May I make an observation?
On the whole, the ethos of this thread seems to be about supporting people - a place to come to ask questions, seek reassurance and solace. I've found it invaluable. I'd like to think it's "inclusive" - welcoming people no matter what their background or the educational standard or expectations of their children. However, I see quite a few "barbed" comments about grammar schools and super-selectives. I appreciate that everyone has their views on this but please may I respectively ask/beg/implore people to try to consider very carefully the hurtful impact that such judgmental comments may have on people reading this thread, who have children at grammars and super-selectives? I hope those who come here to lurk, or post at such a stressful time, will have a mutual respect for each other's opinions/views and leave those judgements at the door, especially when we come here to support ourselves and more importantly, our children.
Everyone has value, everyone has something to offer and we all travel a unique path - please can we remember and respect that?