@MTHRVRD2030
I dont believe I was specifically asked for my thoughts but after reading the responses some of which I agree with, it's triggered me into writing this.
Before I start can I just offer congratulations to all those who's DC's took the JMC, and some of the marks I've seen are remarkable from such young kids.
We're both STEM educated parents to Masters level (forgot most of it) with professional quals and one working parent. Our DD is an only child and now 12. Kids don't need expensive gadgets, a mass of toys, special food treats all the time, etc, what they need is parents time with engagement as this is what they value most.
The development of a child is incremental and occurs with exposure. Say if a kid travels a lot like ours generally did from a young age a few times a year they see more and experience different things. Talking to them a lot (gentle mentoring), things like managing expectations, how to be kind, how to be fair, always say please and thank you, if you work hard and are persistent you will be rewarded, etc is all very important. Looking back all these things were instilled on her at an early age....not necessarily by design, it was just the way we parent.
So when she started reception not much after the age of 4 the teachers loved her, you could tell there was genuine warmth. Among all the praise I always remember a comment "The great thing about her (DD) is she always wants to be the best that she can be, at everything".
At this stage I suppose some may ask "well what about the academics?" but that doesn't matter. I specifically remember when starting reception she was on oxford learning tree 1 and ended the year at 5. I remember doing the number pairs to 20 walking her to school in year 1. We werent doing anything extra at home at this time on reading or anything else. Instead the time was spent say developing soft skills (again not really planned by us) or things like persistence and resilience. Playing board games, cards, etc.
Academically, she progressed gradually until Covid hit and then we were at home, had free time, she knew some tables but completed then all towards the end of yr2, nothing really advanced by any means. By this time she was nearly 7. Then she started on the mathletes app and loved it, just did some ad lib almost every day at her leisure, more in holidays. By the end of year 8, say 2 years later she was a whizz, I think she was on level 8 on an app with levels 1-10 for ages 5-16. The school stopped subscribing to this and instead chose doodlemaths. In year 9 she toyed with it a bit and then from November- Feb in exactly 100 days answered 20k questions and finished the app. I always remember the day she finished, had an actual age of 9.69 and a doodlemaths age of 16.22. All off her own back.
Then it's about where do you go from there? GCSE yr 7 maybe is a realistic target, but then what? So we agreed to park it. Ever since she's just done her maths classwork and the bare minimum homework and nothing extra (apart from IMC prep this yr). Now she doesn't need to because it all happens quicker for her than her cohort, when she finishes 1st in class she gets 1/3 of the time left to advance vs most of the kids there. So even with no extra time spent on maths she's still progressing. It is a very efficient use of time.
On a macro scale it isnt all about the maths though, our DD is very confident and very able in a number of subjects and parking the maths has helped develop her in other areas. Like she'll happily stand up for 2 mins in front of 300-500 people and read and have no nerves whatsoever, to me it's a bit unnerving how much of an all rounder she is and how if she wants to be really good at something she can be, whatever it is.
She's now JMO'd as a Yr7 and Yr8 which I think are great achievements, but surpassing that is IMC Yr8. I kinda loosely ran the figures on this and I thought if there 500 qualifiers, 50 of those are international, 75% of them are boys and 85% are year 9 candidates, then how many Uk girls yr8 and below qualify for the Cayley IMO? A dozen? A score? 2 dozen? Mybe 30? I dont know, but it's that type of thing. For me, she doesnt need to try anymore at this, the time is better spend on other things.
I know a student who was pushed early academically well beyond her years at an age younger than our DD to an elite level in other areas. Everything looked well when she breezed the 11+ etc but now she's rebelling. This is because she hasn't got the toolkit, she's shy, awkward, insular, has trouble relating to other kids, etc.
In summary I firmly believe you have to first build the foundations of the child, mentor them well, get their heads in the right place, give them the toolkit, give them confidence. This is essential.