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Thread 14? Corona Cohort Yr 12 2021 - 'Vaccinations and Eliminations'

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orangecinnamon · 28/01/2021 19:01

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AnneOfCleavage · 12/02/2021 21:52

Oblomov if he's predicted 3 x A presumably at the end of year 13 then getting 3 x B now is awesome as only halfway through year 12. Plenty of time to get those grades up. I think they also don't want the students to coast if they give too high a grade now.

Piggy so interesting to hear things from a teacher perspective. DD still has to log on to 8.30am form time and say what they are doing in their free (study) periods so that stops any sleeping in that could happen. Some days she has a whole day of frees but still has to log on first thing and after lunch just to touch base. She apparently is getting a 100% attendance badge ConfusedHmm once they go back as she, and 3 others, have been the only ones not to miss a lesson. Sometimes she has a 1-1 as no one else showed up. So feel for these poor teachers. Her teacher today said that she'll have to go over lots of stuff again as the other girls have missed lessons so they can't move on to the next topic. That means they'll be behind schedule even more. It's infuriating.
I want DD to call them out and say hey guys please come to class as it's going to be hard to learn all we have to (or words to that affect) but DD is scared to rock the boat and be the "boring" one. She left a FaceTime group chat with them as they were asking a boy about scoring weed for a meet up on Monday. 3 of them were at someone's house altogether. I don't feel she's met he people at this 6th form. No wonder she's huggy with us.

Heifer · 13/02/2021 01:30

I've really relaxed the rules now DD is in 6th form. I used to have no device rule in the bedroom at all, then only at weekend holidays. DD and I stay up late watching tele together. She often comes down stairs at 10.00/10.30pm after doing her homework and asks me to watch something with her. DH goes to bed early 10ish which I just can't do so I really enjoy the time DD and I spend together into the early hours if no school the next day and 11.30/12.00 if there is now. She doesn't have to wake up till 8.15.

Got to admit to never having let her stay down stairs later than me and tbh not sure why now, what do I think she is going to do? nothing she hasn't already done before I'm sure :-)

Piggywaspushed · 13/02/2021 07:36

Oh,bless anne, your DD sounds a lovely girl. She will get her own rewards down the line : hopefully better than attendance badges!!

TheySeeHerRowling · 13/02/2021 10:21

AnneofCleavage I had to laugh at the 100% attendance badge - very cringey for a 16/17 year old! Unfortunately my dd is one of the patchy attenders at the moment, but only in one subject. If she misses one lesson, she gets anxious about the next one and it spirals down from there. Luckily the teachers in that subject have been very helpful and she is on track to make up for lost time by the end of half term.

She's just run out of her ADs and apparently the repeat prescription hasn't been sent through to the pharmacy, so I'm in an endless loop of trying to get emergency supplies. Pharmacy say 111 will deal with it; 111 say the pharmacy will deal with it.
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Zandathepanda · 13/02/2021 11:09

TheySeeHerRowling I am going to be prescription chasing too today. The GP has decided they won’t prescribe the new seizure meds she’s on until she’s on them six months. Helpful. So I am trying to phone the not-very-local hospital pharmacy again. They’ve got really high covid rates at the hospital. It’s a day trip out though Hmm. Maybe we could have a picnic in the car park? And take buckets and spades to build a male snowman?

Same GP practice won’t flag Dd up as vulnerable as ‘the vaccination is nothing to do with us’. Yes but the vaccination programme relies on the GP flagging up records Sad said I and the receptionist said she wouldn’t speak to me as Dd is 16. So I passed her over to Dd and the receptionist told her she couldn’t help her and put the phone down on her. Why is everything a fight?

Apologies for the sarcasm but run out of reasonability today. Dd will not be going back to school at this rate.

Drugs problems is bad here too and blatantly advertised social media. Year 11/12/13 meeting up for weed (usually) but possibly cocaine and others as I expect the smell from weed is a bit obvious in lockdown. Dd said it’s so much easier to get the illegals than her legal stuff!

Zandathepanda · 13/02/2021 11:49

Ok rant over. After phoning round, lovely local pharmacist can source new meds. Will put the bucket and spade away!

Dd got A*AA in second recent report too. Bizarrely they only give predicted rather than ‘working at’ but she’s getting those grades now from her essays. She’s not one to use too much effort but has stepped up for ALevel.

Piggy very impressed by your DSs sleep pattern. Both my Dds still asleep at the moment- nearly noon!

TheySeeHerRowling · 13/02/2021 11:56

ZandathePanda, it's so exhausting, isn't it? I get that this is a horrendous time for people working in health, from admin to ITU, but having a child who needs extra care is also hard work - just a little understanding would go so far sometimes.

I hope you can get what you need for your dd today (and maybe that thrilling hospital car park experience Grin). I've been lucky and scored a lovely doctor at the OOH clinic who has sorted it for us, so our outing for the day is just a dull 10 min walk to the pharmacy later. The high winds could make it exciting though.

TheySeeHerRowling · 13/02/2021 11:57

Ah, cross-posted, great news, Zanda Smile.

Zandathepanda · 13/02/2021 12:04

Good news for you too!

Shimy · 13/02/2021 12:23

@Zandathepanda So glad to hear you’ve been able to source your DD’s medication. It also reminded me that I was supposed to pickup Ds’s repeats on Thursday and forgot all about it. They are at also at the tricky age where you can’t take control of their health needs with the GP like before but if you leave it to them, they do nothing (looking at DS1).

I’m very envious of how well Piggy’s household has control of sleeping and waking times and no gadgets in the room.
I used to boast about how I will never allow a computer in the room. That is until they needed a laptop for school, then of course they neede to do homework on it, sometimes at night. Somewhere in between Ds1 became addicted to gaming, all hours! We don’t have X box, he accesses it via the Internet. DH works VERY late, so switching internet off is not an option. It’s eroded Ds1 sleeping AND eating pattern to the point I called the GP last week as he just doesn’t eat and says he’s not hungry. It seems to have triggered something in him and for the last 3 days has had between 2-3 full meals. He’s also been getting up around 12pm as opposed to 5pm, yes you read it correctly. Because his social circle is non existent and lockdown he’s been on it even more and it finally reached a critical point.

I know there’s always more we could have done before anyone arrives to put the kick in, but we’re hopeful he has started to turn a corner. It just means when lockdown lifts, I will be sending him back with lots of pre cooked meals until he is at a healthy weight and can think more rationally to start cooking for himself properly.

DS2 got amazing results for this half term, all A’s. I’m slightly worried about him peaking too early? and maybe it would’ve been better for him to progress a bit more slowly, . C’s and B’s would be more normal at this point? Hopefully he will keep it up.

Well done to everyone’s DC who’ve got their result sheets/cards, onwards and upwards!

icanbewhatiwant · 13/02/2021 14:29

@TheySeeHerRowling ds2 will also be one of those with low attendance I think. Ds3 (year 7) has to log on with his form teacher for register at 8.50am. I asked ds2 if he has to. He said nobody logs on at 8.50 only geeks, then started called ds3 a geek. But I know he missed an assembly about summer exams. He said nobody went to it. I give up.

I remember Ds1's end of year report in year 13 saying it was extremely rare to have such a good attendance as ds in year 13. Clearly a geek in his younger brothers eyes. Is it always the middle child that wants to be different?

ChristopherTracy · 13/02/2021 15:12

Our attendance will be dodgy too. I had a really good email convo with the school about DS mental health but they still send me the texts and the moaning about every single missed lesson or camera off occasion etc - it is beginning to affect my mental health now as well and I wish they would just lay off it tbh.

Monkey2001 · 13/02/2021 16:46

My DS has not watched any of the assemblies or read any of the newsletters. They only have registration once a week and he has missed a few of those and overslept for a couple of lessons. Both DSs have always taken care not to be one of the "Try Hard"s. I assume that is a comprehensive school thing, would be interested to know whether grammars and private schools have managed to overcome that stigma!

AnneOfCleavage · 13/02/2021 17:45

Sounds like my DD is definitely a geek then Grin She's just told me that she got emailed an Amazon voucher as a well done on attendance which is much better than a badge. First time she's got one of those as names usually get put in a hat and one lucky student gets it... or perhaps it's her this time.

Glad you got the meds Zanda and well done to DD on amazing grades.

Heifer · 13/02/2021 18:27

@Shimy Please don't worry, I don't think anyone on here would "put the kick in", as everyeone has been very supportive and understanding.
We all have different rules for our children, our children are all different personalities with different issues. We are all just doing our best to get through the teenages years and we all deal with it how ever we can - even before covid :-)

DD has 100% attendence and would be horrified if her school gave her a badge in 6th form (from YR8 tbh). She won't miss a lesson but there is no way she would watch the online assemblies or even read half of the extra school info that is being sent through.

Friday was a good day for her. Day off (as Inset day). She her groups of 10 friends all decided to have a cake comp. Most spent hours making and decorating them (7 hours etc) and have all decided it's not worth the effort and as fun as it was never again. DD moaned about her feet and legs aching (this is the girl that will happily run around a hockey pitch in all weather).

Hope those that need it manage to get meds sorted - it's it hard enough without having these extra issues to tackle?

ealingwestmum · 13/02/2021 18:44

Second everything Heifer says Shimy. This thread has no judgement, we’ve all got kids that have and will handle whatever life throws at them in their own individual ways. And change, lots. In good ways, and some not so good.

No academic worries right now here, but challenges in other areas, hence the low profile. All too dull to offload, but I am really hoping the progress on COVID recovery is going to be met with some positive roadmap news on 22nd. We need to get these DC back to school in March.

icanbewhatiwant · 13/02/2021 18:59

@ealingwestmum yes I'm looking forward to 22nd to see the road map out of lockdown. I think it'll be primaries back first though. Probably years 11 and 13 too. It's only a 5 week term anyway. So if ours start a few weeks later they won't be in for long. But at least we will know what's happening and have something to look forward to.

Zandathepanda · 13/02/2021 19:06

We are watching The Masked Singer whilst dettoling the weekly click and collect. Only in Lockdown!! Dd on Twitter, I’m on mumsnet for clues!! Happy half term

PaddingtonPaddington · 13/02/2021 19:18

So glad it’s half term. I’m also looking forward to the 22nd to find out what’s happening with schools. Whatever the plan at least we will know soon.

crazycrofter · 13/02/2021 19:32

Sorry to hear about the issues with ds1 @shimy. Don’t beat yourself up; mental health problems aren’t a result of bad parenting, or too much gaming, or strict rules or leniency. It’s a complex world out there at the best of times, but with covid/lockdown on top, some struggles are inevitable. Hope he improves soon.

@Monkey2001I have two kids at two different grammars and neither would ever voluntarily watch an assembly, do a challenge or anything like that so it’s not a comprehensive thing! I’ve not heard the term ‘try hard’ and working hard is acceptable with their peers, but extra stuff? No way!

I’m definitely hoping for a return to school after Easter at the latest. I don’t think our kids will be prioritised but I might be wrong - after all years 10 and 12 are preparing for exams too.

icanbewhatiwant · 13/02/2021 19:39

@Zandathepanda I'm enjoying the masked singer. It's rubbish tv....but I think it's a bit of fun that we all need at the moment.

Zandathepanda · 13/02/2021 20:04

The Masked Singer matches the batshit years of 2020/2021.
Dds learnt all about my Morten obsession. I told Dds I was once 4th row in a seated stadium in the 1980s and the first three rows fainted so I got prime view of those leather bracelets. Roll on full stadiums for our Year 12s again! Leeds/Reading is a right of passage round here.

icanbewhatiwant · 13/02/2021 20:34

@Zandathepanda I didn't guess it was morten. But on playing him singing his own song it was SO obvious. Yes...I had him on my wall.

icanbewhatiwant · 13/02/2021 20:35

On a poster!! 😳

Shimy · 13/02/2021 21:07

@heifer. @crazycrofter. @ealingwestmum
Thank you all so much for your kind words. I wasn’t referring to the regulars here (I should’ve have made that clear) more to the randomer who might decide to come on just to pass judgement. This thread has been very supportive and there’s a good feeling of we’re all in it together Smile.

@icanbewhatiwant Yes, of course Wink.