 friends there and her brothers (but she might not ever see those friends).

There's another school which matches the specs (not sure if all, but a lot of them) but she knows no one there at all.

There's a school which would be v diff to anything she's known which can match all but one and we'd have to take her through somehow (but we could make it work).

Does anyone have any insight on how damaging it can be for a Y10 to move schools and have to start her subjects again for the new boards? The schools are all confident (save for the last one) that they can manage her (and whoever joins her in the move) and they have the space, time and man-power to do so.

Help, please. I am so sorry for my lovely girl. She's putting on a brave front but the thought of moving schools is eating her up.

Thanks guy x

OP posts:
PinkFrogss · 25/04/2026 17:52

Would you be open to online schooling?

Araminta1003 · 26/04/2026 16:00

If there is a state school that will take her which will support the boards mostly, I would move her now and not wait a day longer. Content in Maths and Sciences are largely the same and English language is not too different. English lit may be totally different texts. Languages she should be able to adapt too. Unless she wants to do Geography for A level, would either do it online or drop it. Whatever you do, focus on what she needs for A levels and beyond. It does seem horrible at the time, but once they have done their GCSEs, they really do just move on to the next stage.
Once she is at the new school, I would probably also get up to speed over the summer holidays.

drspouse · 26/04/2026 19:02

Shinyandnew1 · 23/04/2026 22:42

I’d look closely at the two schools which can match the specs/all but one, and not worry so much if she knows nobody. What do you mean by ‘We’d have to take her through somehow’ ? Through what?

I took this to mean the school is far away, and they are in Scotland where two cities are often said to be "through" as in "I'm going through to Glasgow".
OP I have nothing useful to add but wanted to send some sympathy as a fellow SEN mum who is looking at a school move (Y9 and probably to another specialist school if we can find one that will actually take DS).

TheCheeseTax · 27/04/2026 10:43

Hi all, thanks for replies, it has been a mad week.

We've viewed various alternates, mostly indies because the two state I applied for when the shit hit the fan a few weeks ago (with a very short notice whole school meeting which I thought might be a closing down now meeting!) and they haven't got back to me in any other way just to say they wouldn't be able to take her through her geography GCSE. They are still meeting with their GCSE leaders to see what matches and what they can provide, they also said that they have been "inundated" with requests since the news of the closure - so this already large school is going to have to find somewhere to cater for these refugees!

I did make an earlier thread about it, but someone doxxed where my DD goes to school and as it's so tiny, MN thought it best to remove and I would agree.

We've found somewhere which feels very home from home and it may be that she has a couple of friendly faces going there too. It's a nightmare to get to, and nearly 60% uplift in fees, but we will make it work - it is likely we'll have to pay for the summer term too, when we've already paid the current term's fees and I think most other local indies are waiving their summer fees, but again, this school is spot on for her so we will make it work.

Everyone is so angry and there is a group of pro-active parents trying to put together a plan to save it. I think those of us with students in Y10 and 12 are focusing on moving them asap to ensure an early slide into the new syllabi as possible (is that the word? Syllabi?). All the indies have said they will make it work in terms of subjects and boards and the current school has provided us with their subjects and timetable so the new schools can identify overlaps/gaps and then create bespoke plans for the student.

If I had a smaller child, I would be involved in the "save our school" but my concern is her being in Y10. Our youngest won't go there, he's settled elsewhere and so now it's just about damage control.

The local indies have been accused of being predatory - indeed, MC poached a load of girls when the Chinese took over and fair play, they're standing and we're not...if only our school had been a little more on the ball, commercially speaking.

I would say too that it's not just the VAT, but that was the nail in the coffin for my DD's best friend who had to leave - it affected those hard working families who cut back on other things to make it work. But before then, Covid absolutely decimated (in the true sense of that word's meaning) the cohort from abroad. It never did recover - put cost of living, rising employment costs, NI, pension, energy, VAT and so on - it would have had to have been standing in good stead to survive because there are so many options in our area for good indies locally. And it just wasn't. The rot set in some time ago.

Thanks for everyone's input, esp re: the boards. I am a bit of a catastrophiser about these things and I was having damaging circular thoughts about this area in particular, but I think that she will be ok.

She'll do her end of years, have a couple of tasters and then I guess we'll make the move once we've got over those and the uniform, train etc sorted. She's ASD and has never had to travel anywhere alone before - this will do her the world of good (even though I feel sick writing that down!).

I feel less horrible, thank you all. xxx

OP posts:
TheCheeseTax · 27/04/2026 11:03

PinkFrogss · 25/04/2026 17:52

Would you be open to online schooling?

Edited

Hi PF, we did consider this and one of our DD's bestest friends is HS. We just couldn't make it work, but even if I did take a sabbatical - we think for DD (who has ASD) it would be two steps back. She LOVED school (still does) and there was never a fight to get her there, honestly, it was like her second fave place to be (first place at home!). When covid hit and they hopped to online (very well, by the way) they did a whole school sports day because it was outdoors and I think the regs were relaxed somewhat - she cried. She cried at the thought of GOING to school, and not being behind a screen. It was unprecedented. So whilst I did consider this, just to get her through, for her it just wouldn't be right. She is VERY comfortable behind a screen, too comfortable...

OP posts:
Funkylights · 27/04/2026 23:22

Good to hear op! Tbh I’ve seen plenty of ‘save our school’s and non are a success

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