Thanks all for suggestions of where to look for the remote! My day off and at least I can look thoroughly. It's actually his blue ray remote and he nees that to watch dvds.
I dropped ds off this morning, and caught his expression walking up the main road as I passed him. He looked forlorn...very tired last night. Other things are on his mind such as thinking he only has acquaintances, no friends etc. He sees none of these acquaintances out of school. I drip feed pearls of wisdom "every situation changes," "new start in September" but this really needs to be off his mind for the next 4 weeks.
Nettle hope your dd is OK. We've had some meltdowns here and there.
Teenmum good mantra....especially as I am supposed to attend Slimming World today. Can't face it.