GCSEs 2018 (15) The Reckoning

[mmzz]

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The next step of the all new GCSE journey.

alexander I wish it was better news but hopefully the clarity will help in the long run to make plans. Sending very best wishes to sost too

We are travelling again for DS music commitments. Hopefully it will be cooler up North. I was eaten by mosquitoes last night, five bites. In London! We just has a downpour. I stood in the garden getting soaked like a mad witch.

It started raining here about two hours ago. I was irrationally excited to hear the thunder and realise that it would soon be raining.

Sorry to hear your news @Alexander...Is your DD going to be attending H...if so I have a friend whose son attends H and she also fosters children so may have a spare bedroom (I'm assuming that her DS is still at H but would have to check - I know they are away on holiday at the moment - but happy to ask if it helps or put you in touch with her - she's lovely).

Thunderstorms here (and rain).

Serious rain, thunder, hail and gale-force gusts here! DH and I had to physically hold the gazebo down to stop it blowing away. It was glorious rained every 20 mins since then with no regard to my washing!

Sorry to hear your news alexander, hope the docs can come up with a plan to help your DH. The keyboard player in my fave band has a condition called Sudden Sensorineural Hearing Loss and has to have biopsies taken from bone in his skull near the brain; he (and fans) feared the worse but he is ok and has learned to manage his condition. Stuff going wrong in the head is so scary

My German cousin in the hospice (see earlier posts) died on Wednesday, peacefully. Hope I can get to funeral but we're off on holiday on Monday for 10 days so it might be a logistical nightmare, and my German is dreadful so I don't want to go alone. We'll see..

We left the German visitors in London today and DS2 and I came home. He has exhausted his niceness and has a screaming tantrum earlier. I had a nap. DH came home and we're busy comparing weeks and getting a bit pissed DS1 Home from Spain Sunday so am enjoying the relative peace!

Yes teen. She is going to H. Under 18’s have to stay with a school approved, checked landlady (they got commented on at an inspection for allowing someone to stay with a family friend). I don’t think the checks are too onerous if someone is known to the school though. The person who deals with it all is away this week so they are going to get in touch next week. Is your friends son in Lower School or Seniors?

It will be about 10 days when dh has his next scans & he will get the results the same day. We don’t know for sure it’s the auriculur thing but some of the other possibilities are quite scary.

Sorry to hear about your cousin terf.

@Alexander...I will email my friend when she gets back from holiday...her son is 13 years old ...so senior school ? I will PM you once I have made contact...

Terf sorry to hear your news too...

That’s called Lower School there. Seniors is age 16 plus just to be confusing. I bet dd must know him.

So sorry Alexander. You definitely need to keep things consistent for your DS at his new school.

The heavens opened in North London in the middle of DD’s cricket match. Cue 22 14 year olds performing some wild shamanistic dance as thunder and lightning filled the sky. Meanwhile I and the other mums stood nervously on the sidelines wondering if metal studs in shoes or braces on teeth attract lightning...

Thinking of you too Terf. At least you know you tried to brighten her final weeks.

Oddsocks DD said she didn't want to tell me what she had been up too on the way home without DH there, as she didn't want to repeat herself. She wolfed down her dinner in 10 minutes flat, giving us selected highlights before sprinting upstairs again, came downstairs briefly with a load of washing and hasn't been seen since. However, I know she missed me as she let me give her a big hug when she came into my office to find me.

Sorry to hear about your husband Alexanderhamilton. I hope it’s the least scary of the possible diagnosis. I’m sorry to hear about your cousin too, terfterf.
My dd is returning to NCS for week 2 tomorrow. She enjoyed the first week more than she expected, surprised herself with managing all the physical challenges.

DS told me yesterday that in a way he misses the exam season! He said that there was a sort of camaraderie feeling about it when he was in school and then afterwards, there was Twitter. He said he'd come out thinking that things had not gone well and log in to twitter and see all those mêmes and read all the tweets saying that they couldn't even manage the first question.

It's an odd thing to say, but I can see what he means.

mmzz that's interesting and I can see what he means. There must have been a sense of all being in it together but now it's just a case of waiting.
Terf so sorry to hear about your cousin.

@Kingscote I think I would have been "that mum" who was rushing on the pitch panicking to get my DD off. Its great that girls are now playing more cricket in school...I loved cricket from an very early stage and we always played it has a family too on days out etc.

mmzz - Completely understand your Ds's comments ...although GCSE's have been rarely mentioned in our household since the end of June..DD's mentioned a couple of times how organised she intends to be with her note taking etc when she starts her A levels because she really enjoys the subjects which is a positive sign...

DD off on hols with DF today, whilst I will miss her I am looking forward to having a couple of days where I can have a big clearout and do some jobs around the house that have been sitting on the "to do list" for far too long.

Bit shellshocked this week going back to work after holidays.

[Alexander] sorry to hear the news of your th. Praying they get to the bottom of things and can agree a treatment plan.

[Terf] condolonces on the loss of your cousin.

[mmzz] I know what your ds means! My d's said yesterday he was looking forward to going back to school- it seems weeks of not much stretching ahead initially looked great fun but is already a bit tedious! He's put his mind to getting a Sat or holiday job.

Why doesn't the bolding work when I'm on my phone!

Is it because you are using the square brackets when you should be using asterisks?

Sorry to hear your news terf

stickerrocks she told DH a bit a the car on the way home, me nothing. In fact she has hardly spoken to me since she has been home. Apparently I don’t need to know DH had a shouting match this morning as he couldn’t find a hoody on the washing line that she had in her bedroom the whole time.. obviously all his fault and he has now ruined the chance of any future conversations between them. According to the books this behaviour is supposed to help parents cope with their DC leaving home, evolution... Is it wrong for me to be ready now for her to leave home? Is it wrong for me to hope that she does to go to uni that is a considerable distance away from home? Totally pissed off with her, can you tell

AH hoping things get clearer soon
Terf
Raining here. It feels nice and Atlantic. I actually got a bit of sleep instead of being a rotisserie chicken last night.

Local farmers are getting desperate, having to feed hay that was for the winter to the cattle and buying feed for the lambs. In July. It's just not how the farming model works. The animals eat grass in July. Always. It's tough.

Terf sorry to hear about your cousin, at least you got to see her before she went.

Oddsocks I know exactly how you feel but hang in there it does get better......honest

On coming back from holiday we found out that DS's official prom picture was put in the local paper, don't think he was overly impressed and despite it being in the public domain, no I am not going to post, he will have to remain a mystery

Peggy that's going to have a knock on effect on food prices and inflation this winter, especially as it's the whole of Europe's farmers who have been affected.

Oddsocks your post made me smile but you know you don't really mean that! Your DD reminds me of me at that age. In my head, I was reacting and DM was the unreasonable nightmare. It has taken me another 35 years to see that I may have not been helping things with the way i would hold grudges about things she said when provoked! I think that's unusual though - most people work out that they may not have been the most pleasant teenagers to be around by their mid-20s.
Tbh, I'm terrified that my relationship with one of my sons will go the same way so I probably try too hard to make sure I don't alienate them m

mmzz I do feel like it’s karma, my DM and I still have a rocky relationship and I haven’t spoken to DF in 25 years... Perhaps it’s me. I feel so distant from DD.. I have tiptoed around DD, especially during exam season, hoping that history won’t repeat itself and we will have a better relationship than I do with my parents. It seems whether I tiptoe or not, outcome is the same

Oddsocks I'm sure this is just a phase and things will improve. (I did smile at looking at faraway unis, though.)
Usually DS1 and I get on just fine but the other day we were all getting snappy with each other because of the heat. I had to make a conscious effort to stay calm. So I'm also very relieved the weather has freshened up here in London. But the impact on farming is very worrying.

@Oddsocks You are not alone ...I'm looking forward to a break over the next 8 days whilst DD is with DF (although after about day 4 I do miss her)..DD and I seem to go through cycles where tension mounts up and reaches boiling point with an argument/tears and apologies and then we go back to calm before the storm brews again..she does communicate quite well with me though which I am grateful for because she has had a fairly rough ride through school with bullying/friendship issues.

I'm just worrying that I will forget to go and feed hedgehog (Bella) whilst they are away...

DD went out while I was in the shower, I don’t know who with, she told DS she was going into the village and doesn’t know what time she will be back....... while she has been gone I’ve dumped her rucksack that she has left downstairs post NCS and a heap of GCSE books and papers in her tip of a room for her to sort out.. no doubt will be fireworks about that, but I really don’t care. Can’t see her floor in her room anyway...