Change in behaviour since starting secondary

[Laurenmummytoo2]

Just looking for some advice if this has happened with any other children. At my wits end 😔

My child started secondary fully in september. Since starting he has drastically changed in behaviour. Everyday he is getting phone calls home, detention, sanctions, isolations. His behaviour consists of disruptions constantly in lessons, answering back, no respect towards teachers. He is a very bright boy and scared of what he doing for his future. He is already been moved down sets for English and in talks of been moved down from top set maths.

His behaviour is also bad at home, tormenting his brothers and fighting, back chatting, swearing, don't care attitude towards everything.

I'm not sure why, I have spoken to him over and over and he doesn't take any responsibility for his actions it's always someone else to blame.

He turned 12 in December.

I just don't know what to do or how to treat this and nothing is working so far.

Does anyone have experience from this and any advice on anything that helped your child through this, isit a phase? I just don't know anymore. 😔😔

What comes up when you check his phone? Anything concerning, even on a small scale?.

Sorry for late reply guys life's been hectic.

But on a plus note he seems to be settling down slightly. I have settled down getting on about him at school as like I said he had it from all angles. School are doing few interventions with him for anger and behaviour, also positive praise even on the small things. He has been changed to other half of the year group so in totally new classes. We have discussed lots of things and about his feelings and how he can come to me whenever for whatever. Also going through puberty so his hormones are all over.

Hoping his behaviour stays this way 🤞🏻 he has his moments but massive improvements this past week.

Nothing at all alarming on his phone when I check it. Just friend group chats and nothing bad in there.

Thanks everyone for advice and comments. X