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GCSEs 2018 (3)

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mmzz · 28/01/2018 08:40

Following on from:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/secondary/3113917-GCSEs-2018-2

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Sostenueto · 13/02/2018 18:30

Agree with mmzz. I spend the majority of the time during dgds hormonal occurrences in another room. Actually the week before is worse!
It is part of growing up and letting go. All go through it but trouble is they can be so nasty at times and can bring you to tears so I tend to leave the room before I retaliate but by gum it hurts sometimes.

Sostenueto · 13/02/2018 18:32

Oddsocks WineFlowersBear

Oddsocks15 · 13/02/2018 18:51

Thanks mmzz sostenueto teenmum it really does hurt.... thank goodness for this thread

Teenmum60 · 13/02/2018 18:59

I know it doesnt help oddsocks but it isnt you ...and it isnt really your DD either - it is hormones most of the time. I talked to DD the other day when we both had meltdown and she remembered when I was menopausal - I was awful - she used to call me the snappy crocodile - I had no control over my outbursts for a few day's each month - so unfair that women have to go through this twice !

ljlkk · 13/02/2018 19:23

Oh dear... DD hasn't reduced me to tears recently, but I did tell her bluntly that I can't wait until she moves out.
She thinks that was a joke.
Har....Har.....Har...... (frowny smiley MN won't give us)

Teenmum60 · 13/02/2018 20:17

Oddly enough my DD has stated that reverse physiology works better - so the less I nag the more she will do Hmm. Let's see how the next month goes (has wiped the word revision out of my vocabulary).

Sostenueto · 13/02/2018 20:27

Yes teenmum my dgd tried to pull wool over my eyes by saying stop nagging then I will do it. I counted 6 flying pigs over the weekend! Grin

drummersmum · 13/02/2018 21:27

oddsocks how upsetting for you. Remember it's just nature calling Flowers

Stickerrocks · 13/02/2018 21:32

DD has the black version.

Oddsocks our house has been a mass of hormones today, full of teenage girls winding each other up. Luckily I was at work or every tiff would probably have been my fault too.

GCSEs 2018 (3)
Oddsocks15 · 13/02/2018 22:41

Thank you so much everyone, really appreciate it.

Yes my menopause and her hormones clashing in this house too.

Sostenueto · 14/02/2018 04:51

Beautiful dress! Sticker rocks! They are all going to look wonderful!

BlueBelle123 · 14/02/2018 07:23

Oddsocks having gone through it with my DD it does get better she will come out the other side.............infact DD's new year's resolution was not to be soo moody(progress she now realisesGrin at times what a delight she can be!)

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mmzz · 14/02/2018 07:25

@oddsocks15 I was wondering if to let your DD see the pain she inflicts on you? I know it's probably against the parental rule book but (remembering myself at 15), your DD perhaps thinks she doesn't have any impact on anyone else. That's both upsetting her and also what's allowing her to treat you so badly.
If she only sees you in attack/defense mode whenever she is behaving badly then she could be forgiven for thinking that to don't like her and are combative. Does she know you love her? Like really love her? At that age I thought my mother only loved me technically and was always ready to fight. Plus she said some horrible things in those fights that I took to be what she really thought (because she'd never try to take them back) and it drive me further away.

I can see from your posts that you want to be closer to your DD and to be able to help her, but I'm wondering if your DD knows that, because my 15 year old self thought that my mum didn't like me, was always watching what I did so she could have another go at me and generally wished I wasn't there taking up space when she had my younger siblings to look after. (ie if someone argues with you a lot you tend to believe that they don't like you)

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BlueBelle123 · 14/02/2018 07:30

Seeing all these stunning dresses on this thread, my DS is going to have to pull his finger out if he doesn't want to let the boys side down!! I can see I am going to have my work cut outHmm

BlueBelle123 · 14/02/2018 07:41

Oddsocks with my DD I suggested taking her to the doctors as she would get so angry and aggressive but she refused, my DN also suffered but would get very paranoid and melancholy she was put on the pill and it totally transformed her, there will also be herbal remedies that might ease the symptoms.

Teenmum60 · 14/02/2018 08:39

Loving all the dresses- hopefully dD will have her dress today too..looking forward to sometime out ..

mmzz totally relate to your post - I think that was how my dd was feeling - its not until you take a step back that you realise ...she had been working reasonably hard at school this year - but when the teachers stated she had so much more potential if she focused and made the effort that this is what I focused on - although I did say well done when we had melt down I explained that I was scared of saying she was doing well in case she turned off and didnt put in the extra effort to reach some of her potential. Its showing love by caring but its caring they cant see because it feels like criticising and the work they have put in is not rewarded.

I tried explaining to DD that feeling good is in many respects can be about praise and by setting little goals and achieving those goals makes us feel good which in turn builds self esteem. Dd in some respects is surrounded by either very wealthy girls or high achieving girls (academic/sport/art/music) and it appears that both of these factors has a negative affect.

Its so tough being a teen and also being a parent of a teen through these years.

Oddsocks15 · 14/02/2018 08:48

mmzz teenmum and Bluebelle

Just a quick check in message as I’m off to take DD to orthodontist. Will have chat to her in the car about how much I love her and am proud of her. Your message did ring true mmzz

Asked DD about going to the Drs a few weeks back about the possibility of going on the pill... gulp... she threw that back at me, but yesterday after she finished screaming at me asked me to make an appointment... haven’t been able to get through to Dr yet though..

Will check back in later when I’m home from orthodontist then work.

JufusMum · 14/02/2018 10:06

Sending love to all DC's having meltdowns, our was last week (one on Monday, one on Wednesday). This week I'm in work so nagging DD by text about revision. Apparently she did some drama and science yesterday, her English tutor came over for an hour and she made us some lovely heart shaped chocolate biscuits (very thoughtful...she can be sometimes!).

Today is apparently online geography and science - and delivering some leaflets for our local estate agent to earn some pennies. She has not yet done any socialising and no plans to this week except some dog sitting for my friend on Friday, taking revision with her.

LooseAtTheSeams · 14/02/2018 10:54

Smile drummers
I'm not surprised there are meltdowns. DS1 is coping by not getting up early and going to bed late, which isn't ideal but he seems ok. He did maths yesterday and that was it. I've suggested music revision today as the least horrible option...

firstboard · 14/02/2018 15:49

Is there any thread for GCSE 2019? DS is in Year 9 and about to choose his subjects.

TheSecondOfHerName · 14/02/2018 15:54

firstboard if he's in Y9, won't he be sitting his GCSEs in 2020? I have two children in Y9; I expect there'll be a thread when they start Y11.

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mmzz · 14/02/2018 16:02

@firstboard I've a Ds in Y11 who is about to sit his GCSEs and another in Yr 9 who is about to pick his GCSEs for first study in September 2018.
From experience, nothing much happens in year 10. They get put into sets at the start of year 10 and that's pretty much all there is to say until year 11.
Wait until September or October 2019, then start a thread called GCSEs 2020, and I'll be there.

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firstboard · 14/02/2018 16:09

@thesecond... - Yes, I made a typo, it should be 2020.

mmzz - Thanks for your reply. I will relax and keep reading this thread for some pointers. I am not much of a Thread starter, I will join when I see one.

TheSecondOfHerName · 14/02/2018 16:11

Wait until September or October 2019, then start a thread called GCSEs 2020, and I'll be there.

Me too

TheSecondOfHerName · 14/02/2018 17:14

In the summer of 2020, I'll have two doing GCSEs and one doing A-levels, so any support will be very welcome.