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GCSEs 2018 (13) Untwisting our knickers, lucky for some!

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Stickerrocks · 12/06/2018 16:17

Thread 12 Link to the thread with our potted histories. Now the end is in sight.

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hmcAsWas · 14/06/2018 08:44

Sost happy to hear its nothing to do with your health, but sorry to hear that you have trials and tribulations. I hope that whatever is wrong works itself out in the end Flowers

Sostenueto · 14/06/2018 08:46

Thanks hmcFlowers

DaffoDeffo · 14/06/2018 08:49

ds is refusing to go into school for the revision sessions too. The school wrote to me because their penalty for not going is to not allow them to go to the prom which he doesn't want to go to anyway. The problem is I am sure he would be at least doing something at school rather than sat here playing games but I have given up trying to make him do anything as it just dissolves into a fight and I do think him going into exams in a better state of mind is better for everyone tbh. He does think he has done enough but he really hasn't done very much at all

re A levels, I can only tell you from dd's experience. I think the arts subjects were ok (things like English, History etc.). Where people struggled, her friends, were Maths/Physics and the languages. I think the new GCSEs are better in that regard but beforehand the gap between French GCSE and French A level (especially AS level which dd sat) was absolutely enormous. In Maths, most of the children, even those getting A* for GCSE were really struggling in term 1 of Maths.

Most 6th forms round here send out a summer reading list for the A levels. Ds has his already (not that he will do anything!).

Sostenueto · 14/06/2018 08:51

sandy do as little as possible, faf around!Grin
teen glad you got tickets! Have a good time in London too!

AChickenCalledKorma · 14/06/2018 08:52

Last exam on the 21st here as well. I'm glad to see we're not the only ones that still have a week to go. Today is the first day since half term that DD1 has no exam, but DD2 has four end of year 8 exams and is quite stressed!

I'm not sure whether to look into Uni open days or not. I can't express how much DD1 is looking forward to a summer of not constantly thinking ahead to the next step. Apart from our family holiday, her summer plans so far involve a week at a summer school and a week of volunteering at our church holiday club, plus lots and lots of swimming and reading!

Still thinking of all those who are having tough times Flowers.

slinkyme · 14/06/2018 09:03

Lobster - thank you so much for your advice. I am going to talk to DD about it and then see. Will have to get my timing right.

Sost you are a rock and I hope whatever is happening in other parts of your life resolves itself: sending you hugs Thanks

DaffoDeffo · 14/06/2018 09:03

if it's any help chicken we didn't do any open days till the 1st year of 6th form. Also most schools take the children to a few open days themselves as school trips to show them what universities are like. I don't think it made a difference to dd that we did them then.

I think having a summer off is a really good idea. 6th form is very hard work!

TheThirdOfHerName · 14/06/2018 10:04

@slinkyme

This is what we did for choosing which universities to look at:
Once they know which subject they want to do, you can start narrowing it down.

First look at the average offer from each university. There's no point looking at A*AA universities if your child is likely to get BCC, and vice versa.

Once you have a list of universities that are the right level for their ability, they can narrow it down further.

Neither of my older two want to study in London (too close to home and living costs too high) or more than 200 miles away. Your child might have strong preferences about whether or not they want to be in a city, or at a campus-style university.

By now, you should have a list of about 10-20 places. At this stage, I encouraged them to look at the specifics of each course. They can either do this themselves, looking at each university website, or you can find out for them (if they are busy and you have time). For my older two boys, I printed out the list of modules for each course, and anonymised it so they could consider each course on its own merits without being influenced by the name of the university.

This brought the list down to under 10 places, at which point we started looking up dates of open days.

brainmelt · 14/06/2018 10:07

sost so your DGD doesn't know at all? How exciting! Sending you virtual strength.
We acactually live in London so the treat would be to get out. Thinking of something special to do on Sunday but budget is very very limited Confused I proposed a walk along the Brentford canal but it wasn't taken lol. We'll probably just sit in Waterstones for hours picking comics and books off the shelf, DS favourite activity...

brainmelt · 14/06/2018 10:11

loose five hours sounds impressive but when you have to split it between four instruments, a million visits to the toilett and a million to the fridge, it's suddenly not that much...Grin

mmzz · 14/06/2018 10:15

Sost there's no danger is there that your DGD will decide to catch a later train home so she can go out with her friends for lunch to celebrate the end of their exams?

adrinkofwater · 14/06/2018 10:17

No exams for DS today. He's still in bed, Not sure if I should wake him or let him sleep....

Feeling quite jealous of everyone who finishes tomorrow. DS is another who has further maths and German next week, so finishes on 21st. In a way it works out quite well as DDs A levels finish 22nd, so at least its more or less the same for them both.

Teen, Bluebell and anyone else interested in medicine - from what we learnt, doing some voluntary work in a care home, with disabled children etc, once a week over a long period, is more highly valued by med schools than a week of doctor shadowing in a hospital for example. DD also managed to do voluntary work through a localish hospital doing patient surveys. There was info on the hospital website, but she had to be 17 before she could do it.

As for what to do this summer, although I'm sure some 6th form prep is useful, so is a good rest and so you can start at full speed. We found the summer between Yr12 and Yr13 not to be much of a break as there were UCAS personal statements to write as well as practising and taking the UKCAT which lots of med schools require before you apply.

Hope today's exams are good for all who have them.

slinkyme · 14/06/2018 10:20

The third that is excellent advice. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. Sounds like a really good approach and I will save this post.

Just one other question - is there a site where we can find the typical offers for a subject for each university - without having to go into each university webpage.

You can tell I have not really given Uni much thought - apart from a couple we looked at briefly (websites) when choosing A levels to get an idea of a level subjects DD would need if she wanted to do a specific subject at uni. She is headed towards the sciences route most likely (although may change) and we looked at Oxbridge and Imperial to gauge subject choices initially. Obviously they are on the top end of the spectrum and we want to look at the whole spectrum.

Cherryburn · 14/06/2018 10:23

sunshine thank you for the tall skinny boy suit recommendation! I’ll have a look online at Burton too.

Sost hope whatever is troubling you is resolved quickly. It’s not fair that you’re facing more difficulties Flowers

On prep for sixth form, I seem to remember DD getting a head start on her set texts for English, and she was set reading for History, Philosophy and Latin. She also spent 2 weeks at Latin Camp which was pretty intensive and brought her Latin on a lot. She got A* in her gcse but says the level was way beyond that. Not sure if any DC are doing classics A Levels, but I’d certainly recommend it if so. There’s a Greek version too.

DS’s school will give out details of holiday prep work when they have their sixth form induction next month. I won’t be discussing it with DS for a few weeks though!

brainmelt · 14/06/2018 10:37

Yes cherry that worries me re English prep as DS has not left any time for much prep work this summer and he was so eager to be able to finish the novel he has been dragging since Easter...

PeggySchuylar · 14/06/2018 10:39

Yes to volunteer work for medicine or other HCP roles. Something that you do reliably is good especially if it is in a not obviously exciting area.

Also help DC think about what they have learnt from paid jobs e.g.

"Providing excellant service under pressure and at times when people are rude and even hostile"

This can come from bar work, chip shop, customer services at B&Q.

"Learning about safeguarding framework and supporting children with additional needs"

From 3 years as a young leader at local Brownie pack.

Cherryburn · 14/06/2018 10:40

I don’t think it’s imperative that they read the set texts for English brainmelt, they’ll spend the next two years studying them after all!

brainmelt · 14/06/2018 10:57

Thanks cherry! Not sure that's what they'll tell them..Wink

TheThirdOfHerName · 14/06/2018 10:58

@slinkyme there used to be a search tool on the Push website, but I can no longer find it.

I think Which university has something similar.

Oratory1 · 14/06/2018 11:13

Hmm really torn as I want to dive in and look at summer courses and apprenticeship research etc for DS but I think he could really do with a complete switch off - so it may wait until the autumn and make pans for next summer. I think some time to switch off from it is important - I think with my older DDs, adults around them and school were always asking about the next step or they were always focusing on what they had to do next, whether academic or extra curricular, or job/school/uni applications so they never did seem to get any complete switch off time. I want DS to have a 'proper' break.

re sixth form my only advice would be it does go very very quickly especially for those with busy lives or settling in to new school - its only 5 terms after all. I'm so glad they won't be hit with AS mocks a few moths in but it will still fly by. So they need to get stuck in straight away so any prep even if its just getting the mind focused again may be useful. I want DS to have a break but I will get him to do some things a week or so before going back as he forgets so much and takes time to catch up again. Also get stuck in to extra curricular/co curricular quickly if at a new school - don't hesitate or the opportunity will pass. Like wise if they think they are doing the wrong subject or even wrong school don't hesitate or let time pass do something about it quickly and change as soon as possible. Or if they are struggling get help quickly - most teacher are more than happy to spend time with keen sixth form that ask for support.

But mot importantly enjoy it - both DDs found it the best time they have had so far - so many opportunities with like minded people but still with support around them. Make use of your free periods to work (consolidate notes and check understanding as you go along) but may be set one aside each week to grab a coffee and chill with friends.

More Uni advise to come later - but TheThird is spot on.

slinkyme · 14/06/2018 11:17

Thank you Third

AlexanderHamilton · 14/06/2018 11:28

Dh has had another. My dad is driving me to the hospital. Luckily he’d gone to the site cafe & they called an ambulance.

Oratory1 · 14/06/2018 11:30

So Sorry Alexander, thinking of you and your family

slinkyme · 14/06/2018 11:31

So sorry to hear that Alexander. Praying that all will be well.

PeggySchuylar · 14/06/2018 11:31

Flowers Alexander

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